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Future step daughter is disrespectful to me, how do I deal?

  • Posted on April 8, 2011 at 4:17 am

I’d like to hear from step daughters mostly as to how I can make things better. I’m willing to do whatever it takes but I’m at my whits end and stressed to the max. I’m sure my future step daughter is feeling an equal amount of stress based on her actions. Here are the facts. I’m 31, my FH is 44 and my FSD is 25. My husband and his Ex divorced about 13 years ago. He raised his daughter by himself and she doesn’t have a good bond with her mother so her father says. FSD is married and has a 3 month old son. Her father and I got engaged about 3 months ago and it’s been total drama ever since. She will not speak to me when I greet her or say bye. She complains about the food I cook for parties stating she doesn’t eat Mayo, which is a lie. At her brothers wedding she told her father I couldn’t sit with him because we weren’t married. Although her grandfathers live-in GF was seated with him and honored with a corsage. She insisted her father gets a prenup (which I will gladly sign) but I’m not certain that’s her business. Her father confronted her about her rudeness and not speaking. She told him she didn’t even realize I was saying hey to her (he’s seen it happen first hand). I FEEL like I’ve been more than nice to her and her family. I cancelled a vacation we had planned because I feared we would miss the birth of her son. I attended her baby showers (which were for family and I’m surprised I was invited as family but excluded from the wedding for not being family). I bought her son a babies first christmas ornament and included his picture from minutes after he was born and gave it to her the same day he was born. (yep that took a little juggling to do but I thought it was a nice gesture). I made her husband and her a movie basket for Christmas with movie rental gift card and tons of goodies to munch on while they were at home with the new baby. Didn’t even get a thank you. Bought her baby a little valentines treat, okay he can’t eat but I bought burp clothes, etc. Didn’t even get a thank you. Volunteered for her dad and I to babysit on Valentines night so she and her husband could enjoy a romantic dinner out. She declined and didn’t even say thanks for the thought. She says that her dad doesn’t NEED her anymore. However neither one of them make an attempt to be around the other when I’m not there. My fiance doesn’t work on Fridays, I do, and his daughter doesn’t work. I’ve suggested that he take her to lunch or breakfast every Friday but he just says that’s a good idea and nothing happens. I’ve suggested that maybe she could cook him dinner one evening, we don’t live together so she could have his undivided attention any evening. Her father does not like her husband because he is supposedly an alcoholic and drug addict that didn’t complete rehab. I’m not sure about this, he SEEMS like a wonderful father and husband. However my fiance is not as polite and welcoming to his son-in-law as he could be. I’ve explained that this is a two way street and that he must treat her husband with respect if he expects her to treat me with respect. My fiance has tried to talk to his daughter but things aren’t getting any better, possibly worse even. My parents are not divorced so I can not begin to understand how my FSD feels from that standpoint. And I do understand how she feels regarding the prenup, etc. She has every right to feel that way but she should still treat me with respect IMO. Please offer any advice you can, I have always wanted a big family and so very much want this to work out.

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RUMORS!!! What have you heard about the future mother in law of Palin’s daugter?

  • Posted on November 2, 2010 at 11:21 am

She was arrested in connection to a prescription drug, oxycontin.

http://www.google.com/hostednews/ap/article/ALeqM5hR4UTSCTAK37YLQG9AtmTFk0CybQD9565ST00

Yet I have already heard the woman was a “crack whoar” (actual misspelling) and that she was “running a meth lab.”

There have already been joked that if Bristol has a girl, they should name her Crystal (as in meth)

And why should we care about the arrest of the mother of the boyfriend of the daughter of the running mate of the Republican candidate for president?

SO What is the most outlandish thing you heard!?

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And I know there were some crazy things said about Obama as well. I am NOT trying to say the liberals are the only ones guilty of such rumors. I know it happens on both sides.
BlahBlahBlah – That is how rumors go.
Obama & Bush both have some drug history, with the emphasis on the word ‘history.’ I doubt if either has done drugs in many, many years.
doughboy – I am against rumors. If you look at my history, you will find I also speak out against the “fake birth certificate” rumors. I voted against Obama but defended him agianst the rumors.
Huffington Post???

Check my most link. This is the most recent & most official report.
And it is from the Associated Press.
Mary Alice – the Anchorage Article doesn’t say anything about what kind of drug, much less Meth, nothing about any lab & nothing about any kind of whoring.

And if you look at the article I linked you to, it states that the arrest was in connected to Oxycontin, a prescription drug.

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What to think, what to do regarding living with future in-laws!!?

  • Posted on October 16, 2010 at 4:33 pm

I have been living with my boyfriend of 5 years for the past 4 years of our relationship. Now that we’re engaged and marriage is looming in the next year or two, I’ve had a hard time coming to grips of our living situation. I basically goes down like this:

My fiance and his twin brother own the house they currently live in. It’s a mother-daughter type house were the first floor’s a separate apartment from the 2nd and 3rd floor. And while the house is quite comfortable and spacious, it isn’t occupied only by my fiancee and brother. Their parents live there as well. Since the father’s an alcoholic and the mother’s a housewife, they’re pretty much financially dependent on my fiance and his brother. His parents have a house of their own in Mexico (where they’re from) but have no desire to live there full-time. So they’re living with them full-time here in New York. Since I’ve gone this far (4 years) of living with them and haven’t ripped my hair out, I figure I can live in peace with them. For the most part they’re very helpful around the house. The mother cooks everyday, the father takes care of the up-keep of the house (his alcoholism isn’t as severe as in the past) and they’ve never EVER disrespected me. They’re very friendly and cordial. However the only thing that rubs me the wrong way sometimes is the lack of independence and privacy I feel whenever I want to be with my fiance.

Many times they depend on my fiance or his brother to drive them places (they can’t afford their own car), sometimes invade our privacy and other minor things that can be annoying. And while these things are minor, they can build up and I’m just not sure if this situation is going to continually be a good one. The main factor that’s stopping my fiancee and I from getting our own place is the economy. It’s nearly impossible to get approved for a home mortgage and unless I magically hit the lottery, we’ll be living like this for a few more years.

Sorry this question is more like a long monologue, but I just really need some insight as to what I should be feeling about things. I am madly in love with my fiance and KNOW that I want to spend the rest of my life with him. It’s just unfortunate that due to circumstances that are out of our power to change, are keeping things on edge.

What would you do in my situation? Any feedback would be much appreciated!

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RUMORS!!! What have you heard about the future mother in law of Palin’s daugter?

  • Posted on September 11, 2010 at 5:23 am

She was arrested in connection to a prescription drug, oxycontin.

http://www.google.com/hostednews/ap/article/ALeqM5hR4UTSCTAK37YLQG9AtmTFk0CybQD9565ST00

Yet I have already heard the woman was a “crack whoar” (actual misspelling) and that she was “running a meth lab.”

There have already been joked that if Bristol has a girl, they should name her Crystal (as in meth)

And why should we care about the arrest of the mother of the boyfriend of the daughter of the running mate of the Republican candidate for president?

SO What is the most outlandish thing you heard!?

- – -

And I know there were some crazy things said about Obama as well. I am NOT trying to say the liberals are the only ones guilty of such rumors. I know it happens on both sides.
BlahBlahBlah – That is how rumors go.
Obama & Bush both have some drug history, with the emphasis on the word ‘history.’ I doubt if either has done drugs in many, many years.
doughboy – I am against rumors. If you look at my history, you will find I also speak out against the “fake birth certificate” rumors. I voted against Obama but defended him agianst the rumors.
Huffington Post???

Check my most link. This is the most recent & most official report.
And it is from the Associated Press.
Mary Alice – the Anchorage Article doesn’t say anything about what kind of drug, much less Meth, nothing about any lab & nothing about any kind of whoring.

And if you look at the article I linked you to, it states that the arrest was in connected to Oxycontin, a prescription drug.

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Was the future mother-in-law of Palin’s daughter just arrested on METH charges?

  • Posted on July 25, 2010 at 2:00 pm

I have no idea if it is true or not

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