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getting ready to marry but family doesnt agree?

  • Posted on May 2, 2011 at 1:21 am

well from the beginning i have been dating this girl off and on she is the love of my life and she loves me the same we have found new understanding in our relationship when we got back together i found out she was prego and then found out it wasnt mine i agreed to stay with her and call the baby my own her mother and family saw it different they have never met me but feel that she shouldnt be with me i never did anything to provoke them into that way of thought but instead took her daughter in when they were mistreating her at home… her mother told her not to bring me home for the holidays cus it would ruin her christmas and now her mother is calling my mother telling her all sorts of lie like im doing heroin and selling which i never touched in my life and telling my fiance that my mother said that my life was alot better with out her which is also a lie, keep in mind too that my mother is a ordain minister who has no reason to lie and her mother is a more worldly person, thanks
my mother is also diagnosed with cancer and is getting worse it seems and understand that her family is in ohio and im in arizona…. i am very happy with her im not pathetic and dont have any problems picking up women but i feel i can have a very happy life with this one just by the way we connect… her mother is very childish when i brought her back out here her mother threatend to take all her vicodin and slit her wrist it was so frustrating for the both of us, she has told her family to back off and does stick up for me… her mother wants her back with her ex, which isnt going to happen for one he’s an ugly redneck and didnt treat he with the respect and dignity a women deserves because she isnt a child anymore and i try to tell her that to build confidence im just so confused with the situation im almost in tears in thoughts of her family breaking us apart…. how should i feel, say, think i dunno please help me!

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I started working at a lingerie bar and I keep getting bad rashes!!!?

  • Posted on April 24, 2011 at 5:23 pm

I’m not a stripper. I just dress in lingerie and walk around and give guys lap dances. I don’t take anything off. Shortly after I started doing this I started getting really itchy on my butt and thighs. It eventually turned into a rash and I had to go to the doctor and get antibiotics for it. This has happened to me twice. The second time it was so bad that I was prescribed vicodin for the pain and was told that I may have to have surgery to drain the puss out of one of my bumps. Although it wasn’t necessary, I am scared of going back to work becauase it may happen again, BUT I REALLY NEED THE MONEY!! Without it I wouln’t be able to afford all of my bills. I only make $1800 a month from my regular job and that barely covers rent and day care. I don’t qualify for public aid. So my question is…. HOW DO I STOP GETTING RASHES??? I assume it’s from rubbing against these guys. Please don’t be mean I’m seriously struggling to take care of my daughter. I tried waitressing, but I didn’t make enough. This is working because I only have to do it one night a week and make an extra $400 for 4 hours.

Okay, please don’t judge me. I’m a single mom of a 3 year old and I recently split up with my boyfriend. He does not help with anything and I cannot afford my bills on my own. I’ve taken him to court but nothing ever happens. He’s a heroin addict and doesn’t have a job.
The doctor said that it was some kind of infection. I just told her that I didn’t know how it happened. She said that it could be a bug bite, change in laundry detergent, etc.

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Getting a divorce and need some financial advice?

  • Posted on April 20, 2011 at 8:20 pm

He is cheating on me with a meth addict. We have a young daughter.

I have him nailed to the wall. BUT!!!

I’m the stay at home mom who never had anything in her name, no credit, no job…nothing.

He is fixing to file. If I beat him to the punch, I come off better.

I can’t afford to pay the startup attorney fees.

I will be starting a job soon, but not soon enough.

He has taken all things of value out of the home minus a few odds and ends that, when pawned/sold, would bring about $600-$800 *IF* I’m lucky.

I need $2000 for the attorney and $1000 for the private investigator. How does one go about doing this?

There is no one I can borrow from. I have no collateral. Nothing.

There’s no hope for me, is there??? :(

I will answer any questions and add info where necessary, so please check back in and try to help me.
I tried legal aide and they said they are too busy to take my case but could help me in a couple of months. We are in a small town and he has the best lawyer on retainer, but hasn’t filed for separation or anything.

I have no solid proof because his friends and family are helping hide what he is doing.

He was born and raised here and knows everyone.

The only lawyer I could find within a reasonable distance says he needs a start up fee and that my ex would have to pay the rest.

He can guarantee that.

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What is the best way to beat the living crap out of someone without getting arrested/convicted?

  • Posted on April 6, 2011 at 11:20 am

A 40 year old woman has been harassing my 15 year old daughter for a year now. It started because my daughter told her daughter to leave my daughter’s friend alone after the other woman’s daughter tried to push meth on her. For months, it was just the daughter make calls and empty threats and then she just let it die. The mother, however, has just gotten worse and worse. She has chased a truck my daughter was in with another ADULT (she has some nerve), calls her awful names every time she sees her and then last night, she kicked my daughter’s knee that she just had surgery on 3 weeks ago (she has a huge brace on so the woman knew which one was injured) and threatened to “take out the other knee” if she went to the parking lot. And this was at a school carnival! The school can’t keep her away because she has a child there and the restraining order can’t keep her off school grounds. And I’ll damned if my daughter is going to have to go to school in fear of her…
She’s nothing but a dried up druggie and she’s been in and out of jail her whole life. Of course, I filed a report with the sheriff’s office and I’m going to file charges, but that won’t do any good. She’ll just turn around and be out again.

I’m a nurse and I having a felony or convictions involving harm to another person can make it hard to keep/renew it. Plus I’m a single mom and there is no one else to take care of my kids but me so I can’t do jail time. Now, I know this is not the best way to handle something normally, but it’s the only way I can see to get her to stop by letting her know that I’m not going to tolerate this crap. I’m a foot taller than her and probably 100 heavier, so I’m not worried about getting hurt. I’m just worried about going to jail. Lawyers, suggestions please!
I forgot to add that we live in a huge, BROKE, county and there is only one deputy on duty in the evening/nights to cover the entire county. Also the 2 small towns where I and the other woman live don’t have a police department. So police are pretty useless if you need one in a hurry in this area.
Barry, you have more issues than I do if you think anything you said was even close to right.

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When do you give your adult child a dead line on getting a job?

  • Posted on March 20, 2011 at 5:20 am

I have a 21 year old Step Daughter who has recently been in and out of jail. She is a meth user. We have gotten her a sponsor to help her, but she has only contacted her once. She is doing nothing to help herself by getting help or a job. She lays around the house and does not clean up after herself and rarely bathes. She also brings home not so trust worthing people and I have tried to talk to my husband about putting an end to it. And all he says if I don’t let her have her friends over she will leave. What do I do? When my son had a problem we sent him on his way. He has learned to get by and live with the mistakes he has made, but my husband finds it alot different because she is a female. Please help me.

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Is anyone a lawyer or know anything about getting full custody?

  • Posted on February 25, 2011 at 1:20 am

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ok so i was in a bad situation w/my daughter’s dad ever since i found out i was pregnant last may… i spent every single day curled up in a ball in a corner crying w/him in my face yelling at me, calling me every name in the book all day long…i finally got sick of it and promised my unborn baby they would never have to deal w/that so i left state to live w/my mom… a couple months went by and dude had got a job and all that and i didnt want to keep him from bein a dad, i guess i figured he’d change when i got an ultrasound n found out it was a girl. so i went back, the day i got there he lost his job and started doin drugs shortly after… [he got indicted on heroin charges last yr. and has some type of plea deal if he goes to NA and rehab and gets piss tested every week for however long theyll drop the charges... but the only reason he passes those piss tests is cuz its not his piss] but there’s a possibility he’s not the dad… i had the baby in december and everything was still the same the guy didnt change one bit and hasnt even bought anything for her, he’d rather buy cigs or pills than diapers or formula… well i finally got fed up w/being miserable… i am my daughters sole caregiver, he even bitched about taking time to feed her… but i get food stamps and he ate all my food a couple days ago and w/all this other stress that just set me off so i was like ”well who’s food u gonna eat when i leave” and he said ”***** u aint leavin, i got papers from a judge last week sayin if u leave, ill get full custody” well i dunno if thats the truth or not i never got notified of anything like that and doesnt he have to take a paternity test? well it pissed me off that he would threaten to take my baby away like that knowing that he has no way of supporting a baby let alone himself so i left state again… also he’s trying to have his mom claim my daughter on her taxes to get the money… what should i do? am i legally in the wrong for leaving state or not? is there any way he could possibly get custody? the only reason i put him on the birth certificate is cuz he was right there and i dunno what he wouldve done if i didnt put him on it… also, i caught him covering her head w/a blanket when she was crying and ive heard him yelling **** like”im gonna throw u in a trash can” and **** like that so before i did leave i wouldnt let him near her unless i was there… but i dunno whats going to happen im so worried…he doesnt have a job or have a GED, i mean all he does is sleep for 12-15hrs a day and be a total jerk… did i break any laws or anything
sorry its so long
we were never married and there was never a custody arrangement… everyone tells me because of that i didnt break the law in any way but i dunno what he’s gonna try to do when he finds out we left state

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Does My Alcoholic Ex-wife Have A Chance At Getting Custody? Hasn’t Seen Four Year Old Daughter In two years..?

  • Posted on February 15, 2011 at 9:23 pm

My ex-wife and i have a four year old daughter together. When she left our daughter was one and a half. She took our daughter with her at first, but brought her back after two weeks because ‘she couldn’t handle it.’

Over a period of about six months I tried letting my daughter have a relationship with her mother. At first we lived six hours apart so i would drop her off with her mother and plan to pick her up again in a month. Each time she would bring her back after about a week or two because, once again ‘she couldn’t handle it.’ After a few months she moved closer, so she was only an hour and a half away. I would bring our daughter to see her about every other weekend but would later find out that the whole time my wife had her, our daughter was with a babysitter the whole time, and my wife had been out drinking.(This was the case when she lived farther away too) Whenever I would call to check on her, my wife would sound wasted. I would hear from mutual friends and see on myspace that the whole time she was supposed to be spending time with our daughter, she was out at the bars and sleeping around instead. She didn’t deny it. Sometimes she would just not show up when it was her time to come get our daughter.

Also during this time she was using my car which i gave her money to make payments and buy gas so she could come visit and drive our daughter places. But of course she used the money for something else (going out to the bars) and i had to make the payments again myself.

Finally I told her that if she wanted to see our daughter, she would have to prove to me that she could handle it and would be responsible. I told her if she called every day for one month to check on our daughter i would let her see her again. She stopped calling after a few days.

Over the past two years she has called sporadically to tell me that her dog died, or to wish my family a merry Christmas, usually not even mentioning our daughter. She did call once after about a year to ask if her father could come visit our daughter, but i said no since she didn’t even know who he was, and because he had never bothered to see her before.

Our daughter now has no idea who her mother is, because she hasn’t seen her since before her second birthday.

When we were divorced my ex-wife didn’t show up to the custody hearing, and later signed a paper saying that i would have full custody, and she would be able to visit occasionally when we both agreed on it. She was supposed to be paying child support but hasn’t paid a penny.

My ex-wife is now pregnant with another child (mutual friends have told me she didn’t want to get pregnant in the first place, and that she is working at a bar, still going out to the bars drinking non-alcoholic beer so it looks like she is still partying, and didn’t tell anyone she was pregnant until really late into her pregnancy)and is suing me for FULL custody of our daughter. She is claiming that i violated our parenting plan by never letting her see our daughter and by not telling her when we moved into a new house. The only time she asked to see her was after she found out she was pregnant and i said no because she hadn’t called to talk to our daughter or asked to see her in two years, and our daughter doesn’t even know who she is. Everything in the papers she sent is complete LIES, saying that i never let her see our daughter and that she has been trying to. I have about seven character witnesses lined up to testify against her. They are all mutual friends, or her friends who she has screwed over. My brother, who must have been a reference or something, has gotten numerous phone calls from debt collectors and even the police a couple times looking for her.

We have met with our lawyers, and our lawyers have recently met with the judge to determine if she will throw the case out, or if she wants to take it to court. I have been waiting a week and haven’t heard anything. What are her chances of her actually winning full custody, or any custody at all? Our daughter doesn’t even know who she is.

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i need help with my daughters father. Is there any hope of him getting it together if hes hooked on Meth?

  • Posted on February 9, 2011 at 9:20 pm
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What should I do? My husband is an alcoholic and in the past three months he is getting worse he now has taken

  • Posted on January 12, 2011 at 10:17 pm

up smoking pot. He has not wanted me to work for some time. I work two days a week every other week. I have had enough he was drunk on Christmas when we had family here and had to keep running to go get high. He even let his son drink here. I blew up. This man is 47 years old and he acts like he is 16. He goes to work and performs his job. He just can not be a father or a husband. He goes out every free moment he has from work. He dose not do one thing around the house. With the house or car and truck. He has two boys they are 16 & 18 he dose not spend any real time with them. I have a daughter she is 22 and pregnant and she said she will not come here again after the baby is born. She said she just won’t take the risk. I can’t blame her. I just don’t know how things have gotten so bad. I can not stand living this way I feel all alone. I have asked him to go get counseling for himself and us. He said he has no problem. I don’t fit into his plan in life. I don’t want to spend every night in the bar. I am waiting for my daughter to have the baby and then I plan on getting two jobs and get out of here. Am I wrong to do this? I just can’t take it anymore. Someone please help me what should I do?
My daughter lives in NY with her boyfriend. I live in PA. My daughter dose not want to take the chance of loosing her child while she is here because of his drug use and him involving all of us with him serving his oldest son drinks.My daughters boyfriend all so feels the same way he is fed up.

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What risk do I have of getting MS?

  • Posted on December 23, 2010 at 4:33 pm

I am a (apparently) healthy 28 year old female. I never really knew my father’s family very well but learned today for the first time that my father’s sister has MS, and so did my grandmother (father’s mother). To create a stranger twist, my first cousin (aunt’s only daughter) has Lupus, as well as some other auto-immune diseases. This has all scared me, as you can understand, and I have been online tonight trying to do some research on whether I need to be afraid for my future or not. My father did not have MS but then again I know it is not as common in men. I wonder if I should be as concerned about a parents’sibling having the disease as much as I would be concerned if my own parent did??
I would love ANY opinions out there from anyone that has experience with this, but particularly from any MD’s or experts of any sort that may see this.
Also, I might add that, although this may be trivial, both my aunt and her mother were at one point very heavy drinkers and were treated for alcoholism. Any connection?? My father’s family in general has always abused themselves and been very unhealthy.
I appreciate any answers.

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