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I need to file custody papers for my daughter.. how can I go about getting sole custody for minimal cost?

  • Posted on December 15, 2010 at 1:23 pm

My daughter’s father and I broke up almost 3 years ago. We tried to do a joint custody thing but the law firm we went through went under before the papers were filed and now there is nothing legally declaring that she lives with me only. Since we split, he’s been on a downward spiral. He has been in and out of the psych ward at the hospital. I’ve had to call 911 during suicide attempts and have walked in on him shooting up cocaine. He went to rehab and was better for about a month, got a REALLY good job making 50 to 70 thousand a year (talk about second chances). He relapsed, quit his job and moved back to Texas (which is where my daughter and I live) supposedly to go back to rehab. He’s been here for a couple of days but is again doing drugs. He has no address to serve papers to and I have no idea where he is. I know I can put an ad in the newspaper to make him aware of the impending custody arrangements.. can anyone give me a step by step guide on how to do all this? I really need all this taken care of as soon as possible. It would be greatly appreciated.
no no.. my daughter lives with me. There’s just no legal document cementing that as the only place she lives. He has not seen her in over 3 months and has no place of residence. I’m just asking what the steps are to get the papers filed and get sole custody.
her father and I were never married

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Is this normal behavior of my toddler after getting over stomach flu?

  • Posted on November 20, 2010 at 7:24 pm

my 20-mon-old daughter had the stomach flu on saturday through about yesterday (tuesday). She vomited 6-7 times on saturday, a milky, liquidy texture, and didn’t eat or drink anything besides breast milk on sunday. on mon she had some regular milk and water (since that’s all she would drink0 and a popsicle. I tried giving her pedialyte freezewr pops, and pedialyte liquid, but she kept refusing. I offered the pedialyte and also other drinks like juice etc. on Tuesday in both bottles and sippy cups and open cups but she just refused no matter what.thankfully i still nurse her, bc that’s what kept her hydrated but I know my supply is low b/c I don’t do it as much as I used to and suddenly she wanted to do it again like a newborn.
Is it normal that she’s regressed? She has no appetite still even though she hasn’t vomited since mon morning. All she will eat for sure is the fruit-flavored cheerios with or without milk, and to drink for sure is my milk, or cow milk in a bottle. Sometimes she will drink water from a sippy cup but that’s it. I was overjoyed when today I got her to drink 3 oz of apple juice which put her to sleep. But I had to change the bottle it was in to her “favorite” bottle.
So my question is, is it normal for her to still not want to eat almost nothing, and to mainly just want breastmilk or cow milk again? Is it normal for her to suddenly have become turned off from the sippy cup, and from non-milk liquids? Is it normal for a toddler to not drink pedialyte when sick from a bottle or cup, or popsicle form, and act like it’s poison? (she’s never needed it before). And how will in the future i get her to drink that stuff if she gets sick like this again? I dread her getting vomiting and diahrreah again but worse and when I’m no longer nursing. Maybe when they’re older they are easier to reason with?
Yesterday btw all she had was dry colored/fruit-flavored cheerios, pieces of an apple, 2 bites of a baked potato, and a 1/3 cup of applesauce. Today she had next to nothing: a bowl of fruit cheerios w/milk, parts of an apple she nibbled at, and 4 french fries. Refused the yogurt i offered her. Also she is sleeping more. she still has periods of alertness and playfulness and her old self. I just want to know from other moms is this normal considering she’s getting over the stomach flu?
I caught the sickness too and 2 days later still feel weak for the record and a lack of appetite, but I’m not particularly tired like she is.
i already took her to the doctor—this was mon. all they told me was what I already knew.

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oh yeah and she has already lost 1 pound

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What are my chances of getting back with my ex in this strange situation?

  • Posted on October 9, 2010 at 12:17 pm

I am newly divorced (it was final in March). It was due in part to my binge drinking and in part to her passive aggressive personality. There are 2 more months left where we can still have the divorce overturned and cancelled. I was the one who filed for the divorce and we never really tried counseling or anything like that.

I have since gotten help and quit drinking and have started to improve myself. My ex also realizes she has a passive aggressive personality and is trying to correct it. We have been seeing each other about once every 2 weeks for the past few months and I know that I still love her and that I want her back.

I see genuine happiness in her when we are together, but when I asked about reforming a relationship she got nervous and said she still loves me and still has feelings for me but she doesn’t know and she would let me know if she decides that there is no hope for us, but she doesn’t want to lead me on either and she thinks we should both see other people in addition to seeing one another although she only wants to get together once every 2 weeks. She says she wants to just be friends for now, although we are having sex so to me that fits the definition of an open relationship. And lastly she has said she’s not ready for couples counseling because that would be a commitment that she is willing to try to make it work and she’s still not sure?

What should I do- how should I be handling this and do I have any chance of re-establishing a real relationship with her? We have a 2 yr old daughter together as well who lives with each of us 1/2 of the time. My thoughts are consumed with her 24×7 and this is killing me, although I am doing as best I can to play it cool with her and respect the every 2 week thing.
She does “sort of” have someone else- she moved into a side by side a little less than a month ago and there is something going on with the guy who lives on the other side of the unit. She has told me that I am “way better looking than him” and that they’re not really dating but have kissed in the garage before and he is fixing her vehicles and doing stuff for her. Do I sit back and wait for that to run it’s course or what should I do?

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How can I keep a mother from getting her kids she abused back?

  • Posted on October 5, 2010 at 10:20 am

My cousin called my Mom last May (the 19th) and asked her to take her 2 small children. She just showed up today, almost a year later with cops and her “lawyer” to get her kids. She had called my Mom because she was arrested in a meth lab with her 2 month old and she thought OCS was going to take them from her. My Mom had her sign a paper granting temperary custody, not to exceed 6 months, just long enough to go through her court appointed rehab. Well, she went once, but never completed it. She is now 7 months pregnant with another baby and still on crystal meth. When we got her 4 year old son, he was malnurished and had 4 abcessed teeth that my Mom had removed by a dentist. Her 8 month old daughter could not sit up and weighed more than her brother. Their “egg donor” had been feeding her bottles just to keep her quiet while she got high and then slept it off. Our family is devastated. Is there anything legal that can be done besides calling OCS to watch her like a hawk? Please Pray!

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My ex wife was driving with our daughter and got a dui. What are my chances of getting full custody of her?

  • Posted on October 2, 2010 at 7:22 am

My ex wife was pulled over while taking our 5 year old child to school for a dui here in california. Her bac was .381 5 times the legal limit. She also had an open container in the vehicle and was charged with I believe felony child endangerment. She has had to go thru a drinking/ drug program when we got divorced in order to get 50/50 custody of our child. She did and now this. She has proven she is inadiquate to be a good mother and I want to get full custody of my daughter and all parental rights. What are my chances?

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Is any one else here a good son/ daughter yet keep getting put down?

  • Posted on September 18, 2010 at 1:23 pm

So I won’t explain my whole story, but basically I’m a good kid. I don’t smoke, drink, do rather good in school, have realistic dreams, have a basic plan for my future and try to be the best 18 yo I can be…

Yet nothing is ever good for my parents. Everything can be fine for a week and then BAM I forget to take the trash out. And it’s like the freaking world has ended. I get threaten about being kicked out, my dad stops doing my laundry (yet we don’t have a dryer/washer at home and I don’t drive..) and my mom totally ignores me.

I get the same 10 minute speech every time about how things keep piling up (that I don’t do) and how I only have so little to do around the house yet can’t manage to do them.

I experience some depression around this time (SAD) and the whole going/not going to college thing is also taking a toll on me. I work daily for 7/8 hours, weekends & train for cycling almost every day. I get no support from my parents for that when I have a chance at actually going somewhere with it.

Do you think I’m just a disrespectful kid who can’t get his sh!t together and has random mood swings everyday, or are my parent being too hard on me? I try talking to them but I’m always wrong, their right and it always end with the same freakin speech.

I have a problem apologizing (for all the small crap I do) because I heard them a few times talking about it and how pathetic I sounded, so it comes really hard to do it.

Sorry for ranting, Yahoo please don’t take this down for “chatting” because there are some questions in there. You don’t have to answer this really.. I’ll just take it down in a few minutes lol.

sigh
See I’ve tried “doing everything right” I tried being f***ing perfect for them and ended up missing one thing or forgetting something and then it all went down the drain so I gave up. I don’t even get a thankyou yet get reprimanded much more harshly then is necessary (by any ones standards)

Moving out is not an option because Insurace/ cycling is eating up my money, and with the possibility I will have to fork another 10k a year for college it seems impossible to get an apartment here in nyc.

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Are G.W. daughters still getting drunk and slutting around?

  • Posted on September 5, 2010 at 5:23 pm

Is Jeb’s daughter still robbing pharmacies for drugs?
Has G.W.’s wife killed anybody else while drinking and driving since the last time? We never hear about the familiy anymore.

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i’m a young mother getting stressed out from other family members’ issues?

  • Posted on September 1, 2010 at 12:17 pm

My brtoher, my only brother and sibling (no sisters), got married at 23 going on 24. so for him, kinda youngish. also he had just got out of college, it wasn’t the right time really. well a year later he developed a bad habit of binge drinking, which got him 3 dui’s in the same year, 4 emergency hospitalizations bc he drank rubbing alcohol after running out of regular alcohol, and several times in rehab. his wife got pregannt about 2 months b4 i did, and about 5 months into her pregnancy, he stopped his binge drinking and seemed to have changed. well 2 months after their daughter was born, he was back to it again. his daughter, now 6 months, has wound up getting hrut from it. the day afetr ym baby who si now 3 months was born, his wife claims that he had tried to kill their daughter by trying to choke her—she told my father this and I found out through the grapevine—in a drunken rage when she was crying. then, just a week ago, in one of his drunken states, he held her and she fell, with him, and had bruises on her body so she had to be examined. that was when his wife made him go to our aprents’ hosue and he stayed for an week. well hes back there again, and he got drunk again, with the baby with him alone. my sil went to work tonight, and she called my parents and said she was frantic that he was doing something to their daughter or neglecting her. I felt bad for her, but couldnt help but wonder why if she was worried about the very life of her daughter, she didn’t just leave work? she claims she would get fired bc she was the only one there 9it’s a store in the mall0 but is anything worth more than your daughter/ I told her this and got her to leave work. But I am still in a state of shock over my brother whom Ive never known to be a ‘bad’ or violent person. I am terribly worried about my niece and something happening to her, and also him, bc of his drinking. I also feel bad for his wife and my parents, bc his wife always calls them almost every time he “acts up” (b4 their daughter was born too), which in a way is not fair to my parents bc they’re older and hes a grown man, 28 years old. anyhow, how can I help my brother?
i have a 3-month-old myself and am afraid to even leave her in the same room alone with him for a min now. (when eh comes over and I’m there with her). I am also wondering if I should offer to watch their daughter for a few days/ (her parents already have their hands full with her siblings)?
also, I know this is babys ection, but I posted this in family as well, but I wanted to psot here bc it does involve some aspects of aprenting. also bc I’m stressed otu for ym brother, and terrified of soemthing happenign to him or my niece, and feeling bad for his wife, and also my parents, bc he is their only son, how can I not let this affect my parenting/ bc also my parents were partly my support system, and now I have almost no support system, bc they are now trying to focus their energy on helping him, which I think si what is necessary, but its also scary for me
is there any1 at all who can give me some advice? also, any1 else who has similar issues with their family that is also a new parent?

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i’m a young mother getting stressed out from other family members’ issues?

  • Posted on August 31, 2010 at 5:17 pm

My brtoher, my only brother and sibling (no sisters), got married at 23 going on 24. so for him, kinda youngish. also he had just got out of college, it wasn’t the right time really. well a year later he developed a bad habit of binge drinking, which got him 3 dui’s in the same year, 4 emergency hospitalizations bc he drank rubbing alcohol after running out of regular alcohol, and several times in rehab. his wife got pregannt about 2 months b4 i did, and about 5 months into her pregnancy, he stopped his binge drinking and seemed to have changed. well 2 months after their daughter was born, he was back to it again. his daughter, now 6 months, has wound up getting hrut from it. the day afetr ym baby who si now 3 months was born, his wife claims that he had tried to kill their daughter by trying to choke her—she told my father this and I found out through the grapevine—in a drunken rage when she was crying. then, just a week ago, in one of his drunken states, he held her and she fell, with him, and had bruises on her body so she had to be examined. that was when his wife made him go to our aprents’ hosue and he stayed for an week. well hes back there again, and he got drunk again, with the baby with him alone. my sil went to work tonight, and she called my parents and said she was frantic that he was doing something to their daughter or neglecting her. I felt bad for her, but couldnt help but wonder why if she was worried about the very life of her daughter, she didn’t just leave work? she claims she would get fired bc she was the only one there 9it’s a store in the mall0 but is anything worth more than your daughter/ I told her this and got her to leave work. But I am still in a state of shock over my brother whom Ive never known to be a ‘bad’ or violent person. I am terribly worried about my niece and something happening to her, and also him, bc of his drinking. I also feel bad for his wife and my parents, bc his wife always calls them almost every time he “acts up” (b4 their daughter was born too), which in a way is not fair to my parents bc they’re older and hes a grown man, 28 years old. anyhow, how can I help my brother?
i have a 3-month-old myself and am afraid to even leave her in the same room alone with him for a min now. (when eh comes over and I’m there with her). I am also wondering if I should offer to watch their daughter for a few days/ (her parents already have their hands full with her siblings)?
also, I know this is babys ection, but I posted this in family as well, but I wanted to psot here bc it does involve some aspects of aprenting. also bc I’m stressed otu for ym brother, and terrified of soemthing happenign to him or my niece, and feeling bad for his wife, and also my parents, bc he is their only son, how can I not let this affect my parenting/ bc also my parents were partly my support system, and now I have almost no support system, bc they are now trying to focus their energy on helping him, which I think si what is necessary, but its also scary for me
is there any1 at all who can give me some advice? also, any1 else who has similar issues with their family that is also a new parent?

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i’m a young mother getting stressed out from other family members’ issues?

  • Posted on August 30, 2010 at 10:18 pm

My brtoher, my only brother and sibling (no sisters), got married at 23 going on 24. so for him, kinda youngish. also he had just got out of college, it wasn’t the right time really. well a year later he developed a bad habit of binge drinking, which got him 3 dui’s in the same year, 4 emergency hospitalizations bc he drank rubbing alcohol after running out of regular alcohol, and several times in rehab. his wife got pregannt about 2 months b4 i did, and about 5 months into her pregnancy, he stopped his binge drinking and seemed to have changed. well 2 months after their daughter was born, he was back to it again. his daughter, now 6 months, has wound up getting hrut from it. the day afetr ym baby who si now 3 months was born, his wife claims that he had tried to kill their daughter by trying to choke her—she told my father this and I found out through the grapevine—in a drunken rage when she was crying. then, just a week ago, in one of his drunken states, he held her and she fell, with him, and had bruises on her body so she had to be examined. that was when his wife made him go to our aprents’ hosue and he stayed for an week. well hes back there again, and he got drunk again, with the baby with him alone. my sil went to work tonight, and she called my parents and said she was frantic that he was doing something to their daughter or neglecting her. I felt bad for her, but couldnt help but wonder why if she was worried about the very life of her daughter, she didn’t just leave work? she claims she would get fired bc she was the only one there 9it’s a store in the mall0 but is anything worth more than your daughter/ I told her this and got her to leave work. But I am still in a state of shock over my brother whom Ive never known to be a ‘bad’ or violent person. I am terribly worried about my niece and something happening to her, and also him, bc of his drinking. I also feel bad for his wife and my parents, bc his wife always calls them almost every time he “acts up” (b4 their daughter was born too), which in a way is not fair to my parents bc they’re older and hes a grown man, 28 years old. anyhow, how can I help my brother?
i have a 3-month-old myself and am afraid to even leave her in the same room alone with him for a min now. (when eh comes over and I’m there with her). I am also wondering if I should offer to watch their daughter for a few days/ (her parents already have their hands full with her siblings)?
also, I know this is babys ection, but I posted this in family as well, but I wanted to psot here bc it does involve some aspects of aprenting. also bc I’m stressed otu for ym brother, and terrified of soemthing happenign to him or my niece, and feeling bad for his wife, and also my parents, bc he is their only son, how can I not let this affect my parenting/ bc also my parents were partly my support system, and now I have almost no support system, bc they are now trying to focus their energy on helping him, which I think si what is necessary, but its also scary for me
is there any1 at all who can give me some advice? also, any1 else who has similar issues with their family that is also a new parent?

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