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What would convince you to allow your 16 year old daughter spend the night with boys and girls?

  • Posted on February 27, 2011 at 7:22 pm

Ok, so I will be a junior in high school next year, and my friends throw parties with alcohol. To avoid drinking and driving, people just bring sleeping bags and spend the night wherever the party was hosted.
So, my parents are fine with me drinking alcohol, but they arn’t okay with me spending the night with guys. They are afraid something bad will happen.
But nothing bad does happen. First of all, I would never do anything like that. And second, the guys, besides drinking and occasionally street-racing, are good guys, and none of them would try something.
I try to point this out to my parents, but they are just like well you may thing they won’t, but we don’t know that.
I don’t like lying to my parents, so what could I do to change their minds?

Also, please, if you arn’t going to answer the question I asked, don’t bother answering. I will just ignore “you should wait until you’re older to drink” type responses.
And don’t assume things about me and my parents. My parents are amazing, even if they are stricter than I wish sometimes. And I am a good person even if I do drink occasionally. I have all As or A-s in school, and my teachers like me. I’m not the stereotypical “bad kid” image that people sometimes think of with underage drinking.

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My daughter OBSESSES with girls?

  • Posted on November 15, 2010 at 1:21 am

My daughter is a freshmen and I have asked questions about her strange habits on here before. Everyone pretty much said she’d grow out of it, but she has not. She is a very sweet and fun girl, but she latches onto girls and wants to be like them, talks about them constantly, copies them, gets EXTREMELY nervous around them, and overall is just so out of character around them. When talking about them, she’s starry-eyed; around them, she giggles, blushes and gets overall uncomfortable.

I hate to say it, but her sisters/my daughters agree – it’s embarrassing! I’m also concerned becasue I don’t think this is normal behavior. None of my other daughters went through anything like this. When asked what she likes about them, she can go on for hours! These objects of affection always find her endearing – they are all older girls at her school, but so much more than her role-model. They always try chatting with her and being sweet to her, but recently a client of mine told me that my daughter was a silly mess around her own seventeen year old! It is truly embarrassing at times.

I have no reason to believe that this is sexual confusion issue; she has had boyfriends, and when asked by her sisters, she laughs naturally with them and says of course not; she just ‘thinks they’re so cool’. But it’s more than that, and I don’t know how to help her. Sometimes she gets so worked up with nerves that she makes herself ill. She says it’s worth it. It’s like a drug addiction. What can I possibly do
Excuse, I am not concerned with her being homosexual at all. But as I said, I see how this can sometimes make my daughter upset. And it is embarrassing the reaction she has around them.

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Should I talk with this girls mother?

  • Posted on September 12, 2010 at 3:21 am

A friend of my daughter’s has been over at our house three times in the last 2 weeks for dinner. She eats a lot of food and then she says she will be back in a minute and she goes outside and vomits all of that food up. She is not a small girl and she told me she has a stomach problem, and that her Mom knows she does this and has been seen by a doctor. She says her doctor put her on Oxycontin, for this problem. She is 17 years old and looks healthy, I am just worried about her. Should I ask her Mom about this or just mind my own business?

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Experienced Mom’s of girls! What size clothes should I buy for my daughter?

  • Posted on August 28, 2010 at 1:19 pm

My daughter is one of those difficult sizes. She is 21 months old, 34 inches tall and has a long torso and tiny waist.

Recently I have become addicted to shopping online but I was going through a bunch of her clothes and trying them on her, and her 18 month skirt is too big, and so are her 24 month pants without adjustable waist. She can wear 3T shirts. I don’t have a clue what sizes to order her online. Any experienced moms out there that had the same problem?

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Experienced Mom’s of girls! What size clothes should I buy for my daughter?

  • Posted on August 27, 2010 at 7:22 pm

My daughter is one of those difficult sizes. She is 21 months old, 34 inches tall and has a long torso and tiny waist.

Recently I have become addicted to shopping online but I was going through a bunch of her clothes and trying them on her, and her 18 month skirt is too big, and so are her 24 month pants without adjustable waist. She can wear 3T shirts. I don’t have a clue what sizes to order her online. Any experienced moms out there that had the same problem?

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How to Teach Teenage Girls Healthy Eating Habits

  • Posted on January 20, 2010 at 7:07 pm

Regrettably, weight loss for teenage girls often entails unsuitable, unhealthy eating habits, such as crash dieting or experimenting with diet pills. Sadly this is often the onset to eating disorders and other serious health problems.

Studies undertaken show that nearly 70% of young teenage girls have attempted to lose weight before their 18th birthday. Is it necessary for these young girls to be dieting, and are they doing it in a way that is not detrimental to their health?

It is crucial to teach your teenage daughter how to develop a healthy lifestyle which is more than merely encouraging her to eat healthy meals. A healthy lifestyle means to develop habits that she can practice for the rest of her life.

This article addresses the issues of healthy weight loss habits, weight management and body image.

Promote Gradual Weight Loss

As a parent it is not always easy to get your child to eat healthy balanced meals, and there are circumstances where your child may need to lose a little weight. It is then your role as a responsible parent to promote safe, gradual weight loss.

Many teenage girls will put themselves onto strict crash diets. The problem with crash diets is that not only are they potentially damaging to your daughter’s health, but gaining the weight back again is inevitable and unfortunately the gain is often beyond that of her original weight.

A loss of 1-2 pounds per week is recommended to achieve permanent weight loss results.

Get The Whole Family Involved

To get your teenage daughter to adopt healthy eating habits, the whole family needs to be involved. Rather than filling your kitchen with unhealthy snacks or “forbidden foods”, stock your kitchen with foods that are good for you.

Offer snacks that are nourishing, satisfying, and tasty. Always prepare nutritious, well balanced meals and replace those sugary snacks and potato crisps with fresh fruit and nuts.

Teenagers who get the support from their families will achieve better weight loss results and are more likely yo maintain their weight loss, than those who don’t. Additionally, children who grow up educated in healthy eating habits at home will adopt those habits for the rest of their lives.

Start The Day With A Nutritious Breakfast

There are a number of reasons why teenage girls will often skip breakfast such as; not feeling hungry, they’re running late, or they believe that skipping breakfast will help them to lose weight.Missing breakfast wil in factl slow down her weight loss efforts. Eating a nutritious breakfast fuels the brain and the body, and kick-starts the metabolism to burn off additional calories right throughout the day.

Drink Plenty Of Water

One of the biggest weight gain perpetrators is high sugar drinks, energy drinks and fruit juices. Instead, try to promote water as an alternative to these high calorie beverages. Not only is water calorie free, but it flushes out harmful toxins and rejuvenates the body.

Discuss Body Issues

Many teenage girls struggle with body image issues and it is vital to discuss openly with your daughter any of the concerns that she may have with her weight and body image. Encourage her to discuss her worries, about her body image and why she thinks she needs to lose weight. For the health and safety of your daughter these issues should never be brushed aside. Your support and assistance will allow your daughter to continue to grow in happiness and good health.

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Find the Best Boarding Schools for Girls

  • Posted on January 9, 2010 at 12:27 pm

The best boarding schools for your daughter are the ones which give the students the ideal opportunities they need and want. Sending a girl to the ‘wrong’ school is never a good idea. Just as there are so many different needs, goals and personalities, so too there are a variety of types of boarding schools. Let’s look at a few examples.

If academic excellence is the ideal for your daughter then there are many boarding schools which concentrate on this part of the students’ education. But beware of certain things. This type of school will have a reputation to protect. They will have an enviable record in graduation results and will have placed many, even all of their students in a sought-after college or university. In addition this type of school will have prerequisite academic standards and may even require prospective students to take a test or tests. Make sure your daughter is well prepared for any entrance exam, don’t delay as there may be a waiting list and be sure your daughter wants and is suited to an academic emphasis in their education.

Therapy-strong boarding schools are for girls who have been in trouble. It might involve drugs, alcohol, boys, poor self-image and such. If your daughter is in the at-risk or troubled category then a boarding school with an emphasis on therapy may be ideal for your child. Doing well academically is always important but first they must have self-confidence and a high self-esteem. Remember that there are different programs in each school so you need to know specifically what your daughter requires. Obviously you will then investigate only these schools which can deal with your child’s problems.

Finally there is the once-called tomboy type student who revels in the great outdoors. There are boarding schools with a wide range of outdoor activities such as hiking, bush-walking, climbing and sailing. It may also include the care of animals. A girl who loves this type of environment may thrive and, as a consequence, do much better academically than they would if in a city-based boarding school.

There are two important facts to follow up on in choosing the right school. (a) The parent has to do the work in researching the schools and (b) there may well be no such thing as the perfect boarding school.

Schools have their web site which provides a great deal of information. Feel free to read their prospectus, make a list of questions and contact the schools you think might be appropriate. If possible make contact with parents who already have a daughter in that school. An unbiased opinion could be extremely valuable.

Know that while schools do specialize and you can find a school which will cater for the needs of your daughter, it may not be perfect. In other words, don’t set your goals so high that nothing seems to suit your child. There are many wonderful boarding schools and they do offer a different emphasis and range of programs. Find the one which best suits your daughter and you are giving a young woman one of the best possible starts in life.

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Girls Boarding Schools: The only Solution

  • Posted on January 9, 2010 at 8:27 am

July 24th, 2006 ,Teenage rebellion can be a sign of health, especially in girls. In an essay contributed to Catching a Wave: Reclaiming Feminism for the 21st Century, Nancy Gruver has written that girls are understandably outraged by injustices. However, the process of socialization teaches girls to swallow their healthy anger. Unfortunately, then, the anger that could fuel needed change in our society is misspent. It gets turned inward as self-destructive choices, or girls express it, ineffectively, in blind rebellion.

Girls who are troubled are often the brightest and most sensitive. They either learn too well what society seems to want from them (such as sexual precociousness or underachievement) or they simply refuse to go along with the unfairness. These girls challenge us to find healthier ways to educate them to be contributors to a more just society.

Exhausted parents are torn between advocating for their girls and wishing their girls would “just go along and get along” in school settings that trample their self-esteem. While a family’s love and concern can do much to build resiliency in their girls, no single family is strong enough to protect its daughters from the effects of a “girl-poisoning” culture. If only we could train girls to use their energies to correct injustice in the world, rather than being self-destructive.

We can. One way to do that is to educate girls in an environment prepared especially to focus on girls – their needs, development, strengths and talents, and the way they learn. Girls boarding schools is just this type of environment

For instance, one girl was used to hearing boys yell, “Cat fight!” whenever girls disagreed with each other in class. When she transferred to an all-girls school, she found that girls were encouraged to debate, to speak their minds, and think through their opinions. No longer shut down by the boys’ teasing (which went on right in front of teachers) she developed her thinking and communication skills.

This effect is strengthened even more in girl’s boarding schools, where girls live in a girl-centered world 24/7. Many parents find that boarding schools give their daughters a more positive set of peers, so that peer pressure work for girls, instead of against them. Instead of feeling pressure to experiment with sex and drugs, girls feel challenged to be the best they can be.

For many parents finding out that their son or daughter has been struggling with teen drug abuse is a catastrophic revelation. Thoughts of failure, disappointment, guilt, and embarrassment flood a parents mind. However, you must remember that you are not the only parent to face such a situation. And more importantly, many families have overcome teen drug abuse in the past.
Many of them itself creates ideal conditions for the development of troubled teens, because it have proven that such teenagers have underdeveloped front part of the main brain, which makes it difficult for them to determine right from wrong. Many believe that troubled teens are product of the society they live in. But as it was already mentioned, it is most likely a combination of reasons that make teens troubled.
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Fitness Regime For Girls – For That Perfect Figure

  • Posted on January 8, 2010 at 9:24 am

In the recent past, fitness regime and girls are two topics that do not seem to get along at all. Recent surveys have shown that girls tend to turn their backs on fitness programs and thereby invite a lot of health hazards. Several surveys have been conducted in this regard and they all seem to point to the above given statement. Parents however, fail to realize this until their daughters embark on the threshold of adolescence. It is at this point that her fitness seems to make a difference.

Keeping oneself fit and fine is a life time endeavor and to get going with this project will mean that the person will have to start working on it from childhood itself. It should not seem like something new that is introduced at a certain stage in your daughter’s life. Rather she should be used to the fitness regime from a very tender age. It is all a matter of how she is brought up.

It is a universally accepted fact that boys are more sports oriented as compared to girls and that girls lose their interest in such activities after attaining puberty. Girls are then associated with feminine tasks like cooking and less physique intensive tasks, there by making them lose their interest in fitness oriented programs.

Judy Notay, an eminent consultant on fitness education said that girls often tend to lose their enthusiasm in sports and other fitness activities after reaching an age of 12 or 13. There is a relative disinterest in team events as well.

KEEPING YOUR DAUGHTERS INTERESTED:

The only logical solution to keep your daughters interested in fitness programs is to enroll them in schools that are able to design fitness programs that cater to your daughters’ tastes. These fitness regimes should not seem as a burden to the students and on the other hand, should be interesting and attention captivating. Role modeling can be an answer to these demands.

THE FINAL SOLUTION:

According to the understanding of Rick Bella, Physical Education professor in University of Victoria, the disinterest in girl students for fitness programs only reflect the situation that exists in their respective schools. In his opinion, modern education curriculum has not been designed according to the needs and interests of the students. Moreover, it is being imposed on these pupils to a very large extent. Dancing is the only logical solution that has been realized so far.
Nowadays, a large number of schools and institutions offer training in a large variety of dance forms ranging from jazz to modern or even classical.

Outdoor activities and even aerobics can be attention captivating to a few and they also serve as major fitness programs. These programs keep the girls active to a large extent.

WHAT TO LOOK FOR IN A REGIME:
Even though boys are said to have an upper hand in physical activities, girls are said to be very skillful. Thus Notay feels that the parents should search for fitness programs that are exclusive for girls. This will help in developing the in born skills in each and every girl. The leader of the program should be well aware of the basic needs of girls according to different age levels and should manage their programs in an effective manner.

All these instructions might be giving a headache to parents who have girl children. Don’t worry! The very fact that you have realized the importance of fitness programs for your girl child is a blessing. Physical fitness keeps your children healthy, fine and high spirited. It helps them to deal with stress and enables them to deal with everyday affairs with a wide smile. Physical fitness programs are also platforms for your daughters to interact with other girls thereby boosting their social advancement as well.

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Make Your Ex Girlfriend Want You Back Fast

  • Posted on July 2, 2009 at 2:21 pm

You had probably lost relationships in the past and had move on but the last one is hard to take off your mind. There’s something more you want in the relationship and of course you can’t stop feeling how lost you are without the love of your life. But the problem is, you do not know where and how to approach your ex-girlfriend. Maybe you’re afraid that she might not want you back but you’ll never know this unless you try. What you need is a little push to make your ex-girlfriend want you back.

Divulge your thoughts and feelings to a close friend, verbalizing your problem can actually help you solve it.

Make yourself presentable. Those sleepless nights might have left you looking awful. If possible, shop for new clothes and have a haircut so that when your ex-girlfriend sees you, she’ll notice how refreshed you are. And hey, it does not bring any good wooing her back looking disheveled.

When you’re finally ready, call her up and ask for a lunch or coffee date. Bring her to your favorite spots so that she’ll feel at ease talking to you again.

Do not forget to bring flowers on your date.

Then say you’re sorry of the things that you did that hurt her. Tell her that you’ve been thinking about the relationship and that you two can still make it work.

If she’s still upset, give her space and respect that she needs time to take it all in and eventually think it over. When she’s done with all that and if you’re lucky, she’ll be the one to call you.

Most girls tend to play hard to get so just be patient and devote time and effort to make things work again.

Lastly, mean what you say. You would not want to go through the same heart aches again so learn from the past and strive to make the relationship last

Whoever said maintaining a relationship is easy? It needs more than time and effort to make it work. Things around you might change but the key to a better relationship hasn’t. Communicate well with your partner and settle every issue.

Whoever said maintaining a relationship is easy? It needs more than time and effort to make it work. Things around you might change but the key to a better relationship hasn’t. In the mean time read this article How to get my Ex Girlfriend Back for more advice.

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