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Aspire To Be Yourself

  • Posted on July 1, 2009 at 9:05 pm

In the everlasting journey called life, human beings are almost amusing in a strange kind of way. Most people think and believe that they have to “live up” to another family member, relative, or screen idol. Some even have become envious or jealous of popular celebrities and want or even aspire to look, think, and act and be like the famous stars of the silver screen. TV ads and commercials tell us that we “need” those particular services and products to “make” us look better, think better, feel better and smell better. Because of this, some people have become so obsessed in their desire and constant search for perfection that they lose sight of who they really are in the first place.

One of the most unusual ideologies of most individuals is that they truly believe that they could literally “alter” or “transform” themselves into another person. Other societal influence is exhibited and displayed by models and almost perfect celebrities—as they all possess those seemingly unreachable physical attributes, with matching innate self-confidence to boot. But the bottom line is: no one is born perfect and not all actors and models have flawless face and bodies. Not all people are born with fabulous hair and smooth and great skin. So what do we do about it—we improvise and then we compromise. We improvise or experiment with makeup, clothing, products, and services and so on.

We compromise ourselves in the process though, because we become no longer “true” to our inborn natural form. And people who think and feel that they “should” actually alter themselves to look like other person, is moreover an issue of self esteem—or lack of it. The best and most successful goal in life is to “aspire to be yourself.” Okay, now try looking at yourself in the mirror. Ask that person the following questions: 1.) What defines me as a person and what are my goals in life? 2.) What do I want to do and am I happy with my self? 3.) How do I wish others to see me? 4.) What are my aspirations and dreams? 5.) Am I even confident with my self? 6.) Do I really “need” to alter or transform myself? 7.) What more can I do to be happier and most significantly, do I even know where am I going in my life? When you begin to aspire to be you, one does not need to compare for other personalities.

In aspiring to be you, there are no paradoxes. A person has to merely look within to find her/his distinct definition of life and how he/she expresses himself/herself in the community. When you begin to aspire being you, you don not have to be a superhero or a rich and famous celebrity. Just be yourself—in body, mind and spirit. Aspire to be like yourself, the gift of nature to mankind. When you aspire to be you, it is how you present yourself to you, and not defining yourself by becoming somebody else. When you like yourself and find contentment within you, the journey of life would be sailing smooth.

The author of this article Amy Twain is a Self Improvement Coach who has been successfully coaching and guiding clients for many years. Amy recently published a new home study course on how to boost your Self Esteem overnight. More info about this “Quick-Action Plan for A More Confident You” is available at http://www.FabulousSelfEsteem.com.

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So what is your outcome?

  • Posted on July 1, 2009 at 9:05 pm

So what is your outcome? What do you want?

We hear this quite often, don’t we? But what usually happens when we hear this?

Well the most common response for people who don’t get their results would be:

“Well I don’t want ‘x’ to happen”,
“I don’t want to stay in debt”
“I don’t want to be ill anymore”

I hear this all too often when coaching people and it’s a big problem in why the person hasn’t got the result the way they want it. Even if people say “I want to be well again as I hate being ill all the time” just thinking this will be a hindrance to your success. Why?

Well in order to achieve your outcomes or goals in life, you have to be focused on the end outcome or goal. However sentences like “I don’t want to stay in debt” focus on debt! And whatever your mind focuses on with consistency you attract in your life, it continues to expect and even looks out for it!

Imagine that sentence for one moment “I don’t want to stay in debt”, when you think about that now, what happens in your mind?

You may make a picture of being in debt
You may associate the bad feelings of being in debt for life i.e. fear, anxiety and unhappiness.
You may hear the words we were taught such as “Money doesn’t grow on trees you know!”, “We can’t all have money!”

Your mind will delete the ‘don’t’ and just make up a picture of ‘Stay in debt’, your hypnotising yourself with that suggestion with “I stay in debt!”

Now if you have one or all or more of these thoughts over a period of time, it naturally causes consistent bad feelings, and guess what the more negative thoughts and feelings you have it will produce limiting beliefs such as ‘Your right money doesn’t grow on trees, I will be in debt for ever, I give up!”

Henry Ford once said “Whether you think you can or can’t, you’re right”

This is so true. So what are you focusing on? Are you focusing on the lack of or the abundance of?

Now imagine if you will the thought “I am Healthy and Wealthy”

What happens? It’s a whole lot of new set of thoughts and feelings right?

You see a picture of you being healthy, and wealthy
That brings feelings of energy, security and happiness.
It may creates the words “I can, I will, I have”

Now even if in reality its not presently true, if you change your thoughts to be consistent like the above, it to will create new feelings, and over time will create strong empowering beliefs that will cause you mind and body to search for the answers and attract those people, relationships, health, wealth and happiness into your life.

What’s your outcome? And more importantly what’s your point of focus?

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Joseph Clough

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