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Mental Health Question: I’m in a relationship that has gone wonderfully. However, out of the blue and for

  • Posted on November 22, 2010 at 4:32 pm

reason my girlfrien (she’s in her mid 30s and so am I) has sent me a letter saying we should not see each other because she is afraid of hurting me (not physically) and that she felt we should break up before she does. When I questioned her about it, she said that for some unknown reason she has done that in the past and it has ruined relationships for her before. she can’t explain why out of the blue she says those things. Last week she sent another text message that its best we not see each other. Again I questioned her about it and she apologized and said she did not mean to send the letter but feared that again she didn’t want to hurt me in the long run. She can’t explain what she meant by hurting me. It sounds like a fear of commitment or abandonment. her previous husband died of alcoholism (i don’t drink), her mom died at 45 years of age, her and her dad have no relationship. She has a daughter who she spoils. We’ve never argued, we always laugh, have a ton in common.
She has a wonderful job, even attends night school to add a second career. She is stable in every appearable way. She’s well respected by her friends, colleagues, is very intelligent and has a sense of humor. I can’t understand why out of the blue she acts the way she does, she can’t explain it either and she refuses to see a counselor. Is this borderline personality? a split or dual personality disorder? It seems to go well beyond a fear of commitment. I have said i’d be happy to work through whatever it is. I don’t pressure her, support her in anyway i can (mentally, emotionally, and as a boyfriend). I see a lot of good in her that is worth maintaining the relationship. How do i work through this, how do i help her, why would someone do these things. She insists that she has a history of doing these things without explaination and is very sorry afterwards. She too has stated that she’d like to maintain the relationship.

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This mans gone too far?

  • Posted on October 11, 2010 at 4:23 am

my sons girlfriend recently had her baby and her father is not letting my son see her. my son missed out on the birth of his daughter because his girlfriend is too scared of her father to say anything. my son provided for his gf throughout herpreg. even though he was not llowed to see her.she would sneekout to see my son i have pic of at my home when she would see him. his gf kept promissing him not to worry that after the baby was born that things will be diffrent.she even said that he would bethere for the birth too. but her father is a control freek and would not allow it. he even threatened to kill my son on several times. my son just turned 18. shes16 will be 17 in few months. i know if it were up to her she would want my son a part of their babyslife. my son is devastated depressed soo sad. it hurts me to see him this way cause hes done nothing wrong for her father to not like him. he used to let them see each other even after she found out she was preg. but all of a sudden he changed his mind this man has to have complete control of everything.i understand that she is still a minor but he shouldnt have a say in wheather my sonsees his own baby. apparently my son was good enough to fork over money but not good enough to see his baby.ive exchanged a few words with this man nd i feel that he is a hostil man cant talk like a human being. hes a drunk with 2 dwi and is on probation.i worry about my grandbaby. my son is having to find a lawyer in which he cant really afford but is going to try to get some visitation rights.it makes me sick to my stomach that this man thinks hes above everyone. i think i will call immigration on him. just to piss him off. and probably call cps cause hes a mean and hostil man that his own daughter cant even speak up for herself. what do you think? he should be glad that my son stepped up to the plate and provided for his gf and bought all kinds of things from diapers to crib for his baby. i am so angry at this man for what hes done to my son denying him his right to see his baby born.

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My 18 Year old daughter has gone thru High School without drinking alcohol…she is just finishing up her?

  • Posted on August 4, 2010 at 4:32 pm

first year of college.. She has had a boyfriend all year and has limited the amount of friendships on campus bc of this…She has complained of not fitting in bc she doesn’t drink!! She is also very honest so I suspected a change in her within the last 2 weeks so I asked her last night after seeing some pics online posted by her friend..(which will be her roommate for next year)…if she is drinking now?? and she said yes!! I am so disappointed and saddened by her choice to fall for peer pressure!! What do I do now?? I am paying for her to attend college on campus an hour and a half away…I am very concerned bc alcoholism is a big problem in my family!

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my teenage daughter doesnt see an issue with drinking.i’ve gone to all the sights and she has great comebacks!?

  • Posted on August 2, 2010 at 4:32 pm

I’ve gone to all the parenting sites and did and said exactly what I read. She’s not drinking but showing signs that she’s curious and doesn’t see it as a big deal. I told her there is a greater risk of alcoholism if you start drinking at a young age, it’s a gateway to drugs and gave religious reason all the while staying calm and understanding. She still has these comebacks! She says adults drink recreational and there fine….why not teens.
Thank you for you help. To answer your questions: she’s 14 and just started high school. I didn’t play the religious card-just a few times. I have said and explained all that you all suggested to her but I just think she thinks it will “never happen to her”. I think I will contact Dare to see if they have anyone that could talk to her about their experiences and visit a morgue as suggested. I might contact a local AA program. She has a girlfriend that basically gets to do whatever and I also found out she drinks. I think maybe my daughter is getting peer-pressured? I always know where she’s at and my house is always the place the kids come too so that’s good. She’s a good girl and I’m on top of her but I think she envies this girls freedom and party life.

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I’ve gone back to work and my daughter is drinking more than I’m pumping…help?

  • Posted on January 4, 2010 at 2:08 pm

I’m a teacher and I recently went back to work. I have three times a day I can pump (at my two recesses and my lunch break.) Problem is, I’m getting only 8 oz or so all day and my daughter is drinking 10-14 oz during the day. I really can’t pump anymore during school. I’m already pumping after feedings with her to try to increase production, but I’ve been doing that for 3 weeks now and it doesn’t appear to help. I even got a hospital grade pump and that’s not keeping up with her. She’s also just started on rice cereal (she’s 5 months old) but that didn’t appear to lower her intake of milk. I’d love some suggestions. Thank you :)
I’m not really wanting to give her formula. I’ve gone through 5 bouts of mastitis and if I didn’t give up breastfeeding then, I’m not going to do it now just because I’m a working mom. If I just can’t find a way to produce more milk, I guess I’ll supplement some with formula, but it’s a last resort choice for me. My daughter has horrible reflux and breastmilk is more easily digested that formula which would cause more projectile vomiting cases.

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I’ve gone back to work and my daughter is drinking more than I’m pumping…help?

  • Posted on January 4, 2010 at 10:33 am

I’m a teacher and I recently went back to work. I have three times a day I can pump (at my two recesses and my lunch break.) Problem is, I’m getting only 8 oz or so all day and my daughter is drinking 10-14 oz during the day. I really can’t pump anymore during school. I’m already pumping after feedings with her to try to increase production, but I’ve been doing that for 3 weeks now and it doesn’t appear to help. I even got a hospital grade pump and that’s not keeping up with her. She’s also just started on rice cereal (she’s 5 months old) but that didn’t appear to lower her intake of milk. I’d love some suggestions. Thank you :)
I’m not really wanting to give her formula. I’ve gone through 5 bouts of mastitis and if I didn’t give up breastfeeding then, I’m not going to do it now just because I’m a working mom. If I just can’t find a way to produce more milk, I guess I’ll supplement some with formula, but it’s a last resort choice for me. My daughter has horrible reflux and breastmilk is more easily digested that formula which would cause more projectile vomiting cases.

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I’ve gone back to work and my daughter is drinking more than I’m pumping…help?

  • Posted on January 3, 2010 at 10:07 pm

I’m a teacher and I recently went back to work. I have three times a day I can pump (at my two recesses and my lunch break.) Problem is, I’m getting only 8 oz or so all day and my daughter is drinking 10-14 oz during the day. I really can’t pump anymore during school. I’m already pumping after feedings with her to try to increase production, but I’ve been doing that for 3 weeks now and it doesn’t appear to help. I even got a hospital grade pump and that’s not keeping up with her. She’s also just started on rice cereal (she’s 5 months old) but that didn’t appear to lower her intake of milk. I’d love some suggestions. Thank you :)
I’m not really wanting to give her formula. I’ve gone through 5 bouts of mastitis and if I didn’t give up breastfeeding then, I’m not going to do it now just because I’m a working mom. If I just can’t find a way to produce more milk, I guess I’ll supplement some with formula, but it’s a last resort choice for me. My daughter has horrible reflux and breastmilk is more easily digested that formula which would cause more projectile vomiting cases.

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I’ve gone back to work and my daughter is drinking more than I’m pumping…help?

  • Posted on January 3, 2010 at 4:06 pm

I’m a teacher and I recently went back to work. I have three times a day I can pump (at my two recesses and my lunch break.) Problem is, I’m getting only 8 oz or so all day and my daughter is drinking 10-14 oz during the day. I really can’t pump anymore during school. I’m already pumping after feedings with her to try to increase production, but I’ve been doing that for 3 weeks now and it doesn’t appear to help. I even got a hospital grade pump and that’s not keeping up with her. She’s also just started on rice cereal (she’s 5 months old) but that didn’t appear to lower her intake of milk. I’d love some suggestions. Thank you :)
I’m not really wanting to give her formula. I’ve gone through 5 bouts of mastitis and if I didn’t give up breastfeeding then, I’m not going to do it now just because I’m a working mom. If I just can’t find a way to produce more milk, I guess I’ll supplement some with formula, but it’s a last resort choice for me. My daughter has horrible reflux and breastmilk is more easily digested that formula which would cause more projectile vomiting cases.

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I’ve gone back to work and my daughter is drinking more than I’m pumping…help?

  • Posted on January 3, 2010 at 8:07 am

I’m a teacher and I recently went back to work. I have three times a day I can pump (at my two recesses and my lunch break.) Problem is, I’m getting only 8 oz or so all day and my daughter is drinking 10-14 oz during the day. I really can’t pump anymore during school. I’m already pumping after feedings with her to try to increase production, but I’ve been doing that for 3 weeks now and it doesn’t appear to help. I even got a hospital grade pump and that’s not keeping up with her. She’s also just started on rice cereal (she’s 5 months old) but that didn’t appear to lower her intake of milk. I’d love some suggestions. Thank you :)
I’m not really wanting to give her formula. I’ve gone through 5 bouts of mastitis and if I didn’t give up breastfeeding then, I’m not going to do it now just because I’m a working mom. If I just can’t find a way to produce more milk, I guess I’ll supplement some with formula, but it’s a last resort choice for me. My daughter has horrible reflux and breastmilk is more easily digested that formula which would cause more projectile vomiting cases.

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I’ve gone back to work and my daughter is drinking more than I’m pumping…help?

  • Posted on January 2, 2010 at 8:33 pm

I’m a teacher and I recently went back to work. I have three times a day I can pump (at my two recesses and my lunch break.) Problem is, I’m getting only 8 oz or so all day and my daughter is drinking 10-14 oz during the day. I really can’t pump anymore during school. I’m already pumping after feedings with her to try to increase production, but I’ve been doing that for 3 weeks now and it doesn’t appear to help. I even got a hospital grade pump and that’s not keeping up with her. She’s also just started on rice cereal (she’s 5 months old) but that didn’t appear to lower her intake of milk. I’d love some suggestions. Thank you :)
I’m not really wanting to give her formula. I’ve gone through 5 bouts of mastitis and if I didn’t give up breastfeeding then, I’m not going to do it now just because I’m a working mom. If I just can’t find a way to produce more milk, I guess I’ll supplement some with formula, but it’s a last resort choice for me. My daughter has horrible reflux and breastmilk is more easily digested that formula which would cause more projectile vomiting cases.

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