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Recovering alcoholic of 4months..my husband drinks once in a while but gets hammered..I love him..help?

  • Posted on July 27, 2010 at 10:23 pm

A little over a year ago I went into rehab to get help for my drug and alcohol addiction. I have been drinking for 19 years and I am 34 years old. My husband did not want anything to do with me when I went in. I was also talking to other guys…nothing but talking..which is wrong the way I was talking…anyways, he kicked me out of the house. He took care of our 4 daughters and when I returned from rehab he had all my stuff packed in my auto and I went to stay with my dad. Who by the way is a NON admitting alcoholic. Husbad and I talked on and off…decided to give it a try…things were perfect he said he would do anything to support meshowered my with love and affection(never before) a new start. But My head was up my ass and still talked to guys from my AA meetings. Time Time went by and all we did was fight. So now he once in a while goes out with his friends and gets HAMMERED we fight ha says Nasty things and try to work past it the next day. He doesnt want counsuling or alanon?
There is SSSOOO much more to my life happenings but not enough space. I have relapsed…would have 17 months. One time he went out and drank ALOT and talked to another girl. Did nothing. Never cheated and I KNOW he wont. It pushed many buttons of mine and really gave me a chance to see how much he really does mean to me and our family. I am trying now and things are getting better for us but Im really afraid for the next time he wants to go out with friends. He says he gets ripped because we are not getting along. But this doesnt happen often. Ive learned alot in AA and try to use it as much as I can but really hard some times.
I know we love each other and I too say things I dont mean..And Im not drinking…I am trying to learn to live my life on life’s terms…not mine.
Well I definatly got sucked into a group of new friends…AA…and yeah we did have alot in common but I learned they were as screwed up as I was. They tell you not to make any big decisions for year sober. My husband and I DO love each other…we have been thru almost every bad card life can deal. But he has honestly been the only one to be here for me…yes i did some stupid shit. but we have a chance to start a neew life with our 4 beautiul daughters and a recovering alcoholic who is getting stronger everyday. My hubby brings up the past often..forgetting he did wrong too. but God said if you plow a field and keep watching what you did…the the path is going to be wavy…dont quote me im close…I want so badly to live my life sober, happy and with him and family. I havnt been to a meeting in a while and have not talked to guys for9 months. I am focused on my relationship with my husband and our problems. Thanks for the great answers and I agree in a way with each one.

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