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I haven’t slept with my husband since November…?

  • Posted on September 5, 2010 at 11:17 am

We’re both almost 21 and have a 10 1/2 month old daughter. We just got married June 13th ’06 when he joined the army, he left for basic training in July. He got back from his training in October, and then in November we moved from Iowa to Washington state. The move was really stressful for both of us, but he has a bad anger problem and took everything out on me. After all of that, I have not been able to be intimate with him or affectionate and just seem to go about my day to day tasks of taking care of the family. He still has an anger problem, and binge drinks on the weekends and acts like a jerk. He can be really nice sometimes though, but I just can’t bring myself to show him a whole lot of physical affection. He is deploying April 15th and I think that has something to do with it too. What should I do? Should I just give in and do it and maybe I will feel better about being intimate with him again? Could him not having sex be making him kind of a jerk sometimes?
Just some extra info after reading a few answers:
He refuses to go to counseling. And I tell him how I feel about the way he acts and the things he does and how it affects me, but that doesn’t seem to do anything. He has impulse control problems and he can be really selfish.

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I haven’t slept with my husband since November…?

  • Posted on August 28, 2010 at 4:17 pm

We’re both almost 21 and have a 10 1/2 month old daughter. We just got married June 13th ’06 when he joined the army, he left for basic training in July. He got back from his training in October, and then in November we moved from Iowa to Washington state. The move was really stressful for both of us, but he has a bad anger problem and took everything out on me. After all of that, I have not been able to be intimate with him or affectionate and just seem to go about my day to day tasks of taking care of the family. He still has an anger problem, and binge drinks on the weekends and acts like a jerk. He can be really nice sometimes though, but I just can’t bring myself to show him a whole lot of physical affection. He is deploying April 15th and I think that has something to do with it too. What should I do? Should I just give in and do it and maybe I will feel better about being intimate with him again? Could him not having sex be making him kind of a jerk sometimes?
Just some extra info after reading a few answers:
He refuses to go to counseling. And I tell him how I feel about the way he acts and the things he does and how it affects me, but that doesn’t seem to do anything. He has impulse control problems and he can be really selfish.

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I haven’t slept with my husband since November…?

  • Posted on August 27, 2010 at 8:17 pm

We’re both almost 21 and have a 10 1/2 month old daughter. We just got married June 13th ’06 when he joined the army, he left for basic training in July. He got back from his training in October, and then in November we moved from Iowa to Washington state. The move was really stressful for both of us, but he has a bad anger problem and took everything out on me. After all of that, I have not been able to be intimate with him or affectionate and just seem to go about my day to day tasks of taking care of the family. He still has an anger problem, and binge drinks on the weekends and acts like a jerk. He can be really nice sometimes though, but I just can’t bring myself to show him a whole lot of physical affection. He is deploying April 15th and I think that has something to do with it too. What should I do? Should I just give in and do it and maybe I will feel better about being intimate with him again? Could him not having sex be making him kind of a jerk sometimes?
Just some extra info after reading a few answers:
He refuses to go to counseling. And I tell him how I feel about the way he acts and the things he does and how it affects me, but that doesn’t seem to do anything. He has impulse control problems and he can be really selfish.

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I haven’t slept with my husband since November…?

  • Posted on August 27, 2010 at 12:17 am

We’re both almost 21 and have a 10 1/2 month old daughter. We just got married June 13th ’06 when he joined the army, he left for basic training in July. He got back from his training in October, and then in November we moved from Iowa to Washington state. The move was really stressful for both of us, but he has a bad anger problem and took everything out on me. After all of that, I have not been able to be intimate with him or affectionate and just seem to go about my day to day tasks of taking care of the family. He still has an anger problem, and binge drinks on the weekends and acts like a jerk. He can be really nice sometimes though, but I just can’t bring myself to show him a whole lot of physical affection. He is deploying April 15th and I think that has something to do with it too. What should I do? Should I just give in and do it and maybe I will feel better about being intimate with him again? Could him not having sex be making him kind of a jerk sometimes?
Just some extra info after reading a few answers:
He refuses to go to counseling. And I tell him how I feel about the way he acts and the things he does and how it affects me, but that doesn’t seem to do anything. He has impulse control problems and he can be really selfish.

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Is it possible for a person to get some custody of a child they haven’t seen in over 3 years?

  • Posted on August 18, 2010 at 4:32 pm

My daughter’s birth “dad” hasn’t seen her in over 3 years. He hasn’t tried to seek any custody but I am afraid some day he might. He hasn’t paid child support in 4 years. He has 2 DUI’s, has been arrested for domestic abuse, and has been in and out of rehab for alcoholism (and yet he still drinks). He has no job, no car or licsence, no home (he bounces from friend to friend). It embarasses me to say I had a breif relationship with this loser, but it is something that I have to live with every day. I love my 9 year-old and my husband is in the process of adopting her. I am worried about the other person trying to screw with my family and I want to know if a judge would take his lifestyle into consideration. He has 3 other kids from 2 other women, and evades child-support from them as well.

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