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Can I keep the past a secret and still have a healthy relationship?

  • Posted on August 3, 2010 at 7:22 am

I made a lot of mistakes between the ages of 20 and 24. I did Ecstasy, smoked a lot marijuana, and drank. I also slept with some prostitutes. I am a changed man. When I was 24, I made a decision not to screw up my life like my parents did. I now have a wonderful woman in my life who I love dearly. She has a 5 year old daughter who I love as well. I have not told her about my past with drugs and (even worse) the prostitutes. I have been checked for all STD’s. In fact, before I kissed her, I made damn sure that I was free of all STD’s. There is no way I can tell her. She would leave me. We have been together for nine months, and we respect and love one another. We have been in only one argument and we talked it out rationally. I know this is the woman that I want to spend the rest of my life with, but I feel like damaged goods. She has a great past. She has always been a good person. So, please give me some advice, ANYONE. Thank you so much.

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How to Teach Teenage Girls Healthy Eating Habits

  • Posted on January 20, 2010 at 7:07 pm

Regrettably, weight loss for teenage girls often entails unsuitable, unhealthy eating habits, such as crash dieting or experimenting with diet pills. Sadly this is often the onset to eating disorders and other serious health problems.

Studies undertaken show that nearly 70% of young teenage girls have attempted to lose weight before their 18th birthday. Is it necessary for these young girls to be dieting, and are they doing it in a way that is not detrimental to their health?

It is crucial to teach your teenage daughter how to develop a healthy lifestyle which is more than merely encouraging her to eat healthy meals. A healthy lifestyle means to develop habits that she can practice for the rest of her life.

This article addresses the issues of healthy weight loss habits, weight management and body image.

Promote Gradual Weight Loss

As a parent it is not always easy to get your child to eat healthy balanced meals, and there are circumstances where your child may need to lose a little weight. It is then your role as a responsible parent to promote safe, gradual weight loss.

Many teenage girls will put themselves onto strict crash diets. The problem with crash diets is that not only are they potentially damaging to your daughter’s health, but gaining the weight back again is inevitable and unfortunately the gain is often beyond that of her original weight.

A loss of 1-2 pounds per week is recommended to achieve permanent weight loss results.

Get The Whole Family Involved

To get your teenage daughter to adopt healthy eating habits, the whole family needs to be involved. Rather than filling your kitchen with unhealthy snacks or “forbidden foods”, stock your kitchen with foods that are good for you.

Offer snacks that are nourishing, satisfying, and tasty. Always prepare nutritious, well balanced meals and replace those sugary snacks and potato crisps with fresh fruit and nuts.

Teenagers who get the support from their families will achieve better weight loss results and are more likely yo maintain their weight loss, than those who don’t. Additionally, children who grow up educated in healthy eating habits at home will adopt those habits for the rest of their lives.

Start The Day With A Nutritious Breakfast

There are a number of reasons why teenage girls will often skip breakfast such as; not feeling hungry, they’re running late, or they believe that skipping breakfast will help them to lose weight.Missing breakfast wil in factl slow down her weight loss efforts. Eating a nutritious breakfast fuels the brain and the body, and kick-starts the metabolism to burn off additional calories right throughout the day.

Drink Plenty Of Water

One of the biggest weight gain perpetrators is high sugar drinks, energy drinks and fruit juices. Instead, try to promote water as an alternative to these high calorie beverages. Not only is water calorie free, but it flushes out harmful toxins and rejuvenates the body.

Discuss Body Issues

Many teenage girls struggle with body image issues and it is vital to discuss openly with your daughter any of the concerns that she may have with her weight and body image. Encourage her to discuss her worries, about her body image and why she thinks she needs to lose weight. For the health and safety of your daughter these issues should never be brushed aside. Your support and assistance will allow your daughter to continue to grow in happiness and good health.

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Getting a Healthy Body and Relationship

  • Posted on January 13, 2010 at 3:25 pm

Dealing with special wellbeing issues can make it hard to compact with something moreover, especially efficient on improving a relationship. The nature must feel wholesome to have the circle of others, so the first stair in developing a healthful self and progress your relationships is too set up a goal and a proposal.

Having loyalty in superstar in a relationship can be hard if the role feels dishonest or if they harbor’t met an anyone as good as you. To forgive others, you basic to feel well within yourself. This is why it is important to set goals and establish procedure to advance your fitness.

Since in relationships two people must work together to keep the relationship untaken, it is also important to embrace your partner, links and family in your planning. Nevertheless the first thing to do is to take the time to evaluate your relationship. Killing with refusal people in bad relationship, it is not worth your time to involve them in your procedure. In this particular place it is better off just to let them go. While we lack the energy to coerce change in others, we wait talented of altering ourselves.

We must work near establishing good communication to improve our relationships. In a site like this, it would be a good idea to take the time to consider your situation and try to see it from both people’s perspectives so that your communication will be enhanced. When there is a communication breakdown, it’s hard to straighten out misunderstandings. In reality, the disorder will become shoddier.

Taking the time to be with, and like the circle of your partner is one of the more effectual habits to take communication to the next direct. Set up a time that both of you can get together and have some worth time. Take a relaxed ramble with your partner and sock up a conversation about the survive. Talking about light relaxing topics will promote stress relief.

While you and your partner together do your best to prevent topics which may cause the two of you stress. Wait until you are calm and relaxed before you outset chatting about the problems. Successful, important communication occurs when the parties are calm and relaxed. You want to elude this. If the leads to a contend of mind, each loses.

Learning the art of effective communication shall allow you to hint a better life. You can learn the survey of relaxing and staying in restraint of your life. Again, initial a relaxed communication is the first stair in improving your relationship. You both can like casual oration while relaxing, which may set the mood for romance. If you are in relationship and have children, perhaps you and your mate can arrange a night together. Ask your family or contacts to keep an eye on the children so that you and your mate can enjoy sometime together.

Never lose picture of your objective. That goal and plan should include you effective near the strong self. It will be hard tochangeyour wayoflife.thinkingand goingthrough aprocess ofrediscovering oneself,memorize. By enlisting the help of family and links, you will diminish the burden. One of the behavior that numerous individuals have triumphed over many of burdens is by effective out of the hard time.

It all begins with improving your special life. After you’ve superior your own private life, you will find it easier to overlook the faults you find in others. The responsibility of enhancing your special life depends on you. Improving your life depends on your willingness and efforts. You can never put the burden solely on superstar else’s shoulders, since you are the responsible accessory to encounter who you are.

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Set Healthy Boundaries

  • Posted on January 5, 2010 at 11:06 am

Do you allow others to do and say things to you that do not feel good? Would you like to establish new patterns to deal with the problem?

Everyone needs to set healthy boundaries. This is a gift to others and you. By allowing people to act in ways that are not appropriate, you actually hurt them too because they are stuck in their unhealthy behavior. Therefore, it is important to learn how to establish boundaries for all involved.

Denise’s husband was very frustrated at work. Alan would come home and yell at her. At first she yelled back, and Alan got angrier and acted even meaner. Denise stuffed her anger and withdrew. That did not work either because she was miserable, and Alan did not improve. In her counseling session, I encouraged her to set her boundaries for both of their good. Otherwise, she is an enabler or a co-dependent.

The following week, Denise told me that she said to Alan in a calm, firm voice, “I am not willing to live this way.” To her surprise, Alan changed his attitude and stopped his negative behavior. In fact, he was his kind self again. I imagine that he heard her and realized that he could no longer get away with his actions without a consequence. I acknowledged Denise for setting healthy boundaries.

Can you relate to Denise’s situation? Are you being physically or verbally abused? No one deserves to be the target of other people’s pain. No matter what happened in the past, you are a good person and you deserve to be treated with love and respect.

I discovered in the process I developed, HART (Holistic And Rapid Transformation), that clients who allowed others to be abusive to them as adults experienced that behavior from their parents or guardians. Since we make decisions from our experiences, they decided that they must be bad and deserve to be abused. That is not true! The truth is that what people say or do is about them and not you. The truth is that you are okay and a good person no matter what others do or say.

If you feel you deserve to be abused because of guilt feelings, you can forgive yourself and stop punishing yourself. We all make mistakes so that we can learn from them.

Setting healthy boundaries is also a very important parenting skill. Children actually subconsciously want you to stop them from misbehaving. They need you to be a strong, consistent parent and healthy model for them. Telling the child what is acceptable and the consequences of their negative behavior is the way to go. Then if they misbehave, follow that with the logical consequence.

For example, if your son Johnny yells at you, then ask him to speak calmly and respectfully. Of course, that is the way you speak to him to model healthy communication. If he continues to misbehave, then you can set your boundary by saying, “If you yell at me, you will have to go in your room and stay there until you can calmly tell me what you want to say.” Be sure to follow through with the logical consequence any time Johnny yells at you.

It is important for parents to prepare their children for life. You may be willing to take their abuse, but it is not likely that their peers, bosses, or teachers will. Also, if you allow abusive behavior, there is a good chance the child will repeat it with their partner and children. It is very important to set healthy boundaries so that your son or daughter can learn acceptable behavior and succeed socially and in school, work, relationships, and parenting.

You may be asking yourself, what are healthy boundaries? These are decided by what feels good emotionally and physically for all involved. For example, taking illegal drugs, drinking alcohol excessively, or smoking cigarettes are not healthy for anyone. Addictions are ways to numb our pain, but we feel it again after the effects of the addiction wears off. If this is your scenario, you can say, “I love you and I am not willing to support your addiction.” Then, for example, you can make a suggestion to go for counseling to deal with the causes of the pain which are the causes of the addiction. This is a gift to them and you.

It is important to be strong, and to protect yourself if the abuser refuses to deal with the issues. People who abuse often need to feel scared to lose you if they do not deal with their problems, in order to have the courage to face their pain (the cause of their negative behavior). Tell the abuser calmly what you are willing to do and follow through.

It can be more difficult with siblings, cousins, parents, etc. However it is important to set the same boundaries. Tell them what you want in a loving way. Protect yourself from their projection of their pain. You do not deserve to be anyone’s scapegoat.

In the case of friends who you feel are abusive, have the courage to let them go. We all need friends and many people can fill that need. Set your intent to be only with people who are kind, loving, and respectful, and that is what you will attract. These are healthy boundaries. Making excuses for people does not serve anyone.

Be honest with everyone, including yourself. When other peoples’ behaviors do not feel good, take a stand. “I love you, and I am only willing to stay in this friendship (or relationship) if we can share mutual respect and kindness,” is a nice way to establish healthy boundaries.

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