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alcoholic mom? i need to stop forgiving her…?

  • Posted on March 9, 2011 at 8:18 pm

i’m currently 14 and my moms been an alcoholic my whole and refuses to get help(no many how many times me and my dad try to get her too)
she’s managed to really mess me up in the past
just all the fighting and cursing really tore me down and i was in a very bad place for a couple years
im better now though
shes cursed me out, threatened me, insulted me, that kinda stuff
once when i was like 8 she told me she wished i wasn’t her daughter and that along with the combination of her leaving twice when i was a kid probably caused my inability to really let people in
im working on that now though
and once, this summer actually she attacked me
choked me, kicked me in the head and stomach that kinda stuff
i called the cops, and blah blah blah she has a record of child abuse now
last night some stuff just happened last night at her friends, that involved a lot of fighting
and now she’s all like going on about how certain friends think about me now, after all the ‘horrible’ things i did
now if they actually thought that about me then whatever i dont really care, ive learned to let go what others think of me
the thing is…i know thats not what they think…mainly because NONE OF THEM WERE EVEN THERE. lol she messed up on that part…and plus there my dads friends to and hes like i was just talking to one of them and they didnt say anything like that
and what started this whole thing was well actually i was in the bathroom and i heard her go on about how i’m an @$$hole right when she came home…i mean really! you just got home and theres alreaddy something you have to!
im just so sick of it, i learned to live without a mother figure(since she isnt one) and i know i dont need one anymore
problem is i always end up forgiving her, mainly because its hard not getting along with someone living in such a small house
by the way no my dad won’t leave her, and i dont have any family to stay with
how to i stop forgiving her?
because im sick of all the drama she puts into my life
how do i maturely give her the message that im over this childishness and next time she feels like saying something bad about me come to me not behind my back, and well be able to talk once she decides to handle her problems without alcohol

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My daughter’s boyfriend broke up with her. Advice?

  • Posted on March 8, 2011 at 10:17 pm

She is almost 19, bf has just turned 21. His birthday wish was to go to a bar and get drunk. He did. My daughter and his friends have tried to get him to at least drink less, but he told her today that she’s “too much on his case” about the drinking. It’s his life, but he’s being a butt. I have no advice to give her because I’ve never been there. I told her that maybe she should give him some space. She had already said something to him in that direction, but he told her he’s an alcoholic and he can’t change for her. Anyone out there with some words of wisdom?

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My sister is a heroin addict and drags my 3 yr old niece around with her. Is it better to put baby in system?

  • Posted on October 20, 2010 at 3:20 pm

I’ve heard horror stories about foster care and the CPS system, so I’m weighing that against the enviroment that the baby is in now. I’m torn between calling CPS and getting them involved or leaving my niece and the situation alone. I know they are staying in a drug motel, just a really bad situation. I would call my sister’s probation officer, as well, and hopefully have them take her to jail- atleast I know she’d get clean in there and not overdose on the streets after having her child taken from her. Maybe after getting out, she’d be clean and rational enough to make the right choices and get her daughter back with the goal of giving her a better life.
I just don’t know if I should just leave the whole thing alone or lead officials to her and break up that whole sick little “party”.
I can’t take the baby to live with me, where I’m at in my life- it just isn’t possible. It’s CPS foster care or leave her where she’s at.
What would you do?

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Am I obligated to let my daughters father see her.?

  • Posted on September 2, 2010 at 11:22 pm

My daughters father called me the other day after 7 months and asked to see her. We used to have an agreement that he only pay 200 dollars a month to help out with costs instead of filing child support. When he continuously missed payments and I would have to call him to arange for her to see him. I quite calling and filed support. He didn’t call for 7 months. We were never married and our daughter is autistic. Oh, and I’m pretty sure he was intoxicated when he called. He is an alcoholic. At least I think he is because he drinks every day. What do I do and what is legal.

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My x has forge my name on adoption papers because she held a resentment against my for leaving her.?

  • Posted on August 22, 2010 at 4:32 pm

One night I’m was riding past the house were my daughter lived and noticed that there were alot of people there . It was around 12 am. I called when i got to a buddies house, I called and ask what the hell was going on and wheres my baby, why is there so many people up there so late and she hung up on me. So i called back with no answer. then she finally answered and we talked for about an hour. Then after calling her by my new girlfriends name by accident, she hung up on me. I tried Back a couple of times and gave up.My buddy Tommy told me he would be a witness for me if anything happened,but i never even got the chance to call him from jail. The next morning I got a call from the police, witch she had been on the phone with the police officer lying like a rug. I told them the truth about what happened and all they said was I was being charge with harassment by communication . I was on probation at the time for some misdemeanor things. My probation officer herd about the incident and put me in jail. So when I finally get to court . I plead no contest, bad decision at the time because I was going to do time anyway for the violation. She had no proof or phone records, of coarse to prove her case. Then the judge told me if i ever was to go around her again i was doing serious jail time .There was never any mention about use having a child together. I had no one on my side while she had her dad and sister sitting and grinning when i walked into the court room. I felt so worthless and depressed when i finally got out I continued feeding my depression, self medicating If you will.I tried calling anybody and everywhere, but no one could give me any answers or help. This was about the time I tried committing suicide. I swallowed about 30 trazadone sleeping pills followed by a fifth of vodka. Well the x was not worried she got married 2 years after we broke up and they came into some money some how and ask the courts for an adoption. They got it because they said I signed my rights away. I DID NOT!!!!! I was never notified, never mailed any thing. They cannot say either they knew not my whereabouts because adult probation found me and always I had current addresses for them, from 1989 to 2002. She also knew this. because her sister and mother would always call him, my probation officer, and try getting me thrown in jail. Threw all this I am trying to battle depression, anxiety,alcoholism,the loss of my daughter. I was a mess. No one would help me not even my parents.About 2 years later When I was twenty nine years old my parental rights were taken from me with out my knowledge. by a vengeful X pulling some shifty crap. I have tried everything in my power to seek help looking every were asking everybody, but with out thousands of dollars for a lawyer no one will help me. If I were a women this would not be an issue. I’m sure I would find help right away. I have told my story to just about everybody I know and they all agree I got screwed. Can someone out there give me some advice or some kind of resource or somebody i can contact for help. Please help if you can but this is a very serious issue I will never give up on.Over the next 11 yrs I just about gave up.The only thing that kept me from laying across the railroad tracks was the determination to right this wrong.
Presently I have taken steps to Improve my live and change it for the better. I don’t drink, smoke, do drugs, I have recently been diagnosed with P.T.S.D also a social anxiety. I see a therapist once a week and follow my doctors treatment regiment to the letter. I know in my heart i will see her one day again and hold my baby girl

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My 4 1/2 month old daughter is constipated and I don’t know what to do to help her.?

  • Posted on July 29, 2010 at 5:24 am

My daughter has been constipated for over a month now. She is on good start doy formula and i also just started her on baby food. I have tried numerous things. She drinks water, tried juice, mirilax, and karo syrup and nothing is helping her. She strains and screams in pain everytime she goes or tries to go. A couple of times there has been some blood on the dry hard and crumbly chunks (Sorry if to much info) but it’s just from her straining so hard and having to push so hard to get it out. I know I’m not the only person out here who has dealt with this. If you have been through this or know of a SAFE way to help her please let me know. I have taken her to 3 different drs and they all say it’s nothing to worry about. I do worry though cause I know it shouldn’t hurt her so badly to go!!!!
I have used the suppositories and they help and make her go but it’s still really firm and painful for her.

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My 4 1/2 month old daughter is constipated and I don’t know what to do to help her.?

  • Posted on January 3, 2010 at 6:07 pm

My daughter has been constipated for over a month now. She is on good start doy formula and i also just started her on baby food. I have tried numerous things. She drinks water, tried juice, mirilax, and karo syrup and nothing is helping her. She strains and screams in pain everytime she goes or tries to go. A couple of times there has been some blood on the dry hard and crumbly chunks (Sorry if to much info) but it’s just from her straining so hard and having to push so hard to get it out. I know I’m not the only person out here who has dealt with this. If you have been through this or know of a SAFE way to help her please let me know. I have taken her to 3 different drs and they all say it’s nothing to worry about. I do worry though cause I know it shouldn’t hurt her so badly to go!!!!
I have used the suppositories and they help and make her go but it’s still really firm and painful for her.

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My 4 1/2 month old daughter is constipated and I don’t know what to do to help her.?

  • Posted on January 3, 2010 at 4:12 am

My daughter has been constipated for over a month now. She is on good start doy formula and i also just started her on baby food. I have tried numerous things. She drinks water, tried juice, mirilax, and karo syrup and nothing is helping her. She strains and screams in pain everytime she goes or tries to go. A couple of times there has been some blood on the dry hard and crumbly chunks (Sorry if to much info) but it’s just from her straining so hard and having to push so hard to get it out. I know I’m not the only person out here who has dealt with this. If you have been through this or know of a SAFE way to help her please let me know. I have taken her to 3 different drs and they all say it’s nothing to worry about. I do worry though cause I know it shouldn’t hurt her so badly to go!!!!
I have used the suppositories and they help and make her go but it’s still really firm and painful for her.

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My 4 1/2 month old daughter is constipated and I don’t know what to do to help her.?

  • Posted on January 3, 2010 at 3:07 am

My daughter has been constipated for over a month now. She is on good start doy formula and i also just started her on baby food. I have tried numerous things. She drinks water, tried juice, mirilax, and karo syrup and nothing is helping her. She strains and screams in pain everytime she goes or tries to go. A couple of times there has been some blood on the dry hard and crumbly chunks (Sorry if to much info) but it’s just from her straining so hard and having to push so hard to get it out. I know I’m not the only person out here who has dealt with this. If you have been through this or know of a SAFE way to help her please let me know. I have taken her to 3 different drs and they all say it’s nothing to worry about. I do worry though cause I know it shouldn’t hurt her so badly to go!!!!
I have used the suppositories and they help and make her go but it’s still really firm and painful for her.

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My 4 1/2 month old daughter is constipated and I don’t know what to do to help her.?

  • Posted on January 3, 2010 at 3:07 am

My daughter has been constipated for over a month now. She is on good start doy formula and i also just started her on baby food. I have tried numerous things. She drinks water, tried juice, mirilax, and karo syrup and nothing is helping her. She strains and screams in pain everytime she goes or tries to go. A couple of times there has been some blood on the dry hard and crumbly chunks (Sorry if to much info) but it’s just from her straining so hard and having to push so hard to get it out. I know I’m not the only person out here who has dealt with this. If you have been through this or know of a SAFE way to help her please let me know. I have taken her to 3 different drs and they all say it’s nothing to worry about. I do worry though cause I know it shouldn’t hurt her so badly to go!!!!
I have used the suppositories and they help and make her go but it’s still really firm and painful for her.

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