In 4th Grade she told her friends that I got in a drunk driving accident, ( proved I didn’t) and that her Grandma hurts her.
In 5th Grade she said that mom was in Las Vegas looking for someone, dad and sister were dead, neighbor stabbed her with a knife,(all proved false). The question is what do I do. She has always told her father and I the truth and only lies at school. She says that her friends want to play basketball and soccer and she doesn’t want to so to get them to play with her she tells these stories and then they play with her. She started seeing theschool counsler in fourth grade at around the same time this all started and got worse which is why the school finally told me that she was seeing the counsler. No the school thinks she may have emotional or mental problems. What do you think and what should we do? I think the school should have consequences for her also, scine thats where she is doing this, and seems to be getting a payoff for not getting in any troubl
I too knew girls who did similar things in school.
We have disiplined her.
My husband is thinking that more counsling only seems to give her more attention and there fore reinforcing that lies work.
As for getting enough attention most days she and I talk from the time she gets home until the time she goes to bed, sometimes it is only about her being mad that she couldn’t do something. But mostly its about what is going on with her.
I know that she has low self esteem. She is on the short side and really struggles in Math. Apparently people pick on her for these things.
My friend and I were also thinking that she may just need to be in a drama club.
I did just start watching a friends two children but this started last year.
Some of you mentioned I should get her into some activities. She does cheerleading three times a week, she joined her schools community service/student counsel, twice a month, she is also attending a special math class after school three days a week. She wants to join the after school kickball program, and Basketball. She also attends some school skate parties, reading nights, ect. We don’t want our children over scheduled so our general rule is only one sport at a time and then some after school stuff from time to time and of course getting together with friends. We as a family have one night a week called family movie night, we go to the library, about once every other month I take our two girls to the salon to get their hair cut or we go shopping at the mall and have a real girls time out. We play outside with them all the time, we try to do at least one special a month like go to the circus.
