Last semester my daughter moved in with her “best friend” from college. She lived in a suite style dorm room. (2 bedrooms) 1 bathroom. It was her & her “best friend” & 2 other girls. Every single night the 2 other girls would drink non-stop and make tons of noise. The 2 other girls had been written up for not signing guests into the building as well as drinking violations.
My daughter and her “best friend” went to speak with the RA of the building and he made all 4 of them have a meeting regarding the situation. That night my daughters boyfriend got very ill and she had to drive him to the hospital. Her “best friend” was supposed to come with her but she refused.
While away at the hospital I suspect that this “best friend” had a conversation with these 2 girls and blamed my daughter for making a mess of the bathroom I.E. urinating on the floors, peeing on toilet seats, pubic hair on the toilet seats etc.
My daughter came back and all 3 of them had “supposed” pictures of the bathroom after my daughter used it and accused her of making the mess. She was the only one who cleaned the bathrooms.
My daughter got so upset she went back into her room and began to cry. She said all she wanted to do was sleep because she was stressed about her boyfriend and this situation. BUT her “best friend” insisted they continue to talk to these girls.
Finally things escalated and my daughter said to her friend “sometimes I wish I had a gun.” The “best friend” ran next door to the other girls & they went to the cops and had my daughter arrested.
They told the police that my daughter had a gun in her room. She had to sign a waiver giving them permission to search her room. They searched her room and found NOTHING. They then forced my daughter to go in an ambulance to a hospital to get blood work done at a psych ward. They found no drugs, no stds, no pregnancy, no alcohol no nothing. The people at the hospital were furious at the university for sending my daughter there.
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The next day housing told my daughter she would be forced to move out and placed in her own room by herself. She was devastated. She moved out and was very depressed for the rest of the semester.
She became friends with this “best friend” again and forgave her for what happened. The best friend admitted that what she told the police was a lie and a mistake. She said the other 2 girls were mean to her and the bathrooms were still a mess with hair and the toilets still had urine on them.
Soon after, this “best friend” yet again changed her mind and decided not to be friends with my daughter and called her a s*ut and w*ore and talked trashed about and in writing wrote wanted to fight her etc.
My daughter brought this to the head of the building and the building director with witnesses and the building director assumed my daughter was doing “something wrong” and they decided to move my daughter again.
My daughter finally go the brains to stop talking to this lunatic who I later found out from my daughter was a lesbian, popped pills every night, went out to bars and drank obsessively etc.
My daughter has a “lazy eye” that she is unable to fix. We’ve went to numerous doctors about it. When she went to the housing office to get her room switched housing asked her if she was autistic because it seemed she had problems getting along with people and she was unable to look at them directly.
Now my daughter is in a new dorm with a very nice girl but….she can’t seem to get over this situation. She doesn’t want to live on campus anymore and is unsure if she even wants to stay at that university.
Is this normal?
Why can’t she get over this situation?
It was months ago
