I have been with my boyfriend for 2.5 years, we have a 1.5 year old daughter together. We are both still living with parents, to wait until we are engaged to buy a house together. We have gone to look at engagement rings at least 4 times now (the first time over a year ago) but he has since admitted (when he was intoxicated) that he is scared to get married because of the divorce his parents went through. When he is sober he won’t really talk about it. (He rarely ever drinks which is why I just recently found this out I guess.) Since then I have tried talking to him about it, since we had even talked about a special date to plan for our wedding, and I can’t seem to get him to talk about it, or even what is making him nervous about the whole thing.
I guess my question is am I being impatient even though he led me to believe that this was in the near future? Or am I wasting my time hoping for a future with someone that is commitment-phobic? I can’t imagine a future without him, but this is something that really concerns me, having a partner that is committed enough to want to marry me is very important to me.
