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Do you beleive this drunk illegal alien lawyer says had no intention of stealing the car with woman & child?

  • Posted on October 5, 2010 at 11:26 pm

Do you beleive this drunk illegal alien lawyer says had no intention of stealing the car with woman & child inside ?An illegal Mexican immigrant was drunk last month when he got into a car in Murrysville with a woman and her 10-year-old daughter and had no intention of hijacking the vehicle, his defense attorney said in court Tuesday.

District Judge Charles Conway of Murrysville dropped a robbery charge against Noe Tovar Baltazar but held him for trial on attempted robbery following a preliminary hearing.

The 23-year-old illegal alien is being held in the Westmoreland County Prison because he could not post the $20,000 bond. Federal authorities have lodged a detainer against Baltazar, who likely will be deported to Mexico once the case against him is completed.

Public Defender L.A. Smith argued that because he was intoxicated on March 18, Baltazar had no intention of stealing the car occupied by Rachel Reidel and her daughter, who were parked at the Village of Murrysville plaza.

“This clearly did not happen,” Smith told the judge. “The man obviously doesn’t understand English and the customs and culture of our country. He may be looking for a ride.”

Assistant District Attorney Mike Pacek said Baltazar attempted to reach for the steering wheel or the keys. That proves Baltazar’s intention, he said.

“In any culture, a man getting into a car with a woman and child is unacceptable. No culture in the world would accept that,” Pacek said. “He intended to get a ride from these ladies — if necessary, by force.”

The diminutive Baltazar sat quietly next to Smith listening to the testimony as an intepreter translated.

Charles Hirschy testified he was sitting in his car in the parking lot waiting for his wife when he saw Baltazar “come out of nowhere.” Baltazar was standing behind Reidel’s car and began to move along the passenger side, he said.

“I was watching him. He slowly moved to the passenger’s side … and began to walk to the side of the car,” he testified.

Hirschy said Baltazar opened the door and got into the car where the girl was sitting. He said Reidel got out of the car screaming.

“I heard her say, ‘This is a carjacking,’ or something to that effect,” Hirschy testified.

Murrysville police Officer Christopher Smith testified the girl attacked Baltazar.

“She started to scream, kick and actually elbow the man in the stomach,” Smith said.

Baltazar fled toward the rear of the plaza where another officer found him crouching behind a Dumpster, Smith said. He was taken into custody and was identified by Reidel, her daughter and Hirschy.

Smith said a subsequent investigation revealed that Baltazar was an illegal alien.

http://www.pittsburghlive.com/x/pittsburghtrib/news/westmoreland/s_675224.html

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Relationships: The Art of Listening

  • Posted on July 1, 2009 at 10:12 pm

In 1974, Dr. Virginia Satir presented the concept of mirroring in her groundbreaking book, “Conjoint Family Therapy.”

In 1975 Dr. Thomas Gordon wrote a best-selling book called “Parent Effectiveness Training.” In the book he taught parents to “active listen,” which means to reflect back to the speaker the feelings and information they are trying to convey.

Mirroring, or active listening, is a powerful tool, but whether or not it works depends upon your intent.

If you are active listening to another with an agenda to get them to see what they are doing wrong, or to get them to listen to you after you listen to them, then your intent in listening is to control. The person you are listening to can easily pick up the energy of control and will get angry or go into resistance. Listening with the intention to control backfires and just creates confusion in communication.

However, active listening from a true desire to understand another’s feelings and point of view can be magical. When you listen to learn and understand, rather than to control, you give the other person a great gift.

We all want to be heard and understood. While it is our responsibility to hear and understand ourselves – our own feelings and needs – and take loving action for ourselves, it also feels wonderful when someone we care about hears and understands us. This is the basis of emotional intimacy.

When I work with couples, I teach them that there are only two healthy ways of dealing with conflict:

1. Move into an intent to learn
2. Speak your truth and lovingly disengage

MOVING INTO AN INTENT TO LEARN

When you really desire to understand another, you move into an intent to learn – both about yourself and about them. Actively listening to the other is a major aspect of learning. When you really want to deeply know another, you listen carefully and mirror back to them what you hear them saying and feeling. It is not a matter of agreeing with them, but of understanding them. It is not about changing them or changing yourself, but about really hearing them and attempting to see the world through their eyes – understanding the good reasons they have for feeling and behaving as they do.

For example:

Your partner: “I’m still angry at you for being late and not calling me when you know I worry about you.”

You: “I hear you saying that it’s really unsetting to you when I don’t call when I’m going to be late. You feel I don’t care about the fact that you worry.”

Your partner: “Right. If you really cared about me, you wouldn’t want me to worry.”

You: “I understand. It hurts your heart when you know that I know you worry and I don’t seem to care about that.”

Partner: “Yes, that’s exactly right. So if you understand this, are you going to start to call me when you are late?”

You: It sounds like you believe that if I understand you, then I will change – that I have no good reasons for not calling, is that right?

This dialogue can go on until it feels complete to both of you.

Your partner may or may not want to hear why you were late without calling, and you need to let go of getting him or her to hear you. That’s the hard part!

SPEAKING YOUR TRUTH AND LOVINGLY DISENGAGING

There are times when, even if you are open to learning and really want to understand another, the other is just intent on attacking and blaming you. When this is the case, you might want to speak your truth and lovingly disengage. This looks like saying something like: “I’d love to talk with you about this when you stop being angry,” and then walking away, keeping your heart open. This means that you are not withdrawing in anger or blame. You are staying in compassion for yourself and the other person so that when he or she opens, you have no residue because you have taken full responsibility for yourself.

Once the other person is no longer angry and blaming, you might want to again open to learning and active listening to them – with no agenda that he or she listens to you. True listening is an act of giving with no expectation of anything in return. It is a kind and loving way to interact with someone you care about. It is a great gift.

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is a best-selling author of 8 books, relationship expert, and co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding® healing process. Are you are ready to discover real love and intimacy? Learn Inner Bonding now! Click here for a FREE Inner Bonding Course, and visit our website for more articles and help.

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Set Your Intentions for an Incredible Year!

  • Posted on July 1, 2009 at 9:05 pm

What kind of year will this be for you? I’ve already decided I’ll help more people live abundantly this year than ever before. Have you taken the time to set your intentions for the year yet?

My clients are constantly amazed at the results they get by simply setting their intentions each week. It’s so powerful because it allows them to see the many resources and opportunities the Universe provides to help them live those intentions. In fact, in the words of Sandy Forster, “When you set an intention, when you commit, the entire Universe conspires to make it happen.”

What would you like your year to be like? What needs to happen so you can look back and say, “Now, that was an incredible year!” What would need to happen in each area of your life — Relationships, Career, Health, Money, Spirituality, and Personal Development?

If you follow these three guidelines as you set your intentions, you are on your way to achieving them!

Make sure you’re passionate about your goals. Often, when people struggle to meet their goals, the real issue is that their goals simply aren’t very meaningful to them. They are the “shoulds” that people pick up from others in their life – their parents, their boss, or their friends, for example. The problem with setting goals based on what others want for you is that those others often don’t know your mission. Only you’ve been given that. So as you set your goals, ask yourself: How will this intention help me achieve my purpose on this planet?”

Share them. In the words of Deepak Chopra, “Intentions compressed into words enfold magical power.” In one of my Abundance Power groups, each group member shared their highest visions of themselves while the rest of the group simply felt the energy of that person’s vision. It was an incredibly powerful experience for all, and those group members are truly becoming what they envisioned!

It’s so important to share your intentions with others, in a way that they can see, and feel them. This makes them more real for you, and it allows you to be in the right vibration for creating or attracting what you need to achieve them. Share them with your coach, your mastermind group, a friend, or your partner.

Revisit them regularly. Plan to review your 2009 intentions on a monthly or quarterly basis. Celebrate what you’ve accomplished so far! And make sure that those intentions still make sense for you. Don’t be afraid to change something you’ve decided does not help you achieve your vision. By revisiting your intentions regularly, you’ll stay on track and have an excuse to celebrate everything you’re doing right to meet them!

Take some time this week to set your intentions for the coming year. Be sure to include all six areas of your life (Relationships, Career, Health, Money, Spirituality, and Personal Development). Measure your intentions against your higher purpose – the reason that you are here on Earth. Share them with someone you trust. And remember to review them on a regular basis!

You are on your way to an incredible year!

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