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Need advice on relationship issue involving my fiance and I and his 19 year old daughter.?

  • Posted on November 21, 2010 at 7:21 pm

My fiance has a 19 year old daughter who is a bit defiant, but not in a drug addiction/going to jail kind of way. She’s not in college right now and that seems to bother my fiance. He talks to me about it and then waits for my opinion and tell him, he jumps down my throat and tells me to shut up and not to talk to him. I’ve told him before I dont want to know since he doesn’t seem to like my answers. And it’s getting worse. I just tell him he needs to back off her and just love her and support her decisions. I wasn’t 19 too long ago either. But always says i dont know what she is going through b/c i was brought up by loving parents. And says i dont know what she is going through. I told him he was right, I don’t. I don’t know what to tell him anymore. He seems to get upset at everything I say. He tells me I need to help her out. But she’s not my daughter. I shouldn’t have to call her and ask her if she needs advice. If she wants someone to talk to, ive told her to call me. She doesn’t, so nothing much I can do. I just dont get what he wants me to do for her. I can’t make her do anything, she’s not family to me. How should I handle it? Pls Help! BTW, im 27. Thanks
Everything else we can agree on. This is the only subject that really gets his feathers in a ruffle. For the most part things are really good.
There was a few years he didn’t see his daughter b/c the mom refused her to see him. Mom is a mental case. Even daughter says so. We get a long together. We hang out sometimes. But I can’t make her listen to me. I can give her advice, if she chooses to take it great if not, I can’t do much else.
I told him she is not moving in with us. No way. Not supporting someone that isn’t mine. I don’t make enough money to support her, nor am I financially responsible for her.
I don’t think I should have to financially help her through college or help her buy things like a car, etc. Her mom and dad are the ones that are suppose to help her. I have my own college expenses to pay for. She is 19 now, an adult. She has a job. She makes her own money. I tell her maybe she should try to save up money on the things she needs to get to where she wants to be. She asks me how I was able to do the things I did when I was her age, and I told her I didn’t spend money on things that were not absolutely needed. And I learned to spend my money wisely.
Her and I are good friends. We like each other. I just don’t like the way he jumps down my throat when I just try to tell him he just needs to show her love and not jump down her throat b/c she isnt doing exactly what he wants her to do. I’m willing to help her emotionally and for advice, but she even says she doesn’t want me to be her mom and she likes that i’m not trying to butt in. I just get my head chewed off when I tell him he needs to back off her. She will do what she wants to do, no matter how many times he tells her what he wants her to do. He can do it till he is blue in the face. She will do what she needs to do when she is ready, and he wants her to be ready now.

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how do I get divorce papers in traverse city involving a minor child?

  • Posted on November 15, 2010 at 6:17 am

my husband will not let me see my 10 month old daughter. I am suppose to have her on 1rst- 5th weekends. he is sleeping around on me and i have had enough!! I do not trust him with my daughter because he is a chronic alcoholic. He has dropped or fallen on her on many occasions. what do I do?

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Can i move out of state with my daughter without involving the courts?

  • Posted on August 13, 2010 at 5:23 pm

I have been married for 3 yrs and have a 2 yr old. We fight constantly and last year I had an affair. He has proof of my affair through emails. He was on probation for felony DWI’s and has now paid that off with our tax return so he can drink again. He is a non-compliant diabetic and has periods of highs and lows where he is confused and disoriented (not a situation for a 2 yr old to have to deal with). I don’t leave her alone with him unless I absolutely have to and fear that if I do go through with custody that he will be granted time with her and he will have an episode when she is alone with him. He is drinking often now and I have suspisions that he is having an affair, but no proof. I want to move to Florida where my family is but am not sure that i can do that without the possibility of loosing my child. She is all I have and I want her to be safe, and safe is with me. What would happen if we just left and moved to Florida? Could they take her away from me? We live in NY.

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