My boyfriend, who also happens to be the biological father of my oldest daughter, is going through a nasty divorce. Right after his ex left we started seeing each other. We have been ever since, it’s been almost 16 months. He still hasn’t got divorced because the ex is trying to get back with him, and keep contesting it over and over. Also he has been very back and forth on whether or not he wanted to give her another chance, so he didn’t really “rush” this divorce along. He was very naieve about the whole process.
It’s hard to put this all into a short lil composed story, but basically she moved 1 state over months and months ago and he’s been making the trip there so that she can see her daughter, even a couple of times towards the end he let his daughter stay the night with her.
All was well, until last weekend she called to say she was driving to town and staying in a hotel and wanted to see their daughter. My bf told her he didnt want their daughter staying in a hotel so she could have her the next day. He proceeded to drop her off with her in the morning, when time came to pick her up, the ex didnt respond to any calls or txts. We later learned she fled to another state with her and he could do nothing about it until he recieved a temporary custody paper.
Ok so onto my problem now… she still has the child and is telling him that I will never be allowed to be around his daughter, which is also mind you, my daughter’s sister. We will be getting her back once he gets paperwork, but when they have divorce court in a few months I’m wondering if she can try and break us up by not allowing the child around me. Obviously she has to have grounds for this, which are the following: I have been arrested, but before I was ever dating him, or around his child, and everything but 1 thing was dropped in court, which was resisting arrest, which I spent 8hrs in an anger mgmt class and 36 days house arrest for. Also before we were dating, or I was ever living with his child I tried to kill myself and spent 30 days in the hospital, 5 of which were in a mental facility, where i was cleared to go home.
Should I be worried? I have been raising his lil girl for over a year bc her own mom has barely been around. Now all the sudden she wants to keep her from me bc I was mad and txtd her that her daughter will know all about her mom one day. She feels that she is going to use my past against me.
Ok now onto her past:
While she was pregnant she smoked pot and took pills to get high, they drug tested the baby when she was born and she came up positive.
During their marriage she cheated on him with almost every single one of his friends, inlcuding his roommate while he was in the other room.
She has done every drug imaginable even after the baby was born, including smoking crack, and meth.
She would have family members come over to watch the baby every single day so that she can go meet up with random men and get drugs.
After she left him she started stripping at a local strip club.
She has repeatedily threatened to kill herself if he doesnt take her back.
Please, I welcome any and all responses. I want to know LEGAL stuff more so than opionions. Thank you in advance.
I am not a threat to her in anyway what so ever, but can she use my past against me? My past is in no way abusive or involving children.
Also, she is trying to claim that I am still suicidal, and that I am on drugs. Can she even bring this up in court or will they just realize she is a jealous ex-wife?
