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I’m Still In Love With My Ex

  • Posted on July 2, 2009 at 10:40 pm

If you find yourself saying, “I’m still in love with my ex” you aren’t alone. There are many who find themselves at the end of a long term romance or marriage still clinging to hope that they might bring it back. Just because it seems like things are darkest and that there is no hope doesn’t mean that there isn’t any. There is still a chance that what you had can come back even stronger. When you are saying “I’m still in love with my ex” and you want to get that love back it is going to have to come back stronger if it is going to last.

For those of you saying, “I’m still in love with my ex” you may have a desire to turn back the clock and bring back what was lost. Be careful what you ask for, you might just get it and have the same results.

Assess the mistakes that were made in the past and understand how it affected your relationship together. Strengthen your ties with your partner and your relationship will more likely last for a long time.

You need to start all over again if you want to get back together with the person you love. Look for ways to do it better than before.

Try re-establishing a friendship. Take it slow. If your ex feels like you are trying to make things like they were, they may be resistant to it. Don’t push things, just let things take their course. If the two of you are supposed to be together, it will happen. Just let it happen naturally.

Believe that you can get them back if you truly try. Don’t let them see that you are falling apart because of the break up. Make it look like you are the least bit affected by the situation. When they see that you are happy and obviously have moved on with your life then they might consider getting reconciling with you.

Most people want to be with somebody who is in high spirits all the time and who always makes them happy too. They want to be with someone who makes them feel special and someone who truly cares. So be a good friend to them.

Make them aware that you are worthy of their love and let them know that they are important to you. By doing this, you will strengthen your relationship together and make things better. Your love should be stronger than before and should last a lifetime.

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Why to Love Your Work

  • Posted on July 1, 2009 at 10:12 pm

The prospect of retiring soon–or ever–has dimmed for a lot of us. If you’re going to be in the workforce for a very long time, there is one thing that’s absolutely essential: LOVE WHAT YOU DO.

Once we’ve been at something for a while, it’s comfortable to just keep doing it, even if it never was fun. But it makes heaps more sense to do what you love.

If the thought of doing what you are doing now until the day you die feels like drinking a large glass of vinegar, please make plans to do something else. Here are five good reasons to use that strategy.

JOB SATISFACTION: The first reason is, of course, that it makes your life more satisfying. When you love your job, you go to work happy and you come home happy. That translates into better health. Let’s not kid ourselves. No job is perfect all day every day. But if most days have you humming while you grade the papers, adjust the machine, or flip the burgers, you’re onto something.

If, on the other hand, just pulling into the company parking lot makes you want to throw up, you have a little remodeling project to take on. You need to make your work match yourself or you’re going to miserable 24 hours a day.

This sounds simple, but quite often it isn’t. Often, you get to “That’s it. I’m outta here” before you realize the problem. Being “outta here” without a plan for what you want to do next isn’t such a good idea in this economy.

There are good books to help you figure out what you really want. (Books by Martha Beck, Barbara Sher, and me all offer help with this.).) You can try a life coach. Or do a Vision Quest. You can contemplate you left thumb for fifteen minutes every morning until the light starts to dawn if that’s what works for you. Do SOMETHING to discover the kind of work that thrills you when you think of it.

The best clues are how you feel when you encounter the work that’s really yours. The idea of getting involved in it will be energizing. You will have a calm sense of confidence as you start to explore it. Be sincere in looking for YOUR answers. And be open to what comes. You will be amazed.

TALENT MATCH: When you do what you love, the probability that you are truly suited for it goes up exponentially. I have a long time friend who was a good geologist. He could also sell salt water in the Mariana Trench. When he linked his natural sales skills with what he knew about rocks, his prospects skyrocketed. He sold mining and construction equipment quite successfully.

PERCEIVED VALUE: People like to work with those who are happy at what they are doing. When you do what you love, you do it well. Customers or clients will love you. The people who love what they are doing are the ones who get asked to be on the company dream teams, too.

This is not a case of faking it for the sake of advancement. There’s an intuitive piece to this that you just can’t counterfeit. If you like what you do, people like working with you. Period. So find what you like. Find what you LOVE.

JOB SECURITY: Loving what you do will not guarantee you never get laid off. Not even working for yourself guarantees that anymore. But when you love what you do, you find other ways to use what you know to be able to keep doing it.

If you are told they don’t need you as the team lead manufacturing elephant harnesses and you love leather, there are other ways to work with it. If you love to work in a kitchen and just got let go as a short order cook, you may hire on with a caterer, or make nightly meals for clients who can then look forward to your delicious deliveries after a long day of their own work (also at something they love, I hope).

LONGEVITY: You can try to MAKE yourself like what you are already doing, but that doesn’t work for long. The real answer is to find something you love doing whether you get paid for it or not. That solution gives you one last plus–something you will be happy continuing to do–in some form–for as long as you live.

Including for money if you need to. There are lawyers still active in law at age 99; a favorite centenarian story was of a woman still proofreading for the St. Louis Dispatch after her 100th birthday.

Do what you love and use it to thrive–for a long time

Copyright (c) 2009 Mary Lloyd

Mary Lloyd is the author of Supercharged Retirement: Ditch the Rocking Chair, Trash the Remote, and Do What You Love. She offers seminars on how you can create a meaningful retirement for yourself and consults to help your business attract and use retired talent well. She is also available as a speaker. For more insights on how to live well in retirement and before it, go to => http://www.mining-silver.com .

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The Best Ways To Reduce Stress And Anxiety

  • Posted on July 1, 2009 at 10:12 pm

Dad, is it OK if we have a quick chat? I always have time for you son, you know that. Thanks Dad, well as you know and can no doubt hear I have this stuttering problem and it is causing me all kinds of problems. I am often stressed out and anxious as I constantly fear the fact that I am going to stutter when speaking to people. I just want to be able to relax, smile and be happy – in the same way that other people do. Son, I realise it is tough for you and I will do everything that I can to help. Thanks Dad, it is much appreciated.

The above is a conversation that I had with my father when I was aged fifteen. My whole family had been a massive support for me since the age of four which is the age when I developed the stutter.

My dad did manage to help me to reduce the amount that I stressed. He did this by taking me to specialists and by bringing home books about the subjects of stress, anxiety, depression, confidence and self-esteem from the library.

This helped to understand that I should appreciate the things that I have in life rather than always focusing on the things that I haven’t.

I should approach life with a positive, I can do, attitude and that the words “I can’t” do not exist.

Where I am not happy with a particular aspect of my life I need to work hard to try to improve the situation.

I should not accept second best in life as to do so would be to accept failure.

I have been doing these things for a long time now and I have to say that the difference it has made to my life has been incredible. It also helped me to overcome the stutter when I was aged twenty-two.

Steve Hill is a webmaster from Birmingham, he has interests in a number of websites including:
stuttering information
lower call charges
DVD replication

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Surviving the Loss of a Loved One

  • Posted on July 1, 2009 at 7:36 pm

Losing a loved one is one of the most difficult and profoundly life-changing experiences that a person can go through. Many people who have recently experienced the death of someone they cared for are concerned that they will never feel “right” or happy again, or that the pain they are feeling will remain a constant for the rest of their lives. This is especially true for people who have not suffered such a loss in the past, although they are not the only ones who experience these fears.

Some people living with grief find it useful to learn that their experience is typical. This does not only help them feel less alone with their feelings, but also offers hope that they will be able to survive this terrible experience. Coping with feelings of intense loss is not easy, but it is possible.

What is “Normal”?

When it comes to handling intense emotions, nearly everything is normal. Everyone handles shock and pain in his or her own way. For example, it is perfectly normal to:

Cry, or not. Some people worry that crying is a sign of weakness that could make them a “burden” on those who might worry about them. Others worry that not crying shows they are not truly missing their loved ones. Neither one is true; crying helps some but not others.

Experience unexpected “triggers.” Sometimes mourning people seem to turn a corner and begin to feel better. Then, something reminds them of their loss and they are suddenly in pain again. This is a normal experience that should lessen with time, but it may take a long time.

Feel irrational anger. It is human nature to look for someone or something to blame for our suffering. Sometimes there is no logical target for our anger, so we begin to focus on something that cannot really be to blame. As long as this anger does not interfere with your ability to function, it is perfectly normal.

Of course, the fact that the pain you are feeling is typical does not make it any easier to bear. While you wait for things to improve, be sure to take care of yourself. Do not be afraid to rely on friends and family for support, and do not forget to eat well and exercise.

When Grief Will Not Lift

It is important to note that grief can cross a line into clinical depression, at which point professional care may be needed. Anyone who is experience intense feelings of hopelessness, an inability to face daily tasks, or thoughts of suicide needs to contact a doctor right away.

Grief can be compounded when surviving loved ones know their loss could have been avoided if a third party had been more attentive or careful. To learn about legal options for families seeking justice, contact Minnesota wrongful death attorneys Terry, Slane & Ruohonen, PLLC.

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