I am re-posting this in the hopes that I will get more answers. I have edited this to show that I am not a bad mom, I added more information.
Alright, long story short, I kicked my 16-year-old daughter out around 5 months ago. She had been extremely hostile toward me for probably a year before I did, not really answering me completely and being rather secretive. She spent all day in her room, was failing most of her classes and didn’t go to prom or any school field trips. She never spoke to me. One night, around 2am, she came home extremely drunk, after telling me she was going over to a friends house. I’d had it with her and I told her that if she was adult enough to be drinking, she was adult enough to not live with “mommy” anymore. I give her a choice to leave right away or to go upstairs and pack a bag and then leave, and she took a bag full of her clothes and left, crying.
Flash forward 3 months, I get a call from the hospital. She’s extremely disoriented, saying that she’s hearing deep voices and sounds, that people are out to get her and are listening to her thoughts. She was saying the craziest most paranoid things. After a couple weeks in the hospital, the hospital called me to come over, and then said that she could be put on medication and that I could take her home with me if I wanted. She’s not schizophrenic, she’s bipolar and was in a manic episode or something, hence the voices. Hoping that she’d finally behave, I agreed, giving her a second chance.
It’s been a couple months. She’s still extremely hostile, she just sits in bed all day staring at her wall. Occasionally, I’ll pass her room and she’s crying violently. She does this for hours at a time. In the time she’s been home, she hasn’t said more than a few words to me, but she can speak. She talks to my son, who’s 4-years-old, but only when he speaks to her first. He asks her to play video games quite often, and she has helped him with homework when I am not home. She’s in therapy but I doubt it’s working. She refuses to take medication, I have asked her to probably over a dozen times in the past couple months, but she always declines. If I ask her to do something, such as take out the trash, she does it extremely slowly with a blank expression on her face. I have to ask her to shower, she’s got that heroin chic look going on. She used to have good looking boys all over her, now she barely combs her hair and her eyes are always red, the only boys that want her are the rebels. (goths and emos)
She cares about no one but herself, and I’m sick of her. She does not say thank you when I do something for her and she’s pretty much an adult now, she’s almost sixteen and a half. I did not sign up for this, I have a 4-year-old to take care of, for goodness sakes! I’m at the verge of kicking her out again, I’ve caught myself looking at job openings for her just to get her out of the house. What do I do?
