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My GF and I love each other and are happy together, but her mom won’t let us. Her mom’s an alcoholic. What2do?

  • Posted on December 12, 2010 at 6:17 pm

My GF’s mom is an alcoholic. I’ll refer to her mom as It. lol. It denies that she’s an alcoholic all the time. It won’t let her daughter be with me even though her daughter has said that she loves me and wants to be with me. I have done so much for it’s daughter and I have helped it’s daughter. It’s problem is that it doesn’t want anything good for its daughter. It admitted that its daughter is actually happy with me and it is extremely clear if you look at all the pics we’ve taken and the times we’ve had. My GF hates pics, but when she’s with me she loves taking pics and she says she’s more comfy with me than with anyone else, and she loves the way I make her feel with my poems and all the other stuff I do. My GF and I really love each other, but her mom, regardless of how obvious it is that her daughter is in love, won’t let her be with me. It’s like she doesn’t want her daughter to do better than her. I have a very lucrative future ahead of me and her daughter does too, but we want to share our happiness with each other. What can i do to get an alcoholic to let me date her daughter?

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I love my wife, I hurt my wife, I need my wife, I miss my wife, when does the this all go away?

  • Posted on December 10, 2010 at 1:23 am

Hello, one year ago I married the prettiest lady in the county. I met her at a local church. At that time I was in a drug and alcohol treatment center. After my wife found out that I was in treatment she accepted me with open arms. She stated to me that my recovery is her recovery as well. going into the relationship I bagan to use again. My wife found out and thats when things started getting bad in our relationship. My wife supported me through this ordeal of relapsing, and she even started going to meetings with me. I did not show any appreciation for her standing behind me. I began to become verbally abusive to her and her kids. I had the ambition to start a lawn business and she supported me with that. She financed me two trucks in which I still drive, She open up credit cards in which I abused. she also emptied her retirement because of me. On one day four months ago, I came home intoxicated, and high, I hit my wife that night and went to jail. she took out a temporary restraing order out on me. that night was my bottom and I admitted myself back into rehab. Even after taking out the restraining order she still allowed me to come over to spend time with the kids.I took advantage of that and became more selfish and controlling. I would call her a hundred times a day, texting her constantly, never taking no for an answer. She finally told me that she needs her space and time to heal. I did not understand that, realizing that I am currently in recovery and I need time to heal myself. My wife is very pretty, smart, intelligent, loving, and most of all she is a true christian lady. she has a 15 year old daughter and son that is going to be 10 in about a week. I love those kids like they were mine. I would express to them the importance of their education, I talked to them about life issues like a real father would. I spent alot of quality time with them, taking them out on fridays and doing the things they desired to do. I love those kids and I miss them. My wife has been out of a job for almost 31/2 months, the only income she is receiving is unemployment. I have been helping her as much as I can, but I lost my job, now I can’nt help her like I was. We both go to the same church, but she told the officials that she has a temporary restraining order and that we should be attendig different services. now she has totally shut me out of her life. she don’nt answer my calls, she don’nt call me, she may e-mail me if it something importat or she is mad. She is very bitter towards me and I have become afraid of her. she still allows me to drive the two vehicles thats in her name and I still have a few of my things in the house. Today, I am doing good in recovery, I am deeply involved in the church, and I am growing in the word of god every day. I am doing it for me now.These are the questions I need help with, she is not telling me anything like she wants a divorce or what our future will be like, when wiill she talk to me again,? I am giving her space and time to heal, when do I know when to contact her? I Got a part time job this week, do I tell her? What do I do now? I have acknowledge my wrongs and I take full responsibility for what I did. I love her and she is the lady I want to be with for the rest of my life. No one knows how I feel besides God. I truly love her. I just want us to live a joyous and happy spirutual life now. And I want to rebuild what I tore down of hers. She is currently atending co-dependency classes and various other groups. When do i ask her will she attend marriage counseling with me after I finish with my individual counseling? At what point do I give up and file for divorce? Or do I just hang in there? Please help me, i need and want my family back.

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My GF and I love each other and are happy together, but her mom won’t let us. Her mom’s an alcoholic. What2do?

  • Posted on December 9, 2010 at 2:17 am

My GF’s mom is an alcoholic. I’ll refer to her mom as It. lol. It denies that she’s an alcoholic all the time. It won’t let her daughter be with me even though her daughter has said that she loves me and wants to be with me. I have done so much for it’s daughter and I have helped it’s daughter. It’s problem is that it doesn’t want anything good for its daughter. It admitted that its daughter is actually happy with me and it is extremely clear if you look at all the pics we’ve taken and the times we’ve had. My GF hates pics, but when she’s with me she loves taking pics and she says she’s more comfy with me than with anyone else, and she loves the way I make her feel with my poems and all the other stuff I do. My GF and I really love each other, but her mom, regardless of how obvious it is that her daughter is in love, won’t let her be with me. It’s like she doesn’t want her daughter to do better than her. I have a very lucrative future ahead of me and her daughter does too, but we want to share our happiness with each other. What can i do to get an alcoholic to let me date her daughter?

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My GF and I love each other and are happy together, but her mom won’t let us. Her mom’s an alcoholic. What2do?

  • Posted on December 7, 2010 at 6:17 am

My GF’s mom is an alcoholic. I’ll refer to her mom as It. lol. It denies that she’s an alcoholic all the time. It won’t let her daughter be with me even though her daughter has said that she loves me and wants to be with me. I have done so much for it’s daughter and I have helped it’s daughter. It’s problem is that it doesn’t want anything good for its daughter. It admitted that its daughter is actually happy with me and it is extremely clear if you look at all the pics we’ve taken and the times we’ve had. My GF hates pics, but when she’s with me she loves taking pics and she says she’s more comfy with me than with anyone else, and she loves the way I make her feel with my poems and all the other stuff I do. My GF and I really love each other, but her mom, regardless of how obvious it is that her daughter is in love, won’t let her be with me. It’s like she doesn’t want her daughter to do better than her. I have a very lucrative future ahead of me and her daughter does too, but we want to share our happiness with each other. What can i do to get an alcoholic to let me date her daughter?

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HELP!!! Will a good man marry me and love my daughter?

  • Posted on November 21, 2010 at 1:21 pm

I have been asking a lot of questions regarding my husband who is an alcoholic and a drug addict. I am 24 years old and the proud mommy of my 19 month old. Even though I have a husband(since I have not divorced him yet) I feel like I am betraying him. I have all these mixed feelings about starting the divorce process, but my husband has done nothing for me or our daughter. I have been living w/my parents a month before she was born after I had to leave him bcause he tried to break a chair over my 8month belly. He went thru a 9month rehab program and I was very supportive by being there for him, he graduated the program and was out in the “real” world for less than 3 months…and guess what? He got fired from his job because he was getting drunk every day and also using cocaine. He blew off every single dollar he would get and the last people on his mind were my daughter and I. Thank God I live w/my parents and my daughter stays home w/my mom while I work on the weekends; this allows me to support my daughter and help my parents out w/their bills as well (which is the least that I can do after they have been there for me since I gave birth) I want to divorce my husband he has hurt me a lot both physically and emotionally. He lied to me and told me that he was working very hard to get an apartment so that we could be one happy family and I believed him. He used me and made me look like a fool because I believed him and thought this time it was going to be “real” he only called me to tell me that he was back at the rehab center which he graduated from August 2008-the same month my baby turned #1. He also pawned his wedding ring which I struggled to pay for. I am definitely getting that ring out, but it will never be his again. I never wanted my daughter to grow w/out her real father, but he isnt any good. Even after being there for him through thick and thin he has been making the same mistakes for the past2 years and I have no plans on putting my life on pause again for him to see if he will change one day. I have dreams and hopes. I want a good man to love me and my daughter and be good to her. Will this ever happen? Will a man ever accept me since I have a daughter? I just want this nightmare to be over. I dont understand why I feel like if I am betraying my husband when all he has done for us is absolutely nothing?

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newly single mother would love some advice?

  • Posted on November 15, 2010 at 7:21 am

my husband has shows MAJOR signs of bipolar schizophrenia. he mumbles to himself, he’s EXTREMELY paranoid, he has the extreme highs and lows of bipolar, he is very promiscuous, the list just goes onn and onn. with all of this on and off for 6 years he has been an alcoholic and has a major problem with oxycontin and we suspect heroin. when he doesn’t get the oxycontin he drinks rum by the gallons. i’ve known him for six years but he claimed and hid very well that he was clean and sober for over a year ( or i wouldn’t have even gotten with him in the first place). he relapsed 2 times that i know of. long story short i got pregnant and we got married and about 2 months in money started missing jewelry i had purchased for him started missing i started noticing the mumbling to himself and the pacing and the constantly having to touch things and position things a million times. he constantly lied before we got married about where he was going and what he was doing. he went through all of the money we had for baby things and every day was just a constant fight that he would start so he could leave. i warned him multiple times if it he kept relapsing i would leave him and he did exactly that full throttle. if anyone going through or has gone through the same thing? any advice? im not a crazy person that would keep their child away from them but im genuinely scared for my daughters safety.
its possible to have bipolar schiziphrenia. they just have multiple symptoms of different things
and yes i knew it was drugs i warned him if he did drugs again i would leave him but he still chose to do it and i havnt had the baby yet lol so i cant really talk to her as of yet which is what scares the heck out of me because she isnt old enough to speak up fo rherself.
thank you so much the last 2 people for those comments they truly helped me a lot. especially the last one. this is extremely hard for me but im extremely fortunate to have my family backing me in this and being extremely supportive and am very blessed and it feels good to hear from other people that im truly doing the right thing. he says he doesnt want to go to rehab because he doesnt want to tarnish his name…. daddys a big shot at the company that he works at… it just crushes me to find out that he was cheating and stealing and everything.

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Does my Dad even love me…?

  • Posted on November 1, 2010 at 4:32 pm

My parents have been going through a divorce for exactly a year now. Me and my mom moved out and gave him the house. There were a bunch of reasons for doing this. My Dad is medically a compulsive liar. Quoting him, “It’s easier to lie than tell the truth” when my mom asked why he lies so much. And he opened up a secret bank account, storing away money he could use on strippers. Lets say, 1,000 dollars a month? Yep. I am convinced he’s a sex addict on top of the alcoholism he denies. But what hit me the hardest is him taking my Mom to court to lower child support & maintenance. Yesterday a letter came saying that my 1,021 dollar child support dropped to 600 dollars because “he’s income has drastically changed”.

This guy is the top producing mortgage originator in our area – in a recovering economy and is income is DROPPING? I don’t think so.

I feel like he has always put what he wants over my wants & needs. When I needed a father at night to protect our house from being broken into, he was out drinking with his buddies (and for all I know getting a lap dance). When I had surgery he visited me once and then stayed home. He told me he can’t give me things because he’s not making a constant salary each month, when the truth is an extra hundred dollars goes towards a stripper.

Does this sound even close to how a father should treat his daughter?

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Does my friend love me? Or have I blown it?

  • Posted on October 24, 2010 at 7:25 am

Personally, I do not need men answer this question, I am asking the ladies out there for their opinions on this subject. In the past I have done som things involving girls that I am not exactly proud of, did not believe in cheating on girls, but also really the feelings for any either. I would say I fell between a nice guy and a player towards women, although I am a Marine and Martial Artist of 13 years. I was in Iraq, and when I met this girl, despite her stunning beauty, I was not interested in her for any other reason than a business relationship, at best a friendship. The nature of our job meant we were constantly around each other, so naturally, we developed a friendship, ok, that happened, and I woud soon be breaking about every man law. She was having a hard time with her life, I was having extreme depression from what I saw in Iraq; she at times would even cry to me about her life. I was still cool with just being friends at this point. It was like if you have seen that show TruBlood when the black girl explains how we all dream of the person we can share everything with, that is how we started as friends, typically you do not even get that in a serious relationship. We both stood by each other through hard times, she even remained my friend after saying some nasty shit to her. She would often come over and stay late, just talking all night, until I would take her home, sometimes to a guy she might be seeing. The first chance I missed was when she slept next to me on the couch, with our heads touching, weird right?, but nothing more. I started to slightly have feelins, but given her past and troubles, and me not being in the right mind frame, I did nothing. The first time I knew there was more was one night we she kept calling me during my job asking if I was ok, over and over, she was slightly intoxicated, but not to bad. She even told me she loved me at one point, and then called me a name she used to call the only guy she was ever serious with. That night I took her to the guy she was seeing, but she hated, she just felt trapped. she did not want to go in and grabbed my hand and told me several times that she really loved me. She was slightly drunk, I was sober and I froze at what she said. I did not know how to respond, but I knew then I loved her too, I don’t know, it froze me and shook me. Any other time in a car under those circumstances, the girl would have definetely been mine, but I was caught off guard because that night I fell for her. It took me over a week to respond and give her those words back. That chance though slipped through my hands. We even went on a vacation together in NC, where we each said I LOVE YOU Again, but once again I froze. We even slept in the same bed one night and I did nothing. I broke about every man law possible with her, but I do not know, I guess I was scared. As a man I know I needed to make the move, I fucked up several times because I just was not in the right mindframe to not be shaken by it all. She even while down there on our last night grabbed my hand in the classic jointing the fingers fashion and was all over me at the club, even grabbed me to say lets go, I knew I had her, but as bad luck would have it, she passed out on the ride back to the room. Shit, I am 24 years old and feel like a child about all this, breaking my pride to even be writing this. She was single all summer and I did nothing and now she has a boyfriend and and I am filled with questions and regret regarding my lack of action. The funny thing is, we do more now than ever. Jusr a week ago she invites me to a bar with her mom who I had never even formally met up to that point, and then after that we ate at a TeeJays and her mom said you really like my daughter don’t you? I said yes, very much so. She then said I would love my daughter to be with you because I know you really care about her, I had never met the woman so knew that meant the girl I am referring to talked about me. She is even planning a trip to Vegas with me,, not her boyfriend when she turns 21 next September. What has made the situation so unusual and hard to move forward is we learned all the bad about each other first, and then started to see all the good in each other. I have a couple of questions to you ladies, because a guy cannot answer this and I have enough womanizer friends to give about any guy answer I could ever hear. I wrote this and the situations as honestly as they happened. First, does it seem as though she cares about me far more than as a friend? Second, have I blown it with her and have I stuck myself in that cycle of only being a friend? Finally, if you think the feelings are there with her too, how do I break that cycle so we can become more? I just know she amazing, and I have never trusted a girl in my life outside of family, and she does not trust many guys, but we trust each other and have said that many times. What should I do because it seems more real than any relationship I have ever

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Do you love this poem or what? What is it about, you think?

  • Posted on October 21, 2010 at 10:22 pm

Shell Shock Venus, aborted at sea.
Her youthful uniform torn open and free.
Floating where the whirlpools swirl
Men came diving for her pearl.

They’d scour her surfaces,
She’d dredge up their deep.
In a chaotic universe, shallow and sweet.
And as the merman hurled
Woman went careening from the girl.

And no line of questioning
Could penetrate her nerve.
But something was tapping her reserve.

Ashes of innocence, splinters of dreams.
Her anger in residence, ripping the seams
And petrifying fast;
She anchored to that mast.

Through waves of ecstasy
They’d compromise
But something was lacking in her eyes…

Reptiles in water, a goddess in heat.
We dreamt of a daughter, Venus and me.
Floating where the whirlpools swirl
Men came diving for her pearl…

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Have you had anyone you love get lost in the meth world?

  • Posted on October 21, 2010 at 5:20 pm

My life was turned upside down cause my husband got lost in the meth. I am not a user and i couldn’t believe how this drug can destroy a persons mind and the hell we went thru. My daughter and I are now safe and moved to a wonderful place. Have you seen the hell of meth and the destruction it can cause?

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