I am in a relationship (not married) and we have a 3yr old. I am so unhappy, but I am scared of kicking him out. I do like his family, and if we could get along then it would be ok. But as it stands, I am tired of getting nit picked at, I am tired of his drinking, am I hate having to walk on eggshells.
What makes it so difficult for me is the fear of how this will effect our daughter. I know she loves him, and his family. But if we split then I don’t trust that he will stick around, and if he doesn’t then I don’t know that his parents will either.
Truth be told I wonder some times if it wouldn’t be better if he was out of the pic. He constantly is lying and neglecting our daughter…I can’t even leave her alone with him. But I worry about leaving because I am nervous about him having her alone for whole weekends at a time. I couldn’t trust that he wouldn’t be drinking (and who knows what else) and ignoring her. I have even thought about calling the cops on him since I found out he has a warrant. I just don’t know what to do, I feel so trapped..
When i 1st met him, he lied about everthing, when I noticed his drinking habits I left, but it was to late…I was already pregnant. So I thought I would do the “right thing” and try and work it out. That was 5 years ago.
I recently told him I was going to go get counseling, he said he would go, but I dont know that its going to help. I am willing to try, for my daughter’s sake, but I hate being around him anymore. I cant imagine that he does either (we never have sex) but when I try to talk about it he says he’s fine….I feel like I am going crazy. How can I make the correct choice? How can I leave and keep my daughter safe from his addictions and attitudes?
What about my daughter…how will this effect her?
my duaghter will be 4 in Aug
his parents did pay for him to go to rehab when I was pregnant. But before that they didn’t see his 1st kid for about 3 yrs,because he wasn’t seeing them…or his kid for that matter
