I had an alcoholic dad (who is now sober and I turn to for everything) and an abusive mom growing up. my mom had full custody of me as my dad was in prison for a DWI. my whole life i was afraid of my mom. when i was in 5th grade i over floated the toilet with too much toilet paper and she beat me. few weeks later CPS was called and nothing happened. my sophomore year of high school my mom found out i sneaked out to the front yard since my then boyfriend brought me sonic. she beat me when she found out and even gave me a black eye. CPS was called and what happened? nothing. Senior year comes around and my mom thought i was pregnant. she made me take a pregnancy test in front of her. i was really nervous and couldn’t pee right away so she beat my head on the bathroom floor and was hitting me. when she released me i ran to the neighbors house while she tried pulling my hair to make me come back in the house. i got away ran to the neighbors house and what did they do? nothing. didn’t call the cops or let anyone know. After that my mom had sent me to leave with my dad who lived in San Antonio, Texas. My mom lived in Austin, Texas with my step dad and my half sister. She always told me how she f***ing hated me and wished she never had me. the list goes on and on with my mom. she had a very abusive mother so she treats me they way her mother treated her. yet that’s not an excuse.
now here I am married and stuck on a hard decision. my mom and i hadn’t talked in a while after the fact that she called my husband and i white trash and etc. the other day she contacted me and we began talking. she told me her and my step dad were getting a divorce and she had found someone else already. i was completely shocked because she should be focusing on her youngest daughter not men. the only reason i was talking to her is so i could see my 6 year old sister. my mom said how she wanted to spend time with my husband and i which i found odd because she was just calling us names the other week..well today her now ex husband (who is my sisters dad) asked if i could testify against my mom in court and say what kind of a mom she was to me so he can get custody.
and here i am stuck. my step dad was a great man to me. while my dad was away he was there and i always felt safe around him..his business made him travel and it would come to a point where i didn’t want him to leave because i would be alone with my mom and i was scared. my mom and step dad would always fight..he showed anger towards her but not my sister and i. it got physical with them one time and my step dad got arrested..my mom was just as guilty yet she played mrs innocent. i love my baby sister with ALL my heart and only want the best for her. the thought of me testifying makes me sick..i don’t know.
if you were in my shoes would you testify and why?
please serious answers.