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My fiance smoked meth until she was six ,months pregnant will my baby be ok>?

  • Posted on January 20, 2011 at 6:20 pm

our ultra sounds and blood work have been ok but i am still very worried about my soon to be new born daughter

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What should I do? My husband is an alcoholic and in the past three months he is getting worse he now has taken

  • Posted on January 12, 2011 at 10:17 pm

up smoking pot. He has not wanted me to work for some time. I work two days a week every other week. I have had enough he was drunk on Christmas when we had family here and had to keep running to go get high. He even let his son drink here. I blew up. This man is 47 years old and he acts like he is 16. He goes to work and performs his job. He just can not be a father or a husband. He goes out every free moment he has from work. He dose not do one thing around the house. With the house or car and truck. He has two boys they are 16 & 18 he dose not spend any real time with them. I have a daughter she is 22 and pregnant and she said she will not come here again after the baby is born. She said she just won’t take the risk. I can’t blame her. I just don’t know how things have gotten so bad. I can not stand living this way I feel all alone. I have asked him to go get counseling for himself and us. He said he has no problem. I don’t fit into his plan in life. I don’t want to spend every night in the bar. I am waiting for my daughter to have the baby and then I plan on getting two jobs and get out of here. Am I wrong to do this? I just can’t take it anymore. Someone please help me what should I do?
My daughter lives in NY with her boyfriend. I live in PA. My daughter dose not want to take the chance of loosing her child while she is here because of his drug use and him involving all of us with him serving his oldest son drinks.My daughters boyfriend all so feels the same way he is fed up.

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My close friend blew me off for 8 months after I had my baby, now expects to just pop back into my life?

  • Posted on November 14, 2010 at 1:23 pm

If it had been someone I wasn’t close to or didn’t talk to very often I wouldn’t have cared so much, but this was one of my very best friends. We talked all the time, helped each other thru bad times, had playdates with our kids and shared babysitting, and have been friends for 13 years. When I had my daughter in January, I called her from the hospital to tell her the baby was here. She texted me back and said she was sick and didn’t want to come to the hospital and would call me later…..didn’t hear from her for 7 months. I know that I could have called her, but I had just had a baby, by c-section, was moving, and was hurt that she never called. I felt like I didn’t have to call and beg her to come and meet my new baby. So a couple weeks ago, she sent a request to add me as a friend on facebook..but no message or anything, so I waited to add her because I wanted to think about it first. We have a lot of mutual friends and I have heard over the months that she has become a nasty person and that she’s been taking ecstasy and I wasn’t sure if I wanted to be friends with her anymore. I also felt that I was owed some kind of apology or honest explanation. I added her anyway because I decided that after 13 years of friendship, I should see what she had to say. Expecting an apology, this is what I got…” hey girl, sorry, I lost your number, hope you don’t hate me. I had something for your baby girl.” She lost my number?!?!?! I’m sure it didn’t just fall out of her phone, and since we have about 15 friends in common, I’m sure she could have gotten my number from someone else in the past 7 months. I really felt insulted, like she thinks I’m that stupid that I would accept that BS excuse! I didn’t even respond..didn’t know what to say to that. What would you do? What should I say to her, if anything? Should I even try to rekindle the friendship? Thanks:)

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9 months old baby hit on the head?

  • Posted on November 7, 2010 at 1:22 pm

hi all, pls help! this 2 days in the row, i let my husband to help me to take care of my baby’s daughter, while im run the house errands. and 3 times in the row, our baby fell hit on the head!

the first time, she was put on the box and play by pushing her. after he played with her, he was busy with his computer, and our baby was trying to get out of the box and fell down and hit the metal sofa on her forehead and she got bruised with that. I give her the ointment after that.

the second time, he was playing with her and throwing her up in the air and catch her again (u know what i mean right?). He did it so hard and the baby fly to the air so high and hear head hit the ceiling!!!

the third time (was the major piss off), he was putting her on the edge of the sofa bed and while he was only 5cm distance reading magazines. He couldn’t even catch her for not falling down! and this time really hard because i could hear very loud bumping sounds, and she cried so hard till she was all sweating!

i have checked no lumps/bumps/ but I don’t know, I am not a doctor, and it’s late at night, couldn’t find a doctor. After that, we gave her water and put her to asleep.

can anything happens? She has been falling down like months before, or weeks before. Especially when she was learning to stand. I noticed (this is before these 2 days), everyday she likes to touch her heads,

second habit i noted, she sometimes shaking her heads like people who is on the ecstasy when listening to music (u know, it’s like shaking2 the head like u listen to music, but there was no music). She did that after a few seconds and then back to play again.

third habit is when she just woke up, she likes to throw her head forward and she fell on the face (but this is happened on the bed), and then she tried to wake up again, but then after a few minutes she would fall again, it’s like her head is so heavy to carry on her neck.

Is that a normal thing? Im really afraid and worried, especially these 2 days, she fell 3 times in the row and it’s weekend. I would bring her to see a doctor, but I am afraid they always said is nothing.

Please help!!!

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Help drying up my milk…baby is 3 months old?

  • Posted on October 17, 2010 at 9:23 pm

Please do not tell me I shouldn’t do this, because it is hard enough for me to HAVE to stop breastfeeding. I don’t need a lecture! I have struggled with my supply ever since my daughter was born. I have taken all of the herbs and drank extra water and I finally had enough to satisfy her. Well then I went back to work, and it dropped so I had to give one formula bottle while she was away from me. Now my thyroid levels have gone crazy and we can not get them settled, so my milk has dropped to nothing. When she nurses on both sides I still have to give her a 2 ounce bottle of formula. I have spoken to her pedi and he says to just stop and not beat myself up about it. But its hard, I feel like a failure. Anyways, I need suggestions on how to dry it up. It has been a little over 24 hours since I have nursed her and I am starting to feel full and hurt. What can I do, and is what is the fastest way to dry it up? Thanks in advance!

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husband smoking heroin, i am 8 months pregnant, have a three year old boy, should i leave him?

  • Posted on October 17, 2010 at 9:21 pm

the situation doesn;t seem to be getting better, i dont think he is taking a massive amount and still goes to work everyday and provides well for us. But he is not in very much, i feel like i have been on my own in this pregnancy. He has been taking on and off for a year and a half and lies to my face even when it is obvious that he has had some. This causes massive rows and I either get very very angry or very very upset. I love him so much but feel so stressed. I dont know how to stop him taking it. I am worried if I leave him he may get worse, but if I dont he will carry on anyway. I am so confused. All I want is me, him , our beautiful son and our unborn daughter to have a good life, but I can’t handle the constant worry and stress.
I dont think he has a proper habit as its not an everyday thing, its maybe a couple of times a week to my knowledge.. I have been with this man 8 years and he has been a good husband for the most part, that is why its so difficult to decide what to do. We have been through so much together. do any of you have realt experience in this sort of thing. Thanks for the constructive answers all you caring people.. and to all those with horrible stupid answers, please dont bother to post again.
err, my baby could be addicted???!!! How?? I thought that would be if I were taking it, which i definately am NOT. He doesnt do it in the house??…

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husband smoking heroin, 8 months pregnant, 3 year old boy .. should I leave him?

  • Posted on October 16, 2010 at 11:21 pm

the situation doesn;t seem to be getting better, i dont think he is taking a massive amount and still goes to work everyday and provides well for us. But he is not in very much, i feel like i have been on my own in this pregnancy. He has been taking on and off for a year and a half and lies to my face even when it is obvious that he has had some. This causes massive rows and I either get very very angry or very very upset. I love him so much but feel so stressed. I dont know how to stop him taking it. I am worried if I leave him he may get worse, but if I dont he will carry on anyway. I am so confused. All I want is me, him , our beautiful son and our unborn daughter to have a good life, but I can’t handle the constant worry and stress.

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Struggling With Alcohol Addiction Six Months Pregnant, Please Help?

  • Posted on September 25, 2010 at 4:17 am

Please no rude comments. This issue is already really hard on me. After giving birth to my first daughter i got severe post partum depression, and i started drinking heavily. six months after having her i got pregnant again by accident. so now I’m 6 months pregnant. and I’ll admit I know I have a bad drinking problem. I really want to get it under control, to give this baby the best chance to be healthy, and to be a good mother to my children. I know I’m a good mother, just struggling bad with this addiction. I just want to get help, but I have know idea what will really help to cure this addiction. I’ve tried counseling and it doesn’t seem to help. I think that god gave me this baby to help me straighten my life out. It could have even saved my life maybe. my marriage was starting to fall apart with my heavy drinking before I got pregnant with this baby. and ever since being pregnant I have been doing my best to cut down on the alcohol. I went from extremely heavy drinking before I found out I was pregnant, to only having a couple small drinks once a week. like two glasses of wine a week. I have had maybe one or two episodes of binge drinking. but I’m doing good lately. not drinking barely at all. I’ve had an ultra sound recently, and every thing was normal and doing good with baby. My baby is developing well, and my doctor said he didn’t see any signs of fas so far. which is good. I’m happy about that. so there’s a good chance I could have a healthy baby boy. I love my baby, I really do and I don’t want to hurt it. I really want help. I’m scared. every day is a struggle and a battle between me and the alcohol. I have to fight to not touch it. which i’ve been doing good, but i’m so scared that after this baby is born, i may relapse back to my old heavy drinking habits if I don’t seek some major help now. but I don’t know how to get help, or what will really help. It feels impossible for me to break free of this addiction. any one ever deal with anything like this, or know any one who did, any advice or help would be great. and please don’t judge unless you’ve been in my shoes. thanks.

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C-section Scar Hurting 14 months after?

  • Posted on September 2, 2010 at 11:21 pm

I had an emergency C-section with my daughter in july 2008. I train horses and started ridding 8 weeks after and recently started having sex again (it had been a year and a half since i had had sex). and my c-section scar still hurts when I ride allot and now its hurting when im having sex. Is this normal for it still to hurt? And sometimes it hurts so bad I have to take pain killers for it (vikaden or percocet, sorry its miss spelled)
no there is no bluging infact my scar is starting to fade really well

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why is my divorce taking so long to settle after 18 months?

  • Posted on August 26, 2010 at 4:32 pm

I am living in our home, with a stay away order against my husband (who is an alcoholic and can become very irrational) He is extremely angry that I am living in the house and that he can not go on the property. we had previously agreed that I would buy him out of his share of the house, but now it seems that he wants the house. I have been waiting for a pre trial setting date since december 2006. We have shared custody of our children(which he bullied me into, and I deeply regret) He is living with his parents who have disowned me as their daughter in law of 20 years. They are all in denial of his alcoholism. I have been living in finiancial limbo for 18 months now, and would like to atleast have some stability financially.

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