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Should I let my Mother-in-law babysit my 3 month old daughter?

  • Posted on March 10, 2011 at 6:17 pm

My mother-in-law has been talking about babysitting my daughter since i found out i was pregnant. She is an alcoholic/drug addict and my FIL gives her the pills and buys her booze all the time. They dont see a problem with her babysitting as long as my FIL is there but im not comfortable with it. My sister-in-law thinks it’s unfair to her dad just because i dont want my MIL to be there. I feel really guilty that they barely see their first grandchild but i dont even want her at their house. Last weekend she was holding my daughter when she was drunk and started walking around with her and i told her to please sit down. My sister-in-law thinks i was being rude to her. My husband backs me up on my decision since he is overseas right now and im her main guardian untill he comes home. I don’t want my MIL around my daughter with either me or my husband untill she’s sober. Am I just being too overprotective? Should I let my FIL and MIL babysit together so i don’t feel so guilty or should I just go with my gut feeling?

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Is it wrong to not let my mother-in-law babysit my 5 month old daughter?

  • Posted on January 14, 2011 at 6:17 pm

My mother-in-law is an alcoholic but refuses to admit it. I know my father-in-law and sister-in-law will be there to help out and keep an eye out but I’m still very uncomfortable with the idea. She has never stepped foot in my house sober…which is why they don’t come over anymore and she’s rarely sober whenever we come to see them. I’ve seen her drunk around my daughter and I’m quick to take her away cause some of the things she has done scare me. She insists she’s not drunk when she is, and she does it when we we’re there, so why would it be different if we weren’t there?? She swears to us she won’t drink while she’s babysitting but I just don’t think I can trust her. She’ll say things one day and then the next it’s completely different. She’s mad and hurt that we haven’t let her yet and I am starting to feel bad about it. Am I right for being worried and not wanting her to babysit or is it something I need to learn to get over? This is our first child/her first grandchild.
We’ve had several fights about this with her while I was pregnant warning her. We don’t keep alcohol in my house because she and my brother are alcoholics and we don’t want them drinking around the baby at our house at least. My husband has been trying to convince me to let her watch her with his dad and his dad will keep close watch and if his mom winds up drinking then she’ll never watch her again until she gets help and quits drinking. I think it’s an good idea to test her out but at the same time I really don’t want to do it and I just know I’ll call every 5 minutes to check up on them.
We tried an intervention when I was pregnant with his dad and two sisters and she broke down crying “Why do you all hate me so much?” The therapist told her she needed to calm down among other things and since she didn’t like what the therapist had to say she walked out. The thing that kills me is his dad is a recovered AA for over 15 years now…I don’t see how he puts up with it.

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My mother-in-law gave my daughter a benedryl when at her house, now she asks for a pill to help her sleep!

  • Posted on September 6, 2010 at 7:21 am

My husband and I have been separated since march, we have 2 children and I am their primary care taker, supporter, therapists, full time mom and I run a business. They are 10 yrs old twins ( boy and girl). My husband is on medication and I am not. My husband and I have been recently trying to work out our differences and he has been spending alot of time at my house with me and the kids. Last night my son comes in the kitchen and says he has a headache can he have a pill, the night before last he asked me for a pill to help him go to sleep. This has all happened since my mother-in-law kept them one day when I was working and my daughters eyes were red and puffy and she gave her a benedryl (pink and white capsule) and she slept all day. Now they say “can I have a pill”? My husband is freaking out and I am trying to explain to him this is not something that has been going on forever, this is a new thing, and it was since they went to his mothers and he is angry, and confused and thinks that I have been giving them pills. He has a bad history of addiction and is afraid this is the writing on the wall. But he is making me feel like he is just wanting to blame me and says I am trying to blame it on someone other than myself. How should I handle this, I don’t want to hurt anyones feelings and I have not been giving my children pills(for gods sake) and they don’t even understand what it sounds like. I have explained to them if they have trouble sleeping a “pill” is not the answer, and to read or I read to them. They are only 10! But he is truly going overboard with his assumptions and accusations.

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Was the future mother-in-law of Palin’s daughter just arrested on METH charges?

  • Posted on July 25, 2010 at 2:00 pm

I have no idea if it is true or not

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