My mum has been dating this guy for about 15 months now, he lives with us, just him, although he does have 2 kids of his own. A girl, 28, and a boy, 26. The girl moved up to our state just recently and stayed with us for a few months, she kept having dramas with her father and moved out. A few months ago, it was revealed that when she was 13 he was intoxicated and was lying on the bed… she went over to him and patted him on the back, he took things to the next level and fondled with her breasts and put his hands inside her pants. According to him, he said as soon as he found out it was his daughter he stopped and felt terrible. But according to her it is a different story. Now ofcourse he is going to deny everything. He has nothing to lose and everything to gain. After this little family drama was over – we all talked about it and decided that what was in the past was in the past. Let bygones be bygones. My mother had given him the benefit of the doubt, althought she was worried for mine and my brother’s safety, she had a gut feeling that he wouldn’t try anything though. I am 17 and my brother is 13.
Over the past month I’ve noticed some changes in my mum’s boyfriend’s behaviour. My brother had his bestfriend sleep over a few weeks ago and my mum’s boyfriend made a comment because my brother’s bedroom door was closed… he said, “what are you doing in there? comparing the size of your penis’s?” he has also said, “what are you doing in there? having sex?”.
The other day I got a phone call from my biology teacher and my mum’s bofriend answered, and when I came to the phone, he said loudly, “tell her I taught you about the birds and the bees”.
He has also made comments about my breasts. He said to me, “you have boobs just like your mother” – and I was wearing a tee-shirt with no bra on. He has also asked my mother if I wore a padded bra.
And the most recent… my boyfriend and are best friends. We’ve known eachother since I was 11 and we are really close. We are more like close bestfriends than boyfriend and girlfriend. My boyfriend has a great relationship with my mum and a ok one with her boyfriend. But last night my boyfriend came over and my mum’s boyfriend was curious to know what we were doing in my room. He said to my mum, “whenever I am here they are always in her room… what are they doing in there?”
What do you think???
I just think it is all a little creepy to me.
