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I need help on knowing what to do in order to remain living in the home that i am living with? Legal help plea?

  • Posted on March 28, 2011 at 8:20 pm

Heres a bulliten i pasted on myspace it basically explains everything.
I need advice on what to do i do not want to be removed from the home i live in.
I am 17 years old and have lived in the hyde home since march, i did extremely well in school there, i have a structured home there, and im so much better of there than i have been anywhere my whole life. My mom kicked me out three years ago and just shood me off onto my grandma then i stayed at my grandmas for a year or so and was treated ill. THere was druggies in and out of there everyday and my grandparents 15 year old daughter was smoking meth in the house. And not only did my mom give up on me three years ago since then she has had my two other sisters bouncing around from family members to family members. I just feel that in my past with my mom the longest i ever lived with her was 2 years and any time before then i would only live with her for two weeks or a few months at a time and then she would hand me off again. How i feel is she gave up a long time ago im 17 years old its a little to late to try and be my mom. And i didnt have a great relationship growing up with her she was mentally and physically abusive and i dont want to be in those circumstances again.

Dont believe a thing she has said all if it is totally untrue its all just a rumor my retarded sister started that has now blown way out of preportion. Beetle was arrested for domestic violence because we had an argument on the way home from the skate park and a woman drove by and told him to leave me alone and she was told everything was fine and to mind her own buisness which she should have been however she apparently told the police that he hit me and that didnt happen. When the police talked to me i told them to go ahead and take a look at me and see if there were any red marks on me. And were there no just a bruise on my leg from when me and Gesse beetles sister played hit for hit one night and everyone knows about that such as jessica, beaver, seth, haylee, sara, frenchy, phat c, corey mckowen, dk and many other people that actually witnessed that bruise be made haha.
Apparently my sister Marina is the one who started all of this drama. Apparently she believes for some reason that beetle had me layed out on the ground kicking me repeatedly but then again he did not do that and again i dont have any bruises from “being kicked and hit repeatedly”.
I will be testifying the truth about everything august 17th on beetles court date.
Me testifying will decide wether one i get to even be around beetle and two whether ill ge tto continue to live with beetle. If you would like to help or provide statements about the supposed abuse and about my living conditions to defend me so i can continue to live with the hyde family and be happy please contact me and reply to this:]

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I Need to Understand?

  • Posted on March 27, 2011 at 7:21 pm

I am a 55 year old woman and have always loved and treated my 2 adult children well, I have been divorced for over 19 years from their Dad. My daughter has a drug addiction problem and my son well….who knows. He takes and takes and shows no concern for my feelings. I was in a relationship with a man I met on the internet and left a good job and sold my home to try and start a life for myself. Turned out he was an alcoholic. I returned home feeling very lost and lonely. I had no employment or home , I stayed with my son briefly until I got a job. He has borrowed nearly 5000.00 from me and hasnt paid a penny back, he is out having a good time and buying things like babrbecue grills, tents etc. When I was in Florida, I flew my daughter and grandaughter there for a visit and on Easter Sunday she tried to beat me up. I am devestated with the events in my life. My daugher will not speak to me and I haven’t seen my grandaughter in over a year. My son avoids me. I don’t know what to do ?

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Need some outside advice?

  • Posted on March 26, 2011 at 10:20 pm

I knew this girl that was on heroin, she had an ahole bf that was an addict too. I did everything I could to help this girl, rode her to work, to see her daughter, to the meth clinic, listened to her problems and gave her a shoulder to cry on, never wanting anything in return but for her to lose the bf and get clean. What I got instead was lied to, burned down, disrespected, have stuff made up about me and told to everyone she would meet. So as u can imagine things ended badly between us.

Fast forward a year and a half, she is clean, she dropped the bf and from what her cousin says, she is doing very well. Thats great. But here is the problem, now that her cousin is clean and free from the ahole bf she wants to get her cousin and me back together. I already told her I wanted nothing to do with her cousin anymore, but knowing women the way I do, she is going to do what ever she wants anyway.

Now take into account this girl I tried to help, is NOT behind this. She still thinks im the one that was the ahole in the whole thing I would bet. I guess what im asking is what would u do in this situation. And, what would u do if this girl actually took responsability for what she did, appologized and wanted to make amends? Not that she has or I think she ever will.

I really dont need the drama in my life, and I honestly cant think of one reason having her back in my life would benefit me. Whats your take?

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Need help finding movie title.. about a alcoholic singer who rides motorcycle through window when drunk?

  • Posted on March 24, 2011 at 12:17 pm

the guy is an alcoholic who rides his motorcycle through a window and ends up (I think) in a mental ward. Then there is a girl (teenager) who finds out that he is her father and goes to meet him. The guy is surprised to find out he has a daughter, because he was never told about her. The mother was against and is against them spending time together. It then show the father and daughter getting to know each other at his mansion. He finds out that she can sing. The girls grandfather is also having a reunion with the band he was in, against his daughters wishes. The girl records a song at her dads studio and the dads manager steals it and she hears it on the radio (i think). She wants to go to some music school and mom says no she runaways to go to auditions for this school, dad and mom find out go to school on motorcycle to get her and watch from balcony and mom realizes how good she is.

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my mom is an alcoholic.. i had a talk with her and she didn’t hear me, do i need to do anything else?

  • Posted on March 22, 2011 at 4:17 pm

if you want back story here is my last question, it’s kinda long.

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Aq6Ox6230N0Ktt9pTrc5ll3sy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20091229195801AASrNVv

anyways i talked to her about the problems her drinking has caused.
poor judgment, being at the bar instead of with family on holidays, the poor example it sets for my kids…

she blamed me of course. she said i was judging her and i have no place to judge her for what she does on her free time. she even said my husband and i drink in front of our kids like on thanksgiving. well yeah, i had a glass of wine. but she spent thanksgiving at the bar and didn’t show up until hours after the meal… big difference. i am somewhat familiar with an alcoholic deflecting onto others.. she blamed everyone but herself, talked bad about everyone in my husband’s family (who by the way are wonderful people) so she didn’t look so bad… and then proceeded to ask for my daughter this weekend. -this was the basis of this talk in the first place. she can’t have either of my kids like this..

so from any of your experience, is there anything else i can or should do to make myself clear to her or is it a lost cause? part of me telling her about her problem was also so i could absolve myself of any guilt if/when she kills someone while driving drunk.. so should i just leave it at that and wait for her to come to her senses someday before i talk to her again? i’m just not sure, i feel like i owe her something, but at the same time i know i owe her nothing and that she will make her own bed.. i just don’t know.. my husband is ready to write her off. i don’t blame him and i almost agree. i just want to know i have done all i could.
your experience with an alcoholic is appreciated. thank you.

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alcoholic mom? i need to stop forgiving her…?

  • Posted on March 9, 2011 at 8:18 pm

i’m currently 14 and my moms been an alcoholic my whole and refuses to get help(no many how many times me and my dad try to get her too)
she’s managed to really mess me up in the past
just all the fighting and cursing really tore me down and i was in a very bad place for a couple years
im better now though
shes cursed me out, threatened me, insulted me, that kinda stuff
once when i was like 8 she told me she wished i wasn’t her daughter and that along with the combination of her leaving twice when i was a kid probably caused my inability to really let people in
im working on that now though
and once, this summer actually she attacked me
choked me, kicked me in the head and stomach that kinda stuff
i called the cops, and blah blah blah she has a record of child abuse now
last night some stuff just happened last night at her friends, that involved a lot of fighting
and now she’s all like going on about how certain friends think about me now, after all the ‘horrible’ things i did
now if they actually thought that about me then whatever i dont really care, ive learned to let go what others think of me
the thing is…i know thats not what they think…mainly because NONE OF THEM WERE EVEN THERE. lol she messed up on that part…and plus there my dads friends to and hes like i was just talking to one of them and they didnt say anything like that
and what started this whole thing was well actually i was in the bathroom and i heard her go on about how i’m an @$$hole right when she came home…i mean really! you just got home and theres alreaddy something you have to!
im just so sick of it, i learned to live without a mother figure(since she isnt one) and i know i dont need one anymore
problem is i always end up forgiving her, mainly because its hard not getting along with someone living in such a small house
by the way no my dad won’t leave her, and i dont have any family to stay with
how to i stop forgiving her?
because im sick of all the drama she puts into my life
how do i maturely give her the message that im over this childishness and next time she feels like saying something bad about me come to me not behind my back, and well be able to talk once she decides to handle her problems without alcohol

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I am miserable, I need advise?

  • Posted on March 3, 2011 at 1:21 am

I am in a relationship (not married) and we have a 3yr old. I am so unhappy, but I am scared of kicking him out. I do like his family, and if we could get along then it would be ok. But as it stands, I am tired of getting nit picked at, I am tired of his drinking, am I hate having to walk on eggshells.

What makes it so difficult for me is the fear of how this will effect our daughter. I know she loves him, and his family. But if we split then I don’t trust that he will stick around, and if he doesn’t then I don’t know that his parents will either.

Truth be told I wonder some times if it wouldn’t be better if he was out of the pic. He constantly is lying and neglecting our daughter…I can’t even leave her alone with him. But I worry about leaving because I am nervous about him having her alone for whole weekends at a time. I couldn’t trust that he wouldn’t be drinking (and who knows what else) and ignoring her. I have even thought about calling the cops on him since I found out he has a warrant. I just don’t know what to do, I feel so trapped..

When i 1st met him, he lied about everthing, when I noticed his drinking habits I left, but it was to late…I was already pregnant. So I thought I would do the “right thing” and try and work it out. That was 5 years ago.

I recently told him I was going to go get counseling, he said he would go, but I dont know that its going to help. I am willing to try, for my daughter’s sake, but I hate being around him anymore. I cant imagine that he does either (we never have sex) but when I try to talk about it he says he’s fine….I feel like I am going crazy. How can I make the correct choice? How can I leave and keep my daughter safe from his addictions and attitudes?
What about my daughter…how will this effect her?
my duaghter will be 4 in Aug
his parents did pay for him to go to rehab when I was pregnant. But before that they didn’t see his 1st kid for about 3 yrs,because he wasn’t seeing them…or his kid for that matter

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I want to raise money to help build a “well” in Kenya. They have no water and need a well what should I do?

  • Posted on February 23, 2011 at 5:23 am

My daughter just came back from Turkaya and they have not had a big rain fall in a long time. the river beds are all dried up and the water they do drink is very dirty. I want to raise money to help pay for a well to be built there. after the well I have a friend who does hydropontics and has come up with a way for them to grow food but they need the well first. any ideas??

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Does my 19 year old daughter need to seek therapy about her complusive shopping?

  • Posted on February 16, 2011 at 10:21 am

She has her own job and currently is the owner of a debit card. She spends like its going out of style. there is NO need for her to be buying 40 dollar bras, 60 dollar jeans, 300 dollar handbags, and fishing out 26 dollars for mascara, 14 dollars for eyeliner, and 14 dollars for lipgloss. that is completely uncalled for. So I just told her to hand me over her wallet, and i took her debit card Apparently she cannot control her shopping urges, so i’m doing it for her. She calls it retail therapy. i call it an ADDICTION that needs to be medicated. I told her she will not step FOOT into a shopping mall for 3-4 months. and she will also not be allowed to buy anything. She has enough clothes in her room to last her a lifetime i’m sure, what’s the need for more. I caught her in her room crying.

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i need help with my daughters father. Is there any hope of him getting it together if hes hooked on Meth?

  • Posted on February 9, 2011 at 9:20 pm
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