Ok, I just turned 35, I’m a single father of a 7 year old girl whom lives with me during the week and stays with her mother every weekend. I’m stressed out, I have to do everything but I handle it well, that’s me.
There’s a 28 year old kid in the apartment next door, he lives with his mother. They were here when I moved in 10 months ago and I’ve met him, see him outside all the time and we say hello and chat sometimes. Well about a month ago the guy comes to my door asking for a light for his cigarette, I oblige. So we chat for a bit and somehow we get on the subject of weed. I told him I smoke every once in a while. He mentions then that he has some weed right now and it’s good and I should come smoke with him. “I’m kind of busy right now” I said, “but maybe some other time”, he say’s “ok great”. He comes back an hour or so later and bums the lighter again, I then tell him that my brother is about to come down from out of state and visit in a week, (we used to smoke together), and asked if maybe he knew where I could get some(mistake). So he asks me if I could give him a ride to go get some because he doesn’t have a car, then we go… We get back to my place and I give him a few pieces of the weed as a thank you for getting it. I told him I would smoke with him but I only do it once in a blue moon just for fun and I was going to wait for my brother to get here.
The very next day the guy comes over about 5 times for various reasons, he needs a ride, to use the phone, just to see what I’m doing ect. A friend of mine left an almost full pack of cigarettes at my place a few days before and the neighbor spotted them and would come knock every few days and ask for one, I was nice and let him have some. I’m already getting annoyed at this point…
My brother comes down and visits and then goes back home, he saw the neighbor numerous times during his visit and said at one point “you messed up bro, learn to set boundaries, man” I said “yes”. But I wasn’t done messing up… A couple of weeks ago the neighbor comes knocking and asks me to take him, his girlfriend and their little kid to her house, I do it… It’s Friday, and I had just dropped my daughter off with her mom right before that, but I had nothing planned really so I just went home and lied down on the sofa after taking them. An hour later they knock… “Can my girl chill over here for a minute?, my mom doesn’t want her at my house”. Me:”Um.. for a minute”. So an hour later he comes back, but it wasn’t too bad, his girl makes for better conversation than him at least, she knows more than 20 words:] Anyway, she tells me she has a friend she wants me to meet, my neighbor looks at me and says “she’s fine” his girlfriend says “You want to go get her and then come back here and chill?” I’m curious now so I agreed to go and get her. We get there and indeed “fine” is the word.
We’re back at my house now, I’m wondering what’s up, the new girl starts asking me about what drugs I do, if I like crystal meth. So now I know what the deal is. I tell her I’ve tried it probably less than a handful of times, it’s been 9 years since I did. I used to have a roomate that was bad about it, I did a few lines with him, stayed up a weekend once or twice, but I never had a problem myself. I told her I wasn’t interested, sorry… The girl keeps asking me in round about ways if I would please buy some glass(crystal meth). Eventually I caved in, and we went to get it. I said I might smoke one hit and I’m done. We got back to my house and lit it up, the fine girl lit it for me and I got one big hit, they did some lines and my neighbor smoked the rest. So I’m high. We all sat and talked, traded life stories and stayed at my place for hours doing nothing.
My neighbor pulled me to the side and asked if he could borrow 20 dollars for us to get some more, he said he’d have it tomorrow. So we head back to the bowels of hell, the worst possible neighborhoods all over town, to the creepiest looking houses you could imagine looking for some more dope at 5am. We ended up going back to my house to use my house phone to call every dealer in town. Somebody ended up coming by and picked them all up and they left, the girls said bye, and thanks, my neighbor just left without a word, but he did however give me the money back after his girlfriend asked him to. They came back an hour or so later and knocked, I let them in, they said they could get more crystal, I gave him the 20 back and we went. I felt like hell and didn’t want to come down just yet.. This time I did a big line, they all smoked the rest, and then the pretty girl called somebody and got a ride out of here. My neighbor kept going between his moms and my apartment all day while his girl stayed and kept me compan
Sorry it’s too long, i just wanted some advise on how to get this guy to leave me alone without making an enemy, thanks to whoever reads it in advance.
She talked about him quite a bit, about how she can’t stand him, and that I shouldn’t trust him. Also how he creeps her out when he’s on crystal, and that he just got out of prison for a dangerous drug charge(crystal). Finally on Sunday morning I took her home, and didn’t see my neighbor until the next day.
Almost every day since then, and that was two weeks ago, the neighbor knocks on my door asking for something, usually to use the phone. He comes off as real nice and friendly so I guess that’s why I have a hard time telling him no. I have seen those two girls once since then, they called me and I told them they could come hang out for a couple of hours one night. They brought drugs and smoked, but I stayed on the other side of room. I started having second thoughts about spending time with them so I told them I had to get some sleep and they left. His girlfriend keeps calling me and telling me she thinks I’m cool and wants to be with me. I keep blowing her off and I said to her and
Ok my question is, how do I get this crackhead to leave me alone without having awkwardness between us? What should I say, how should I say it to make him get the picture, without making an enemy? I thought I had explained it enough to him, I can handle the girls, but this dude is thick he doesn’t get it.
