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i cant stop thinking about my niece who got adopted?

  • Posted on April 17, 2011 at 9:21 am

long story cut short here guys. 11 years ago my brothers druggie girlfriend got pregnant the same time as me and i was so happy to be a mum where my brothers girlfriend choose herion over her baby and left her on a bed at the hospital with a note saying do what you want with her as i don’t want her.there was no suitable family members to take her on on the mothers side of the family so then it come to our side of the family where my selfish brother did not want to know
(which is a good thing now as he is a waist of space and cant look after his other children). i was asking questions about taking her (baby) on myself but as a new mum myself of a month old baby and a not so supportive partner my hands were tied.
she was placed up for adoption and has gone to a very loving family as we exchange letters/photos and what i read she has come a long way from the baby that was a heroin dependent as soon as she breathed her 1st breath. i look at my own daughter who is the same age and it brings a lump to my throat knowing that i have a little niece out there who was rejected by her mum and dad and i just wish i could of done more and kept her in the family as it breaks my heart to think that she was rejected.
i know se has a wonder full life and her parents will love her dearly but i cant stop thinking about if it was my child that got adopted and none of her family wanted to know would this screw her up in the long run.
i have no doubt about her being in the rite hands but i cant stop thinking about her and thinking of my own children and how they would feel if they knew that there mum and dad gave up on them.
i have stayed in contact through a mailbox so i know there will be plenty of things for her to read through when shes older and know that someone from her biological family never gave up.do you think i will always feel thismsadness for her.
thanks guys any answers will be a big help x

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I feel my sister is an unfit parent, is there any thing I could do for custody of my niece?

  • Posted on March 14, 2011 at 11:22 am

I’m 19, my sister is 17, and her daughter is 11 months old. My sister is in a dysfunctional relationship with her boyfriend, who is addicted to heroin. They live at his grandma’s house, which is FILTHY! I’m suspicious of my sisters drug use. She has a history of using hard street drugs before she got pregnant. But now that the baby’s 11 months old I think she might go back to that. She told me she got coked out with her boyfriend. She’s also calling me and my mom all the time to watch the baby. We’ve had her all but two days for the last two weeks. When my niece is with me she NEVER cries (except when she’s super sleepy or gets hurt) she’s the happiest baby in the world. WHen I call my sister I hear the baby screaming in the background. I also went and picked the baby up the other day because when I called my sister was yelling at the baby to shut up, and that really pi$$ed me off. Today she demanded she have her daughter back (after she’s the one who told us she’s too stressed out to watch her and to take her) It’s just a possession thing with my sister, the fact that it’s HER baby. It breaks my heart when my niece is unhappy, I love her so much. I would get custody of her and raise her myself if possible, I know I can give her a better life and she will be taken care of so much better. What can I do???
I feel she is unfit because she also ignores the baby, like she will give her food or a toy and just walk away for the baby to entertain herself as my niece cries her eyes out. and I am very suspicious of my sisters drug use, because recently she’s lost weight, looks very pale, and her eye brows are SUPER thing (like she’s been tweeking and won’t stop plucking them) and her and her boyfriend are CONSTANTLY fighting in front of the baby, breaking up, getting back together, and crying all in front of my poor niece

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How can i make my 17 yr old niece stop using meth and go to detox/rehab?

  • Posted on December 26, 2010 at 8:20 pm

my 17 yr old niece is a meth addict and has been regularly for over a year now. my older sister (her mom) says that she has done everything to get help for her daughter but i disagree. she collects my niece’s child support even though she is not supporting my niece. i just received a text from my niece saying that she’s in big trouble: it’s nighttime and she is filthy and has only a tank top and shorts on. and is somewhere lying on a bench with a fever from a cold. i am so afraid for her and angry at my sis but i desperately need to try and find some kind of help for my niece. she shoplifts and commits other crimes but is never arrested. why? i have NO idea. i think that would be the best, if not the only way to get her into rehab. Please help, I don’t want to lose my niece!

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My niece had a baby Jan 26. The baby has colic. The father is an alcoholic?

  • Posted on December 23, 2010 at 6:17 pm

Tonite, I set her up in a nice motel with the baby. She just cant take it anymore. The father of the baby is a total mental misfit and thank the Lord she didnt marry him. He has made my niece cry at least 4-5 times in the last couple of weeks and I have never seen her cry. He is very critical, says she cant do anything righ and he real is just a drunken slob.
She took me up on my motel room for the nite offer and I am hoping she can get some peace. I sent my daughter who is 19 and able to babysit along, so she can just relax. Should I do anything else to help her out or just stay out of it? Is this wrong? We did not tell him where she is and I am playing stupid. I am an advocate for domestic violence victims because I was in the same situation 20 yrs ago, and do not feel like I had any support. I just am trying to help her out…and he is an alcoholic and I cannot believe how terrible he talks to her. Its a matter of time before he starts becoming physically abusive.

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My sister is a heroin addict and drags my 3 yr old niece around with her. Is it better to put baby in system?

  • Posted on October 20, 2010 at 3:20 pm

I’ve heard horror stories about foster care and the CPS system, so I’m weighing that against the enviroment that the baby is in now. I’m torn between calling CPS and getting them involved or leaving my niece and the situation alone. I know they are staying in a drug motel, just a really bad situation. I would call my sister’s probation officer, as well, and hopefully have them take her to jail- atleast I know she’d get clean in there and not overdose on the streets after having her child taken from her. Maybe after getting out, she’d be clean and rational enough to make the right choices and get her daughter back with the goal of giving her a better life.
I just don’t know if I should just leave the whole thing alone or lead officials to her and break up that whole sick little “party”.
I can’t take the baby to live with me, where I’m at in my life- it just isn’t possible. It’s CPS foster care or leave her where she’s at.
What would you do?

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my 14 year old niece saw some videos of me back in the day smoking and more what should i say?

  • Posted on September 24, 2010 at 7:24 pm

I’m the first to admit that I did drugs. I was not addicted and I still am not addicted, the last time I did any of that was 3 years ago. Yesterday my brother played a home video that showed me eating magic mushrooms and ecstasy and the video had the date on it and it was 8/4/07. I have sole custody of my niece and joint custody of my 11 year old daughter. I’ve always said if I catch them doing drugs I’d kill them personally. I don’t want my kids to do anything I do, just because I have tatoos that doesn’t mean I want my daughters to get em. That video that THEY should have never seen, just made me look like a hypocrite. What should I say? I’ve stopped all that I’m 32 years old doing drugs and all that is a little ridiculous. Which is why I stopped plus the kids are getting older, they actually understand sh*t. I’ve never done it around them ever so they wouldn’t know. I think the past should be the past. I don’t want them to use this against me.

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Niece going to prison, wants me to take custody of her daughter?

  • Posted on August 11, 2010 at 7:23 pm

My 25 year old niece is going to prison for at least 3 years for drug charges and dwi, haven’t seen much of her in the past years and she has a 1 year old daughter she asked me to take custody of, I am a single mother of 2 one in college and one in high school I work 6 – 7 days a week just to make ends meet If i don’t take this child she says it will go to foster care which breaks my heart, I have gone over this in my head a million times i have 100 reason why I should and 100 why I shouldn’t all which are selfish. My kids are self sufficient raising a baby is a full time job, which I already have 2 jobs im torn just would like to hear what other people think thank you so much
You all are wonderful, there is really no other family her own mother took up with a man and left the state wants nothing to do with her or her grand daughter. Very sad. In my heart I cant let this baby go into the foster system thank you all

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How can I get my niece to undergo alcohol rehab?

  • Posted on August 3, 2010 at 1:21 pm

My teenage niece lives with me, since my sister (her mom) travels abroad. My sister doesn’t know about her daughter’s alcohol addiction, and I don’t know how I’m going to tell her. I want my niece to undergo alcohol rehab, but I haven’t tried talking to her yet. What am I to do?

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