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Panic Attacks – What Do I Do To Stop Them?

  • Posted on July 2, 2009 at 2:20 pm

Some people go years upon years of experiencing Panic Attacks in their every day life including when they are sleeping.

From the research I’ve done on the subject, because of my own panic attacks, I’ve found that when you are put in a situation where you are not comfortable and your “fight or flight” hormones kick in, your mind remembers. Your memories are stored in your brain like a huge file cabinet. Every time something happens to you that seems remotely like a past situation, your body responds the same way.

After three long years of having what would seem to other people a string of bad experiences, I finally had to figure out what was happening and why up until 2003, I had what I thought was a great life…
Marriage was wonderful.
Job was great (started my own business in 2002).
My children were thriving and excelling at everything they tried (I worked at home and was able to be with them when they weren’t at school).
My bills were paid and my credit was wonderful.

Then things changed…2003 started a three year streak of bad luck. One day my husband told me that his ex wife had contacted him (after not hearing from her for over 10 years). He was excited…I was sick. I had had a terrible divorce because of other women being involved. That started my panic attacks. Once the attacks started, every time I heard the ex’s name, I would start sweating and get nauseous. My heart would start beating extremely hard and I would have to lay down to stop the attack. We argued constantly and our married life fell apart.

To shorten up a long story, eventually my husband left me to go back to his ex wife. I continued to have panic attacks every time I was in a situation I thought I couldn’t handle. The next year was a very hard year for me. I got another divorce, I had two family members pass away, I met another man from a new town and moved my family to be with the new beau, and I quit my business that was failing. My children were acting up all the time and I really felt like I had lost all grip on my life and what I was doing with my life. I continued to have panic attacks due to the new relationship. I would do everything I could to sabotage it. I would start fights and threaten to leave. Panic attacks were so bad I felt like committing suicide to end them, all because I was scared to be in another relationship where I felt I had to watch out for past girlfriends and ex wives.

After a lot of soul searching, meditating, and several herbal therapies, I had slowed the frequency of having panic attacks that were stemming from past experiences. It wasn’t until I heard about Joe Barry that I finally cured the panic attacks.

I have started a new life with a new husband and my children are happy and healthy again. My life is back on track for growth and new experiences without the constant worry of the dreaded panic disorder.

If you are experiencing what you think are panic attacks, (I used to call them mental meltdowns), then click here for more information on how to cure yourself but only if you’re ready to start living without so much fear in your life.

JPerez is a mom of two that enjoys research and writing. For more articles about life experiences, please visit her blog at http://momsadviceforlife.wordpress.com

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Influence Hot Tips!

  • Posted on July 1, 2009 at 10:12 pm

I regularly get told by women clients that they’re not being listened to and have little or no influence in their organisation. My first question of course is, “How do you do that?” Doesn’t make me the most popular coach on the block but, hey, if my clients wanted milk sop they’d go elsewhere.

Because the bottom-line is we are responsible for all of our behaviour and what we create out there in the world.

Ok… of course I know some events are outside your sphere of influence. Take earthquakes for example. There’s no way you could create that natural and sometimes devastating phenomenon. However, you can be responsible for how you behave, what you feel, be and do, if you get caught up in it.

And reality is that not getting listened to so you’re not influential is as much an art as being listened to and being influential, i.e., people taking notice of what you say and acting upon it.

Now, without working with you I can’t know the personal ‘stuff’ you bring to that particular issue. It could be that early on you were taught to be quiet or you were that you didn’t have anything worth saying or you were taught not to speak until you were spoken to or…. a gazillion other dynamics, beliefs or attitudes.

However, that was then and this is now! Even with a personal issue or two, if you want to be a listened-to-influencer here’s my 5 guaranteed to work hot tips…

#1 Mind your own business and let other people mind theirs. Focus on and excel in your own area of responsibility before offering copious input to others. Then you’ll be somebody worth listening to.

#2 Keep a clean mouth. Who’d listen or take much notice of someone who gossips about, undermines or sycophantasises others? Beware the water cooler!

#3 Don’t caste your pearls before swine. If you have valuable things to say, say them to the people who’ll value them. Gradually, you’ll get known for the quality of your input and be sought out and after.

#4 Cultivate curiosity about and pleasure in getting to know other people. When others feel genuinely in rapport with you they’ll be more than willing to listen and consider your thoughts. This is one you definitely can’t ‘fake it until you make it’!

#5 Generate buzz. Whatever the challenges in your work situation, approach everything with enthusiasm and curiosity for what you might learn. Be a ‘can-do and does’ kind of person with inspirational & motivational energy.

And then tell me nobody in your organisation takes notice of anything you say!

With 30 years’ expertise in personal & professional development, Sharon Eden MA is a Certified Coach, Registered & Accredited Psychotherapist & NLP trainer, and founder of Women of Courage. Take just 20 seconds to sign up for her Ezine rich with tips & techniques to boost your purpose, passion & power AND get her ’5 Day Energiser Plan’ absolutely free. Sign up now at: http://www.womenofcourage.co.uk

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