If a man was abused physically and sexually by his father then is it more likely for him to abuse a son or daughter?
I’m asking this to gain knowledge on the topic because I am looking to write about something pertaining to this subject. If it helps, the man would also be a recovered heroin addict (stayed sober for 5-6 years) and a current alcoholic. His father was also a boozer. His last name is Krevok, so the family will be referred to as “the Krevoks.”
He married at 17 and came to America at 19 and had his first son at 20 and twins (a boy and girl) at 21. (He is an American emigrant from Russia.) He started to get sober at 20 and 1/2 or so and fully at 21, and stayed sober until he was 26. His wife dies in a car accident (suspected to have been murdered by an acquaintance in her family’s organized crime ring) when he is 24 and he takes up drinking after a few years as a single father. He quickly grows dependent on alcohol. He would be about be about 34-37 in the piece I’m writing. (His actual job is a HS history teacher but he is also a member of organized crime.)
The way I have it panning out in my head is he becomes physically abusive towards his elder son who looks very much like him and also shares some of his impulsive tendencies. The abuse starts when the son is about 6 or 7 and escalates to full scale beating when he is 11-13. The son develops self-worth issues and at about 15 becomes more involved in athletics, is a great swimmer/diver and is very success oriented and is desperate to win no matter the cost.
The twin daughter and son may just be changed to just another son, I am having trouble characterizing the girl. The younger son would be a reserved, sensitive boy, who pines for the mother he hardly remembers and would hate the abuse of his brother. He would also be treated very harshly since he would be young in high school, skipping a grade due to his intelligence, and hounded for being a “faggot”. He wouldnt be gay though, it would just be speculation. But he would develop self image issues due to his years of dancing (ballet, why he’s considered gay by peers in the first place) and his lack of a support system and would train compulsively and have radical eating habits. (He was told by his mother’s cousin of his father’s horrid childhood, and how his father’s older brother by two years committed suicide at 14 due to the extent of the abuse they endured (of which he doesn’t know the details). His father left home around 13, getting involved in illicit activities such as theft, drugs, and prostitution within the 3-4 years before he meets his future wife at 16.5 and becomes involved in organized crime. He marries her at 17 when he is the suspected father of her unborn child, which is found out to be the product of her rape by an older cousin.)
The abused son has a close friend that lives in poverty. The Krevoks, however, are very well-off due to the father’s involvement in organized crime. The friend idolizes Mr. Krevok since he never had any father figure and seemingly ignores the abuse or is ignorant to it.
None of Mr. Krevok’s co-workers or students are aware of his alcoholism, he drinks most heavily on weekends and in the afternoon on weekdays, getting more intoxicated until he either leaves the house or finds fault with his elder son, oftentimes making up reasons to treat him badly.
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Does this #1 seem realistic at all or am I an idiot? lol and #2 would this, creatively written in a novel be interesting and engaging to readers?
If it is useful, I am a junior girl (17) in high school, from the US.
* Thanks in advance for any help/input! :) *
Edit- When I say “Son or daughter” at the top, I mean it as in he will abuse one of his children but is it more likely for him to abuse a son or to abuse a daughter? Sorry for any confusion.
*** In answer to the one answer saying most male ballet dancers aren’t gay – I realise that but we are talking about kids in an inner city public school, who would foolishly assume that any guy who dances ballet must be homosexual. Thank you guys for the feedback so far! :)
