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Un-supportive boyfriend or just plain jerk?

  • Posted on August 1, 2010 at 9:23 pm

I recently got my 2nd OWI and while this situation is hard enough, I’m not sure my boyfriend is going to see me through it. He also has 2 OWIs and knows the hardship it causes. I thought of all people he would be the one who understood and would be loving and supportive. Now he tells me he’s not sure he’s up for it. I have not asked him for any help financially or any help with rides to or from work. I haven’t asked for anything from him. He offered to take me to work in the mornings – then recanted and said he could only do it on the days he didn’t have to take his daughter to school. I told him I will take what I can get and appreciate his every effort. This was a few days ago. Now today he tells me he needs some time and space because he can’t forgive me for hurting him so badly. He says I’ve hurt him by throwing our hopes and dreams out the window. (We recently moved into his parents house because we were planning to buy a home in the summer – financially this sets us back quite a bit. I’m going to have to spend everything I have saved towards the house on tickets, assessments and counseling) He says I’ve let him down because I couldn’t learn from his mistake.
We’ve been together for FOUR years. It’s not that easy to give up on someone you’ve loved for so long.
I could go on forever and ever about the situation – but I think you get the idea……
What should I do?????
He’s also gone to the extent of telling me I’m not his girlfriend – I’m his responsibility. And no longer speaks of when “we move out” it’s what are you going to do when “I move out”. Is he giving me a fair chance to turn my life around? Or is he kicking me while I’m down?

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