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Can you please help my two daughters age 12 and 16?

  • Posted on March 24, 2011 at 1:22 pm

Hi,
my name is Lisa and I have two daughters. I recently lost a child in a drunk driving accident and then there dad died a couple months later. I have no family here and my oldest daughter was in a bad car accident 6 weeks ago, and broke the main bone in her foot. I had to quit my job temporarily to take care of her.I have had to spend all my money on her care and surgeries and all that goes with it. We are really having a hard time with food and such, and I would love to be able to give them a few gifts to put under the tree this year just to see them smile again. If anyone is willing to help us out I would greatly appreciate it. This is kind of embarrassing because I have never had to ask for help before, but I just want to see my kids happy for one day, they have been through so much. Thank you for taking the time to read this and I hope everyone has a Merry Christmas. e-mail lburrows1969@aol.com. God Bless You!

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I know this is going to sound crazy so please read the details completely through?

  • Posted on March 23, 2011 at 2:17 pm

Can a person with one kidney become an alcoholic? I think that they can. I mean what would stop them. I could see if they had a partial liver or something like that, but anyway I ask this question because there is a woman that I work with and they think her grandchild may be born with one kidney and her way to comfort her pregnant daughter was to say, “At least you know he will never be an alcoholic.” She also told her daughter that this child will never be able to run and play sports. Is she misinformed?

You don’t have to comment on the fact that this lady is crazy for “comforting” her daughter in this manner, we all know that.
Thanks for the answers. Everyone is just pretty much confirming what I thought. But does anyone have an medical explanation of why this could still happen so I can shut her up. I am so sick of hearing her say that everytime a client calls.

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What can I do? Please help!?

  • Posted on March 18, 2011 at 7:21 pm

Okay, so here’s my situation. I’m 16, my mom and dad are divorced, but live in the same house, I live with them. My dad smokes weed and drinks everyday from when he wakes up til he goes to bed. My mom is a hardcore druggy, mostly cocaine and meth. My dad does anything to make me happy, and he takes care of my besides his addictions and lack of father daughter relationship. My mom on the other hand is gone all the time and she doesn’t want anything to do with me. We are always going to lose our house and everything but they don’t care until they’re about to come take it and that’s when they get worried. My mom doesn’t spend any time with me and its like she hates me. I really hate her.People say its just because I’m a teenager and whatever but with all she has put me through and still puts me through, I hate her with everything I have. She stays gone at my uncle’s bar all the time when she is home from her job. (she dries a semi truck) They expect me to get good grades and stuff in school and keep a straight head on my shoulders but it is so hard when I have all this to come home to! I hate my life so bad! I’m always sad and I’m not happy like someone my age should be. I don’t drink or do drugs. (Which is a good thing) But I also never go out with my friends and stuff because I can never take my mind off of what is going on at home! Please help me! What can I do?

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I’m only a little girl-abusing drugs..tearing her family apart.. please, someone, anyone… help me.?

  • Posted on March 1, 2011 at 3:21 pm

Please. Listen to my story. I doubt you have ever heard one like it. Try to think of me as you would your own daughter, or sister, niece, or friend.. But, honestly.. you don’t have to read my sob story.. it honestly is a bunch of excuses.. but I guarantee to you.. you will never think of life the same.. You could skip through to the bottom of this question.. and honestly, If you do, I don’t care what you think of me.. A friend, an enemy, a daughter, a complete stranger.. Just remember I’m a person. I’m a reall life person. My name is Marissa. I’m a human being that loves with such a passion, because she has lost more than you will ever begin to understand. She’s a fifteen year old girl who hid in the corner of her room on the top floor of her house in Johnson County, Kansas, while she watched silently as her perfect “johnson county” life fell apart. Her world crumbled beneath her feet. She has taken every beating, every bruise, every cut.. because she’s got nothing else. She’s just fifteen. I am JUST fifteen… And the emotions I have lived with, the terrors God has put me through, they have made me into an invididual who had everything.. and was finally pushed over the edge by her own brother, he was fifteen. I was only thirteen. I had my life threatened by my own blood relative. In front of my own mother, who was too scared and powerless to do anything to help her own daughter. I had my life threatened in front of my own 7 year old brother, who had to watch in horror as his big sister was beaten by closed fists, as she was thrown across the rooms of her house, stabbed at with an acctual knife, and burned by burning money.. all by her own family members.. mainly by her own older brother…

But I’m not blaming him..It wasn’t his fault.
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THIS IS THE BEGINNING OF MY STORY.. IF YOU DON’T WANT TO SPEND THE TIME READING MY STORY, IT IS SUMMARIZED IN THE QUESTION AT THE BOTTOM….
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We were just little kids.. trying to make it through this crazy little thing called life.. Me and my older brother, (Jake) never had the best lives.. What I will call “Daddy #1″ (birthdad, nick) was addicted to many subsatnces, including crack, heroin, and meth. And who i will refer to as “Daddy #2″ (stepdad, who eventually adopted jake and myself to become our legal “Dad”, Tom-also, birthdad to my younger half-brother, TJ) Was bipolar, extremely Depressed, and within his time as my “Dad” our family watched as cancer took two of my amazing grandmas. The first to go was my mom’s mother. She was such a powerful individual. She cared for Jake and I when Nick (Daddy #1) Left the family for the Crack business. Later, within the same month, cancer took Tom (Daddy #2)’s mother. I called her “Grandma Trudy” Honestly, she was the only thing in Daddy #2′s life that kept him sane. With her gone, He went wild. spending all the family’s money, and taking his physical rage out on Jake and I. I was eight at the time. He beat us sh!tless. (sorry for my language, but it was the lightest way to put it while coming close to what happened.) Daddy #2 burned money infront of my face. A Twenty Dollar Bill. He was wearing his blue flannel shirt. Me, My favorite pink sundress. Jake, a chiefs jersey. I could tell you every detail of that day. He was yelling at us for wasting money. Then, being all high and mighty, as always, he decided to teach us a lesson in finace while teaching english, by using metaphors to punish us. He pulled out his money clip. then, got a twenty dollar bill out of the clip. Then took his lighter, and lit the money on fire, waving it 2cm in front of my face. While screaming at Jake and I for being wasteful. I remember him saying “next time you feel like wasting money.. why don’t you just let me burn it for you? Because this is what you’re doing. You’re wasting our family’s money. You’re burning our money.” All I had done was not finished my dinner, because I had a stomach ache from eating too much. My mom cried in the other room, while I cried with the fire so close to my face, I was sweating. Finally, about 11 months later, around the time his mom had died, He left my family.. with no money, a newly single mother, to support a family of four on a teacher’s sallary. She raised My younger brother, TJ (4 at the time of Tom’s departure.), My older brother, Jake (10 years old at the time,) and Myself, Marissa (8 at the time). She raised us all to the best of her ability, trying to undo all that Tom had taugh us about life.. But sadly enough, for Jake and Myself, statistics show that whatever a child lives with until he/she in 6 becomes normal behavior for the child. For Myself, this meant I thought being hit, and screamed at, was normal. I had no friends, because everyone was scared of my dad. I seriously thought it was normal. It didnt seem fair.. but I knew nothing

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friends daughter pregnant please advice?

  • Posted on February 27, 2011 at 6:17 pm

hi guys can do with a bit of advice here please. my daughters friend who’s almost 14 has just found out shes pregnant. long story short.my own daughter made her take a test and come straight to me for advice.
i know her parents need to be told but i really don’t know how to go about it as her parents are alcoholic’s and drug users and couldn’t give there daughter a 2nd thought.
i know she will have a good beating when they do find out as shes had many over the years.
she knows what a stupid thing she had done and believe me she is in bits. more so over the facts of how her parents will react.
should social services be involved before her parents are told as i am really concerned for her well being and can see her father trying to kick the baby out of her. she has missed 2 periods so im guessing shes at least 8 or 9 weeks pregnant.
please any advice will be much appreciated on how to handle this situation
thanks in advance
because i got the tile wrong way round. was meant to be daughters friend sorry for the confusion

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PLEASE HELP! moving to the usa frm uk, can my abusive ex stop me from taking our child there to live?

  • Posted on February 23, 2011 at 1:21 pm

plan on marrying my bf & moving2 the us to start a life with him,worried my ex who ive a daughter with will not give permission 4her2 move,can he stop me from taking her if he says no? i have full custody of her he just takes her when he basically feels like,doesn’t pay money4 her,no job or stable home he just stays with friends and family,given me 60 pound in her 4years of life! she wud go with him i wud have 2GIVE the Nappy’s,milk,wipes etc and if they was about2 run out i wud have2 give him money2get the replacement otherwise ther wud be hell2pay,he got outa prison in the summer 4a violent crime against his brother.been violent2me in past even when i was preg,he kicked me in stomach and said “gonna give me his own personal abortion” split with him when she was 3months,he still trys 2control me,he pretends hes gona hit me to see me flinch so he feels he still has this power over me, he messes me round for example he says hes keeping her frm fri 2 sun,he will call me saturday morn pretending hes bringing her home all day so i cant make plans because hes saying he will be at my house with her soon, he likes 2think he has this sick control over me where he thinks im just hanging on too his words,uses any excuse 2be around me,sometimes think he loves me more than his daughter, he trys2 argue with me in front of her like 2day he bribed her to go upstairs2 ‘look for a magic cat, while he has a word with mummy’ basically tryna intimidate me into thinking i was gona get a beating,i told her2 go upstairs she went and i said to him what r u gonna do then?? he flew at me and pinned me down on the couch landing punches on me but not as hard as he could he,then breaks in2 a smile saying im only kidding and trys 2plant kisses on me,this is how bad he trys to abuse me mentally,it works,he does intimidate me,try 2show him he doesn’t which seems 2make him more determined,he thinks he has the right to and fondle me as he pleases and says its my own fault for bein so sexy,he disgusts me.he drinks and smokes weed &cocaine, my daughter was getting a certificate inschool he turned up at my house drunk at 2pm in afternoon!he didnt stop ther i had half a bottle of wine in my fridge and he sneaked inthe kitchen pured some in a cup &juice in2 disguise it, im telling him how disgusted i am with him doing all this knowing he has 2go2 her school around her teachers an other parents but he just kept telling me to shut up so i kicked him out,he very manipulative&sneaky,when we were 2gether he convinced my own mother it was ME being violent 2him! people meet him they think hes very shy&quiet,innocent but he really is a bastard,worried if i take him2court he’ll make courts believe hes good person and if he has 2do drug&alcohol tests he stop so he passes and ill be made out a liar,he boasts his solicitor who he uses for his court matters ‘loves him and thinks hes great’.i mentioned moving 2usa his reply was im not taking her cos he’ll never see her again,tryed convince him sayin she will have a better life,oportunities etc and she can come and stay with him on holidays etc maybe when shes older we can split the year,when it comes2 it i dnt think he will ‘let’ me because that means if he agrees hes letting me go aswell,he has no power or control anymore,can he stop me? his names on birth certificate,which ino will count for a lot. how will it work will i have to go to court? is his yes or no the final say? will i have a good chance if go court? how long would it take? if im agreeing with her still visiting him when we move will there be no need for court wud he just have to accept it seems im not stopping him seeing her? would i have more chance if i was already married? my bf is in the military and is willing 2look after her as his own, when he comitted this crime against his brother my daughter was there and police got called and on the police report it said my daughter had seen it which meant social services got refered and came and checked me out an how her home life was with me and they were happy with that but did not support her carrying on seeing him (this was when he was in jail) they said they would be back in touch when he was realised and that was over 3-4months ago, ive heard nothing, he then showed me a letter from his probation saying social services had closed the case against him, theyv had to come and see me like 2 times because of things that have happend when shes been with him like him having a fight with his other brother whilst she was in the house but in bed, and another time when i was at his mums house and he was pestering me too stay over and i was refusing and trying to leave and he wouldnt let me then refused to let me out the house and threatend to kill himself and got a knife and cut across his wrist his mum called the police, the baby was in the house but in bed again this was night time, i have no criminal records, cautions etc, i am squeaky clean, i

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My poem – for university poetry contest. Comments, opinions? Seriously only please.?

  • Posted on February 14, 2011 at 1:23 am

Our babysitter lives across from the Dodge Street cemetery,
And behind her broad, untroubled face.
Her sons play touch football all afternoon
Among the graves of clerks & Norwegian settlers.
At night, these huge trees, rooted in such quiet,
Arch over the tombstones as if in exultation,
As if they inhaled starlight.
Their limbs reach
Toward each other & their roots must touch the dead.

When I was fifteen,
There was a girl who loved me; whom I did not love, & she
Died, that year, of spinal meningitis. By then she
Had already left home, & was working in a carnival –
One of those booths where you are supposed
To toss a dime onto a small dish. Finally,
In Laredo, Texas, someone anonymous, & too late, bought her
A bus ticket back. . . .
Her father, a gambler & horse dealer, wept
Openly the day she was buried. I remember looking off
In embarrassment at the woods behind his house.
The woods were gray, vagrant, the color of smoke
Or sky. I remember thinking then that
If I had loved her, or even slept with her once,
She might still be alive.
And if, instead, we had gone away together
On two bay horses that snorted when they began to gallop,
And if, later, we had let them
Graze at their leisure on the small tufts of spring grass
In those woods, & if the disintegrating print of the ferns
Had been a lullaby there against the dry stones & the trunks
Of fallen trees, then maybe nothing would have happened. . . .
There are times, hiking with my wife past
Abandoned orchards of freckled apples & patches of sunlight
In New Hampshire, or holding her closely against me at night
Until she sleeps, when nothing else matters, when
The trees shine without meaning more than they are, in moonlight,
And when it seems possible to disappear wholly into someone
Else, as into a wish on a birthday, the candles trembling. . . .

Maybe nothing would have happened, but I heard that
Her father died, a year later, in a Sierra lumber camp.
He had been drinking steadily all week,
And was dealing cards
When the muscle of his own heart
Kicked him back into his chair so hard its wood snapped.
He must have thought there was something
Suddenly very young inside his body,
If he had time to think. . . .
And if death is an adolescent, closing his eyes to the music
On the radio of that passing car,
I think he does not know his own strength.
If I stand here long enough in this stillness I can feel
His silence involve, somehow, the silence of these trees,
The sky, the little squawking toy my son lost
When it slipped into the river today. . . .
Today, I am thirty-four years old. I know
That horse dealer with a limp loved his plain, & crazy daughter.
I know, also, that it did no good.
Soon, the snows will come again & cover that place
Where he sat at a wobbling card table underneath
A Ponderosa pine, & cover
Even the three cards he dropped there, three silent diamonds,
And cover everything in the Sierras, & make my meaning plain.

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What should happen next in my story PLEASE AND THANK YOU?

  • Posted on February 11, 2011 at 6:17 am

So my character just ran out (mid day) of school after telling off her teacher. She ran home and the chapter ended “, I just walked. I continued doing so until I got home, where my mother and father stood awaiting my arrival.”
What should the parents do to her?
Im a kid so idk what i would do to my daughter if that happened.
Things to know about the parents: Mom alcoholic and dad workaholic

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Please give some info and helpful answers…and keep an open mind.?

  • Posted on February 4, 2011 at 9:20 pm

My mother has been trying to take my daughter age 12 from me since she was born. I have had countless restraining orders, a 2 year order of protection for both me and my daughter and I have moved to several different states only for her to find me and cause more trouble. I have recreationaly used marijuana in the past (which I know is a “no, no”) However I have never used in the presence of my children. The last time I smoked I did not know at the time that I was pregnant and as soon as I discovered that I was I never touched it again. Unfortunately mother discovered where I lived a month later and began secretly meeting with my daughter at a community theater play that she was rehearsing for. Knowing my past history with marijuana she convinced my daughter that if she went to school and complained that I was a drug abuser that CPS would come and take her away and then she would be able to come and live with her. CPS came and removed my children from my home and requested a hair follicle test that we all know can go back up to three years. I began to cooperate with CPS for the return of my children who were placed with my Mother In law instead of my mother. When my mother discovered that she would not be getting or considered for custody of my kids she pressed the issue with the police to arrest me for harming/neglecting my unborn fetus. And I was. CPS did not push for this arrest, my mother did. My question is this. I never harmed or neglected my children. They were well taken care of. I never did any other drugs like crack, heroin, meth, ect. Nor did I ever knowingly smoke marijuana while pregnant. What the hell can I do to fight this??? What can I do to fight her. I know that this is not the end of her tyrant and vendetta against me. Please give me some advise.
Thanks RJ and JC’s Mommy…. I have been doing exactly what you advise. I also have a lawyer, a beautiful home, I don’t drink, smoke cigarettes, ect. I also have the finances to take care of them all. The only the CPS and the law have found me “guilty” of is a positive drug test for THC. I appreciate your understanding…it gives me strength.

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An addict…A child…A mess… Your advice please?

  • Posted on February 3, 2011 at 1:21 am

My daughter’s biological father has just come into our lives (very much unwanted) after 3 years of the unknown. She is now 3, so yes her entire life, and for my entire pregnancy he has MIA. I found out that he was using drugs 4 days after I found out I was pregnant and out he went. I didn’t want any part of that for myself or my unborn child. I had my best friend by my side the entire time, who is now my husband and the only father my daughter has ever known. We have a great little family and then out of no where, this man comes back into our lives. We both got attorneys b/c he is still partying and doing the same old thing, but the state I live in is “pro-family”, so they think at absolutely no matter what the biological parents are into personally, they should have a relationship with their child. I think it would be great for my daughter to know her biological father, of course if he had something of value to offer her. Since we have been in court we have had a temp. visitation plan that allows him every Sunday for 6-7 hours. She has now started saying the “f” word, the “B” word, Dumb A**, and make gun sounds by saying “Bang Bang”… I am completely disgusted and I am honestly scared for my daughter’s well being… My attorney is so passive that I need to personally step up my game and dig into this. So my question is could a person how regularly shoots up Oxy and Heroin stop using drugs but continue to drink heavily? Please help me! :)

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