I put this in parenting simply because its got to do with my daughter’s father, and its the parenting issue that has caused the problem. My daughter’s father is a nut. Most of you have probably read previous questions or answers I have made regarding him. Well, I did something dumb. I allowed him to see my daughter (after 7 months of him not showing up) because I felt like it was the right thing to do. I felt I should give him one last chance after so long to see if he had changed. At first it seemed he had changed. He has been claiming that he found God and such, and at first I believed it. He went days without cussing, he prayed before meals, and he was just as nice as could be. He came over here (his mom brought him because he has no license due to DWI) and my daughter had no idea who he was. Shortly after though, she warmed up to him and his mother. His mother left, and it was just us 3. He offered to buy us dinner, so we went out. Everything was more than perfect, and I was beginning to wonder if I had made a mistake by keeping him away. (Of course, all of the horrible things he has done slipped my mind) We came back, gave her a bath, and put her to bed. We then sat down to talk. He started off on his “I wanna be a family” deal, and I was quick to tell him that we don’t need him, and that if he was looking for me to beg him to take me back he wasn’t going to get it. He kept on about it, and so forth. I did cry a little, only because the whole situation is still very fresh and it bothers me how things have been. Well, he left and I assumed everything was ok with us. Well I was apparently wrong. He went back to his girlfriend (whom he sat here and told me he hated and he wanted to leave her) and told her that I had spent the whole night begging him to take me back. That I cried my eyes out because he told me that he didn’t want me, he wanted her. (Funny, since I only shed a few tears, and by no means “cried my eyes out”.) Once I heard this, I immediately told the girl that this was BS, and that he was trying to cheat on her again. (This isn’t the first time he has pulled this stunt). She said that his mother told him that I was a liar, and that all I was doing was trying to break them up, that she SAW and HEARD everything and that he wasn’t lying. Also funny, because she wasn’t even HERE. They are both telling the girl that she never left us alone. Now he is texting me saying that I’m a drama queen, and that I ruined his life! Again threatening that this girl will be my daughter’s stepmother and blah blah blah. Acting like a little child. The most important thing is, that all this is really disrupting my daily life. It keeps me on edge, and keeps my nerves torn up. Its basically made me a nervous wreck.
My question is, could this emotional abuse be enough to get a protective order against him?
P.S- I have learned my lesson this time, and do not plan on every letting him see my daughter again, unless there is an officer at my door serving papers.
Also, if it does, would this mean that he would get rights to her? I mean, would us being in a court room together and admitting he is her father cause the judge to make a child support order and visitation, against my will?
I have texts from him showing that he is crazy (threats to kill himself and other things) and also on an old phone I have messages where he threatens to harm me. The screen is broken, but I think there may be a way for the police to get information off of it, I’m not sure.
