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Will they award custody to the father of my 6mo daughter if he can prove that I was DUI with my baby in the ca?

  • Posted on December 23, 2010 at 7:21 am

All throughout my pregnancy my ex-fiance was abusive towards me and he also smoked crack on a weekly to daily basis and he had no job except for cash jobs here and there. I was afraid to notify authorities of the drug use and the physical abuse situation at the time because I didn’t want to send him to jail when I was pregnant because I was scared of being a single mom. I did not use drugs at all while I was pregnant, and I had a full time job and went to school part time while he did not work and would smoke crack. I have documentation that the police were called to a domestic situation (he was violently beating me) when I was 3 months pregnant, but at the time I did not press charges because I was scared of being a single mom, so the report is limited and does not include the extent of my injuries (I suffered a concussion and I can still feel the spot on my head where he bashed it into the floor a year later). I was very hard on him verbally because of his drug addiction and as a result he began cheating on me while I was 8 months pregnant. I did not know this at the time and all that I knew was that he was not coming home and I was 8 months pregnant and I needed him to be there. One night when he had called me and told me he was not coming home for the night I told him that I was taking a sleeping pill because I couldn’t handle the stress he was putting me through, and then I was going to bed. He then called the cops to my house that night and the cops told me they had to take me for a psychiatric evaluation because he had told them I was suicidal. I voluntarily went for the evaluation and after talking with a therapist they could very easily see that I was fine and they sent me home within a few hours. I am certain he has obtained the police report for that night and will use this against me in court to say that I have mental problems. A few weeks later we broke up and he went to live with the girl he was seeing, who lived down the street. This was obviously very upsetting to me as by this point I was 9 months pregnant. It is a well documented fact that stressors like this during a pregnancy is a very strong indicator of risk for postpartum depression, so I began seeing a therapist right away to work through my feelings about the situation. I also began reaching out to my friends and I have always kept a journal to gather my thoughts and I relied on these resources to get through the difficult time. I was told that I could take anti-depressant pills however I declined the pills as I also chose to breast feed, and I felt that I am mentally strong enough to tackle my emotions on my own. When I gave birth to our daughter he made the entire time increasingly stressful and only visited the hospital a total of three hours, and refused to help pick out a name for our child. He also brought police to my house the day I brought my daughter home from the hospital, asking the police to escort him while he got his belongings from the house. When I told the police I had just brought my newborn daughter home that day and that it was not a good time, they agreed to postpone the escort for a couple days. He also was violent with me showing up at my house a week later to retrieve additional items and this resulted in an order of protection that was active for 2 months until I had it removed to enable him the ability to see his daughter. Although it was stressful for me to see him and this affected my milk supply, I was also frustrated that he was not making any efforts to see his daughter and so this was a double edged sword that stressed me out both ways. I thought that by lifting the order of protection he would not have an excuse any more to not see his daughter. I was wrong and he refused to see her. I stopped seeing the therapist due to a lack of time when I returned to school part time and work full time because I was confident keeping busy would help me to heal and that I was able to handle the situation on my own with the support of my family, friends, and my own intelligence. But unfortunately one night, when my daughter was 3 months old I was drinking after my daughter had gone to bed and I made a very bad decision. I wanted so badly to tell him what an awful piece of shit he was that I put my daughter in the car and drove a quarter mile down the street to his new house to confront him. This was a bad decision and he called the police and the police report will show that they gave me a breathalyzer and I registered just under the legal limit for a DUI. The police did not arrest me and they simply sent me back home, but I am sure he has obtained a copy of the police report and he has now filed paperwork to sue me for full custody of my daughter. I do not normally drink and that was a single night of error and I give my daughter everything I have. She loves going to daycare and I visit her on my lunch break every day and I have a good job and my family and friends help me out with her

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daughter’s father has visitation rights, but he is drinking and doing drugs and I cannot prove it.?

  • Posted on December 14, 2010 at 9:20 am

My daughter’s father and I have a court ordered custody arrangement. The father was an alcoholic and drug user, and after he completed rehab I agreed to let him have visitations. We live in different states so his family picks her up and takes her to there home hours away. We recently became on ‘good terms’ and he began telling me scary things via the phone (shooting someone up with meth, drinking alcohol, living with a guy who uses drugs, how his mother is messed up on alcohol and xanax.) I am in fear of letting my daughter go out to see him now, but I don’t have any proof as to what he is doing except for what he tells me over the phone, which makes it difficult to take him to court. He won’t say anything incriminating over text messages or on my answering machine either. What can I do to protect my daughter?

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daughter’s father has visitation rights, but he is drinking and doing drugs and I cannot prove it.?

  • Posted on December 13, 2010 at 10:20 am

My daughter’s father and I have a court ordered custody arrangement. The father was an alcoholic and drug user, and after he completed rehab I agreed to let him have visitations. We live in different states so his family picks her up and takes her to there home hours away. We recently became on ‘good terms’ and he began telling me scary things via the phone (shooting someone up with meth, drinking alcohol, living with a guy who uses drugs, how his mother is messed up on alcohol and xanax.) I am in fear of letting my daughter go out to see him now, but I don’t have any proof as to what he is doing except for what he tells me over the phone, which makes it difficult to take him to court. He won’t say anything incriminating over text messages or on my answering machine either. What can I do to protect my daughter?

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daughter’s father has visitation rights, but he is drinking and doing drugs and I cannot prove it.?

  • Posted on December 12, 2010 at 11:20 am

My daughter’s father and I have a court ordered custody arrangement. The father was an alcoholic and drug user, and after he completed rehab I agreed to let him have visitations. We live in different states so his family picks her up and takes her to there home hours away. We recently became on ‘good terms’ and he began telling me scary things via the phone (shooting someone up with meth, drinking alcohol, living with a guy who uses drugs, how his mother is messed up on alcohol and xanax.) I am in fear of letting my daughter go out to see him now, but I don’t have any proof as to what he is doing except for what he tells me over the phone, which makes it difficult to take him to court. He won’t say anything incriminating over text messages or on my answering machine either. What can I do to protect my daughter?

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daughter’s father has visitation rights, but he is drinking and doing drugs and I cannot prove it.?

  • Posted on December 11, 2010 at 12:20 pm

My daughter’s father and I have a court ordered custody arrangement. The father was an alcoholic and drug user, and after he completed rehab I agreed to let him have visitations. We live in different states so his family picks her up and takes her to there home hours away. We recently became on ‘good terms’ and he began telling me scary things via the phone (shooting someone up with meth, drinking alcohol, living with a guy who uses drugs, how his mother is messed up on alcohol and xanax.) I am in fear of letting my daughter go out to see him now, but I don’t have any proof as to what he is doing except for what he tells me over the phone, which makes it difficult to take him to court. He won’t say anything incriminating over text messages or on my answering machine either. What can I do to protect my daughter?

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daughter’s father has visitation rights, but he is drinking and doing drugs and I cannot prove it.?

  • Posted on December 10, 2010 at 1:20 pm

My daughter’s father and I have a court ordered custody arrangement. The father was an alcoholic and drug user, and after he completed rehab I agreed to let him have visitations. We live in different states so his family picks her up and takes her to there home hours away. We recently became on ‘good terms’ and he began telling me scary things via the phone (shooting someone up with meth, drinking alcohol, living with a guy who uses drugs, how his mother is messed up on alcohol and xanax.) I am in fear of letting my daughter go out to see him now, but I don’t have any proof as to what he is doing except for what he tells me over the phone, which makes it difficult to take him to court. He won’t say anything incriminating over text messages or on my answering machine either. What can I do to protect my daughter?

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What can I do to prove my ex is lying to the social services?

  • Posted on October 11, 2010 at 4:33 pm

I’m just praying someone will be able to give me some advice.. This is very complicated so please bare with me.
First off I’m a 22yr old mother of 3, my two sons 6yrs and 3months live with me while my daughter who is 3yrs lives with her father.
She has been living with him for 2yrs now.
I split with her father in the end due to domestic violance (from him) and shortly after he involved social services saying I “physically and mentally abuse” my children. Social services were involved previously from complaints by neighbours regarding the violance.
Social workers at the time became involved for a short period then closed the case as they had no concerns of my parenting.
At the time of the break up I was giving him 3 nights per week access to my son and daughter and was also working a 50hr p/w job, I had to leave my job due to the child care issues with some very unsociable hrs.
I had to put in a claim for benefits and they refused this for 4 months as they quoted I had “willingly left my job” I was struggling to meet the rent and the housing were really coming down on me threatening me with eviction ect and said if it came to that they had no legal obligation to re-house me and the children. I have forgotten to mention at this time I also had care of my two teenage sisters one of whom is still with me and my 4yr old cousin who is now in foster care. 
By this point I was really begining to struggle mentally as well as finacially and then a family member of mine who was my best friend died while she was 8 months pregnant to an asthma attack and we lost the baby as well. That was it for me I just broke down and couldn’t cope anymore, it was like I was on auto pilot I made sure all the children were fed, clothed and bathed but I know emotionally I wasn’t really there for them, I didn’t bother with house work very often and the living conditions became quite bad at one point, and back came the social workers..
I snapped our of my depression quite sharpish knowing I stood a risk of loosing my children due to my mental state and general untidiness of the home. I pulled myself up and sorted my act out, they helped me sort out my benefits and things really started to get better. My sisters then returned to my mothers care as she seemed to be making progress with her alcoholism. 
Then the news came that she had relapsed and attacked my sisters again so I felt I had a duty to protect them, I went to my mums to help my sisters and try to help her, I’d left my house keys with a neighbour to feed my cats while I was away. They left my backdoor open and long story short my cars were killed and my home was now filled with teenagers taking drugs, drinking ect everything I owened was stolen or broken.. I no longer had a home. Needless to say I was evicted as it was all “my own fault” I tried involving police but they said as I’d gave my key willingly it wasn’t a police matter and there was nothing they could do. I was heart broken.
Social services then placed my sisters with their father and me into a b&b back home, they said as I no longer had anywhere to live the children would need to be placed on the CP register so they could provide us with the best resorces possible, they told me that they Were NOT going to remove my children but my cousin would have to go into foster care but I would have all the access to her i wished to have untill she could return to me at a later date. 
1 week later my mother offered to sign over her house to me and the children, I didn’t want to move so far away but with everything going on I felt I had to to provide my lil ones with some stability. 
I informed the social services of my plans and the next day while my children were in day care they removed them and kicked me out of the bnb I was homeless and so utterly destroyed I just didn’t know what to do. They didn’t let me see them for almost 7 weeks and even them it was only for one hr!! Supervised. 
Me and the kids did nothing to deserve what happened and all I was told was get housed an you can have them back..
So I did, then they said they needed to do parenting reports ect ect long story short I eventually had my son home 19 months ago on the understanding my daughter would also return at a later date zoom forward to now and situation is this
My ex has a residence order for my daughter and I have a contact order in place, my ex was/is breeching the terms of the conditions so I went back to my solicitor. We have another court hearing next week as he’s in contempt of court, but now he’s refusing me contact  as of today (having found out we are back in court) with my daughter saying things like “she constantly goes back covered in cuts and bruises” and “she smells of urine” ect it’s all lies!!  after everything that’s happens over the last 3yrs I’m petrifyed I’m going to loose my kids again I have no faith in

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How could i prove that my daughter`s mother is a drug addict and alcoholic to prove that she is unfit to have?

  • Posted on August 2, 2010 at 6:17 pm

we will be going to court soon and i do not see her much,she is not letting me see my daughter

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daughter’s father has visitation rights, but he is drinking and doing drugs and I cannot prove it.?

  • Posted on January 8, 2010 at 9:07 am

My daughter’s father and I have a court ordered custody arrangement. The father was an alcoholic and drug user, and after he completed rehab I agreed to let him have visitations. We live in different states so his family picks her up and takes her to there home hours away. We recently became on ‘good terms’ and he began telling me scary things via the phone (shooting someone up with meth, drinking alcohol, living with a guy who uses drugs, how his mother is messed up on alcohol and xanax.) I am in fear of letting my daughter go out to see him now, but I don’t have any proof as to what he is doing except for what he tells me over the phone, which makes it difficult to take him to court. He won’t say anything incriminating over text messages or on my answering machine either. What can I do to protect my daughter?

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How hard would it be to prove my ex is smoking crack?

  • Posted on January 2, 2010 at 6:02 am

I have a 2 yr old daughter, I love her very much but her mother is smoking crack. I went over there the other night because she would not pickup answer the phone. When I got there they had crack on the table in her bedroom and were getting ready to smoke it. I called the cops and they flushed it before they got there. Now she will not let me see my daughter and will not answer the phone or the door when I call or come over. I have filed the paperwork to try and get custody but the cops wouldn’t do anyhting and said I can not go to her house unless I have her ok or I will be arrested for harrassing her. I woory about my daughter and the lifestyle she is going to have. I work full time and going to college. I am a straight A student. I own my own house. She is on disability for a mental illness and is spending all of her money on drugs. I am worried that when I go to court they will order me to pay child support and this will only add to her drug money. I can’t sleep at night I need help

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