I’ll try not to make this too long and drawn out. My boyfriend has been in a custody battle for his little girl for pretty much her entire life. We decided to go a different route since home visits and he-said she-said stuff really doesn’t prove anything.
Custody battle pretty much went as follows: She cheated on him with the baby in the room (and the court really didn’t seem to care much about that) and she got custody since the baby was so small. The next time, she admits to drug use because of her current felon-convicted boyfriend and loses her child who stay with her dad. Next, dad’s wife lies about dad in court and gets her taken away again, before the charge was dismissed completely by the court, but he still lost her and didn’t have enough money to go back for a fourth time.
He is working on getting enough money, and we’re actually planning to get married soon (I’m not pregnant, and it’s not JUST to take the child from her mom, we’re doing it the right way).
We went to take the little girl on an afternoon to his parents house where she had fun playing with her cousin. When we took her back at 9pm as promised. My recording caught the following:
First of all, you can clearly hear a roudy house full of other kids (about 3) and the mom of this child yelling at them, and actually cursing.
My boyfriend saying to his daughter, “Here, let me get your coat off, ok”.. and the felon-convicted boyfriend of mother saying “No keep your coat on, we’re about to leave.”
My boyfriend: “It’s already 9, isn’t it a little late for her to be out?”
Mother: “___, don’t even start that”
Felon: “It’s Friday night, no school tomorrow, we stay out as late as we want!” (Clearly intoxicated, and they had another adult that was intoxicated with them)
The papers clearly state visitation, and he asks her if it’s ok if he has the visitation which is stated in the papers for Christmas. He also mentions since he was denied his visitation from her for Christmas because she refused to let him take her. When he asks her about the dates she says: “Well I don’t know, I’ll have to get with my lawyer on that”, He mentions not being allowed to see her, and the felon says in the background yelling “and who’s fault was that?” And he says the mother’s name. The felon continues to say “You’re not even a daddy, she calls me daddy not you.”
The mother goes on to say that “___(child) has an ***hole for a daddy”. And the felon chimes in agreeing.
My boyfriend goes on to just say, “well I guess I’ll just have my lawyer contact your lawyer to get everything straightened out ok? Cause it says it clearly in your copy and my copy of the papers”, and she says to him, “___(his name), I’m not dealing with your s*** get the F*** outta my house”.. all this time you hear all the kids playing in the background and her daughter saying “mama, look…” and things like that, the whole time.
I stopped recording as soon as we started to leave because I figured that was it. And I left the door and turned around cause I heard her cry and say “daddy wait” and i tried to tell her bye, or even find her in the trash in that trailor and all the sudden I see the felon-convict lunge at the door which was then was slammed in my face so hard it made the wreath on the door almost fall off and the whole house shook. My boyfriend was also recording and this was caught this.
Next thing you hear in my recording is the mom yelling at the top of her lungs (obviously right in my face) saying “Oooooh, you’re recording? That’s just great, you know why!??!?” you can hear the daughter wimpering in the background, saying daddy, and she tells her drunk friend to get the kids back inside for a minute. She then proceeds to yell at the top of her lungs in my face about how I should get in her face about anything. I said, “but I didn’t get in your face”.
I remembered that she’d let the little girl watch freddy cruger the last time we were there and asked her on recording why she let her daughter, a 3 year old watch it, and she said “OH MY F**** GAW! Are you F**** serious, Dude?” And I just said “she’s three years old, why, she’s just three years old?” And she said “well! Cause she likes it!”
She then proceeded to say, “Well what about all this hickie s** on your neck” (pointing to a mark that wasn’t even there”. I didn’t say anything, but asked her about how she slept with another guy, cheating on the baby’s father, when her daughter was 2 months with the daughter in the room. And she said, “ARE YOU F*** SERIOUS, DUDE? SERIOUSLY?” I said “why” and she said “She wasn’t even there when we did it, she was at her F***** Grandma’s Ok?”
The entire time, both me and my boyfriend had calm voice tones, as we always do with them, and they were beligerant and screaming and cussing at both us and the situation.
That’s when I turned the recording off and just left. We called the cops and made a report about the situation and the cops went to that house, and w
we just went home.
I know no one here can make a 100% correct prediction. But we won’t see the DHS until Monday morning. And even then we’re just worried that she’ll get awaywith everything just cause she’s the mom. We both have good jobs, and can support her easily, and her mom and boyfriend work on minimum wage part time constantly having to move because they are always evicted and can’t find a place to stay.
I stayed up with him last night and he and I cried all night long. We’re just sick. And this was the worst thing I’ve ever whitnessed and he says it happens all the time. I don’t know whether to just keep recording if that will do me any good or if you think that it will make headway.
Please don’t flag this just because it’s long. I’m sorry, We’re just so upset about everything I just need some kind of opinion. I love her like she was my own flesh and blood, it seems like I love her more than her own mom does.
Any input would help so much.
Thanks!
I just reviewed the recording again:
My boyfriend: “the paper say.. (I won’t get into detiail), I’d like to see her on Christmas eve since I didn’t even get to see her during Christmas last time.”
Felon: “And who’s fault was that?”
MyBoyfriend: “Sasha’s, cause she wouldn’t let me take her”
Felon: “Well, there aint no way, dude” (talking about his court ordered visitation, he was trying to deny my boyfriend)
MyBoyfriend: “You aint her daddy, so I’m not gonna argue with you about it”
Felon: “You know what, she calls me daddy though.
Mom: “We’re not gonna do this guys ok?”
Felon: “Well she has an ***hole for a daddy”
Mom: (Very loudly in front of the kids) “Ya she DOES have an ***hole for a daddy”
MyBoyfriend: “well I’m gonna be bringing her back on this day, is that ok?” (stating exactly as he is allowed in the papers)
Mom: “Well, I don’t know, I’m gonna have to talk to my lawyer on that”.
MyBoyfriend: “Well if you want, I can have my lawyer contact
Mind you, I didn’t start a fight with her, she attacked me as I was being as sweet as I could. I’ve done nothing but be completely nice to her, and she’s actually had her friends call and harrass me and my boyfriend in texts and calls.
