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Regarding child custody…..?

  • Posted on February 1, 2011 at 5:21 am

Obviously I am getting an attorney, on Monday, but I am curious to know if anyone has experience that may help me out a bit……

The father of my child is 27 years old and recently got kicked out of his mothers house due to her suspicion of him using drugs….although he said to me he wasnt using heroin….he did however spend 280 out of the 300 he got paid on illegal presciption pills, this is also however the fisrt time in a year he has even recieved money….has not spent one dollar on our 5 month old daughter…..

I did not feel comfortablt leaving my daughter with him…he is homeless, jobless, and taking pills i did tell him he could visit her under my supervision until i felt i could trust him….he chose not to take advantage of that offer

he refuses to sign any medical forms for our daughter, i have been on him everyday about signing them so he is going to get a restraining order on me “so he says” he has lied about filing motions with court against me in the past….

he also has a warrant out for his arrest and is a wanted graffiti artist although they dont know its him behind that graffiti name….

what are the chances of me getting sole legal custody of our daughter?
also can the court issue me tempoary sole physical custody? or visitation granted on the completition of a negative drug test or something?

I will be discussing this with an attorney as well, but maybe someone with experiece can point in the right direction is what questions i should ask my attorney etc…..or if anyone in the legal can give me some confidence in my situation…i am nervous and scared and just want to protect my daughter and be there for her in every way

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Feeding question regarding my 6 week old?

  • Posted on December 21, 2010 at 1:24 am

My daughter is breast fed, but as of the last three days come the night time she has been extremely hungry, her last feeding before she sleeps through out the night. She usually starts feeding around 10:30 her final meal of the day. Normally she would feed on and off for an hour until she fell asleep for the night. As of recent she has been eating me dry. For instance last night she ate both boobs, and was still hungry and trying to find the boob but I had nothing. Thankfully I bought formula just in case, I have the expensive crap in a can that is liquid, it is the only one she will drink (long story I got sick and couldn’t breast feed while puking in a toilet). So of course I whip up a bottle real quick. She devours that, and is still hungry. This went on for about 3.5 hours. She would fall asleep and wake up trying to find the boob. I was talking to my mum about this and she says its normal for a baby to sometimes go through growth spurts she said I did it along with my brother and sister as well. My mum told me to buy pablum and put a teaspoon in her formula after she is done with the breast. Has anyone done this? My mum said she did it to us and it won’t hurt my daughter, and I trust my mum but I just want to make sure. She is only 6 weeks old. But she is large for her age I’m told. People think she is three months old. My daughter weighs 12lbs 4 oz now, and is 59 cm long. She has gained almost 1/3 a pound a week since she has been born and she has grown a cm a week since being born because she has grown 6 cm in 6 weeks. She is very attentive and already basically holding her own head up. I’m told she is advanced for her age but I’m a first time mom, I think everything she does is amazing and normal for her age, but regardless I’m told differently. My doctor was impressed with her size and told me she will be tall, well anyways, a side from this is it OK to do this? What is the earliest anyone has given there child pablum? I asked my doctor this while pregnant and he gave me a sketchy answer of when you can’t satisfy their hunger anymore with just breast milk. Well that time is arriving, is it still to early? Will a teaspoon in infant formula hurt her?

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Regarding picky eaters… experienced parents, please fill in the blanks?

  • Posted on November 13, 2010 at 11:24 am

My son/daughter seems to live off of ___________.

My son/daughter would eat ___________ 5 times a day if I let him/her.

My son/daughter’s list of preferred foods contains _________ (how many) items.

My answers are:
Peanut butter and jelly
Fruit snacks
About 8 items

My son has always been a picky eater… we’ve tried bribing, we’ve tried starving him, etc… but we’ve gotten to the point where as long as what he is eating is healthy – we’re not pushing right now.

His 8 items are: peanut butter/jelly, wheat waffles, bananas, yogurt, dry cereal, baby oatmeal cereal, peaches, and pizza (and he only drinks milk or water.)
Just so everyone knows – I doctor up almost everyone of these items to boost their nutritional value. Veggie juice mixed in baby cereal, chopped/diced veggies on our pizza (in the sauce), flax seed in homemade waffles, and low sugar jelly and wheat bread for pb/j.

Just looking from support from other moms who have picky eaters… thanks!

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What to think, what to do regarding living with future in-laws!!?

  • Posted on October 16, 2010 at 4:33 pm

I have been living with my boyfriend of 5 years for the past 4 years of our relationship. Now that we’re engaged and marriage is looming in the next year or two, I’ve had a hard time coming to grips of our living situation. I basically goes down like this:

My fiance and his twin brother own the house they currently live in. It’s a mother-daughter type house were the first floor’s a separate apartment from the 2nd and 3rd floor. And while the house is quite comfortable and spacious, it isn’t occupied only by my fiancee and brother. Their parents live there as well. Since the father’s an alcoholic and the mother’s a housewife, they’re pretty much financially dependent on my fiance and his brother. His parents have a house of their own in Mexico (where they’re from) but have no desire to live there full-time. So they’re living with them full-time here in New York. Since I’ve gone this far (4 years) of living with them and haven’t ripped my hair out, I figure I can live in peace with them. For the most part they’re very helpful around the house. The mother cooks everyday, the father takes care of the up-keep of the house (his alcoholism isn’t as severe as in the past) and they’ve never EVER disrespected me. They’re very friendly and cordial. However the only thing that rubs me the wrong way sometimes is the lack of independence and privacy I feel whenever I want to be with my fiance.

Many times they depend on my fiance or his brother to drive them places (they can’t afford their own car), sometimes invade our privacy and other minor things that can be annoying. And while these things are minor, they can build up and I’m just not sure if this situation is going to continually be a good one. The main factor that’s stopping my fiancee and I from getting our own place is the economy. It’s nearly impossible to get approved for a home mortgage and unless I magically hit the lottery, we’ll be living like this for a few more years.

Sorry this question is more like a long monologue, but I just really need some insight as to what I should be feeling about things. I am madly in love with my fiance and KNOW that I want to spend the rest of my life with him. It’s just unfortunate that due to circumstances that are out of our power to change, are keeping things on edge.

What would you do in my situation? Any feedback would be much appreciated!

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Question regarding domestic violence and meth use?

  • Posted on September 22, 2010 at 11:20 pm

My sister’s boyfriend was arrested Thursday night and charged with 3rd degree domestic violence (for hitting her), child abuse (because her daughter witnessed the incident) and assault. He is up for a bail hearing on Wednesday (because of the holiday) and I would like to know if there is a way we, as my sister’s family, could get him to remain in jail until his court date in August because he is a meth addict, a danger to my sister and her daughter. My sister doesn’t want him to stay in jail and wants to get the restraining order lifted so this guy can come back home to her, she doesn’t believe he is a threat but acknowledges he is in meth and pot. Can I get a lawyer or should I contact the arresting officier and try to see how it would be possible for this guy to be kept in jail (or have a $10,000 or so bond that no one could afford to bail him out) or would anything I even do help?

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Just before calling an attorney regarding abusive neighbor.?

  • Posted on September 1, 2010 at 9:22 pm

I’m in a rental condo going on my 5th year. Close to work, shopping etc. Have contacted out of state owner of condo downstairs regarding his tenant who plays loud sub woofer asked him to have the guy stop. Tenant does not stop, now find out tenant was involved in a dwi, hit and run damage to property, no operators license. The tenant/squatter is there by default. The tenant was living there with his girlfriend until she died in May. The owner her dad has allowed this guy to stay there because he said “guy was so good to my daughter”.
Thing is tenant is destroying the place, and the car involved in the hit and run is the dad’s. The condo association has sent the dad a letter, but still the owner has no intention of kicking the guy out. I don’t want to go to the outrageous expense to move. Not even sure if an attorney can help me probably not.
My lease entitles me to quiet enjoyment of the premises, but that I can use to break the lease which puts me in the move position. Any Ideas??

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