You are currently browsing all posts tagged with 'relationship'

The internet has ruined my relationship!?

  • Posted on May 8, 2011 at 10:21 am

Last week I noticed my partner of 5 years was taking his phone everywhere with him, including the shower. When he wasn’t looking I checked his messages and saw hed been texting some girl from a social networking site. When I confronted him he made out I was crazy! Eventually he admitted it and said it was only her he spoke to and nothing happened, he hadn’t met her. I was hurt but I forgave him. Now over the past week I have an obsession with checking his phone and email. He has registered with 7 sex dating sites and several web cam chat rooms. He says he loves me and he has a problem. Is it really a problem or like most other addictions-a choice? I feel so betrayed. We had a daughter last year and I know I’m not as slim anymore, havent managed to afford a hair cut in over a year and I know Im not a teenager. Am I being too dramatic about this? Im just in so much pain. I cant stop thinking about what hes been doing. Can anyone help me?

  • Share/Bookmark

What do I do when my fiance of a 6 yr relationship has addiction problems-i love him but a tired?

  • Posted on April 1, 2011 at 7:21 am

So, I’ve been with my curent fiance for 6 yrs and we have a 2 yr old daughter together. I love him very much but it seems like as time goes by things get worse. He’s an alcoholic but has been sober for 4 months. However, he now constantly smokes that K2 stuff and talks about weed. His addictions have caused countless problems–lying and stealing being a big one. I’m the total opposite from him and sometimes feel like I’m moving towards making a better life for us while he’s stuck in this mentality of just doing anything he wants no matter the consequences. Any advice? Suggestions? I just don’t know how to let go of a relationship after so long…but I’m tired of everything and constantly being lied to. Thanks in advance

  • Share/Bookmark

My husband wants a relationship with his daughter?

  • Posted on March 4, 2011 at 9:22 pm

What should I do ?

Here is the story, after our oldest(12) was born me and my husband seperated. He had a breif relationship with a woman which resulted in her having a child. After that he came back to his family and we worked things out and had 6 more kids. My husband always paid child support for her and saw her maybe 15-20 a year. My kids do not know about her, she knows the exist. About 2 years ago I told him it’s either her or us his real family. He chose us. Her mother is a meth user and was taken to jail and the girl was sent to live with an uncle. I told my husband to break all contact with her. We have a family she is not part of it. Things were going fine until late at night my husband got a call from her, I don’t know how she got his cell number. She was crying and begging to live with us and now he is considering it! How can I stop this,
He did not cheat we were seperated for three months before he met her. They were together for a month before he came back to his family. We found out she was having a baby a few weeks later

  • Share/Bookmark

Should I bail out of this relationship now before I get hurt bad?

  • Posted on February 10, 2011 at 8:17 am

My boyfriend was drinking so much in 2003, he ended up in the hospital in organ failure. He was in ICU for 31 days. He had pancreatic damage and now is a bad diabetic. He stopped drinking after this for about 2 1/2 yrs and last fall his daughter, her alcoholic husband and 2 little kids moved in and he started drinking with them. He thought he could control the drinking, but it has gotten out of hand. He is not a mean drunk, or abusive or sloppy, He is the kindest, sweetest person I have ever met. He is very good to me and I am soooo worried about this. I never see him drink, but know he is doing it because I can smell it on him when he sleeps, and he sweats it.
I am afraid he will die, and I will be left without my heart and soul. I have tried to talk to him about his drinking and he agrees it is a problem.
I never drink with him, but what can you do? He cannot see the light. Daughters family has moved out. She said “he would have started drinking anyways”

  • Share/Bookmark

Am I the only one that smells a rat in the Anna Nicole Smith relationship with Howard Stern?

  • Posted on January 15, 2011 at 10:21 pm

The Bahamian Registrar’s Office has listed Stern, Smith’s longtime legal sidekick turned paramour, as the father of her month-old daughter on the girl’s birth certificate.

In the lawsuit, Birkhead claimed, among other particularly damning accusations, that he was the father of the baby girl, that Smith (whose legal name is Vicky Lynn Marshall) has a methadone addiction facilitated by Stern, that Stern is claiming to be the father for reasons of financial gain, and that the mourning mother fled to the Bahamas to give birth to avoid routine drug testing for her and her daughter.

  • Share/Bookmark

How do you repair a damaged relationship?

  • Posted on January 11, 2011 at 2:17 am

i have a 3 week old baby with my boyfriend. but our relationship is so screwed up. what do you suggest doing to bring us closer together and intimate? i want us to make a commitment to each other as a family, and last forever. he has a alcoholic problem, and publicly degrates me, can that change? if he degrates me, does that reflect on how he thinks of all women? will he end up doing the same thing to my daughter when she grows up?

  • Share/Bookmark

Staying in a relationship with Bi-Polar. What and how do I do it?

  • Posted on December 30, 2010 at 1:21 pm

My friend is bi-polar and manic depressive. He is also an alcoholic and does cocaine. How do I help him get on the right track and get back on medication and off of everything else? He has also become violent with me and me daughter lately and now sits in jail. Help me help him.

  • Share/Bookmark

Mental Health Question: I’m in a relationship that has gone wonderfully. However, out of the blue and for

  • Posted on November 22, 2010 at 4:32 pm

reason my girlfrien (she’s in her mid 30s and so am I) has sent me a letter saying we should not see each other because she is afraid of hurting me (not physically) and that she felt we should break up before she does. When I questioned her about it, she said that for some unknown reason she has done that in the past and it has ruined relationships for her before. she can’t explain why out of the blue she says those things. Last week she sent another text message that its best we not see each other. Again I questioned her about it and she apologized and said she did not mean to send the letter but feared that again she didn’t want to hurt me in the long run. She can’t explain what she meant by hurting me. It sounds like a fear of commitment or abandonment. her previous husband died of alcoholism (i don’t drink), her mom died at 45 years of age, her and her dad have no relationship. She has a daughter who she spoils. We’ve never argued, we always laugh, have a ton in common.
She has a wonderful job, even attends night school to add a second career. She is stable in every appearable way. She’s well respected by her friends, colleagues, is very intelligent and has a sense of humor. I can’t understand why out of the blue she acts the way she does, she can’t explain it either and she refuses to see a counselor. Is this borderline personality? a split or dual personality disorder? It seems to go well beyond a fear of commitment. I have said i’d be happy to work through whatever it is. I don’t pressure her, support her in anyway i can (mentally, emotionally, and as a boyfriend). I see a lot of good in her that is worth maintaining the relationship. How do i work through this, how do i help her, why would someone do these things. She insists that she has a history of doing these things without explaination and is very sorry afterwards. She too has stated that she’d like to maintain the relationship.

  • Share/Bookmark

Need advice on relationship issue involving my fiance and I and his 19 year old daughter.?

  • Posted on November 21, 2010 at 7:21 pm

My fiance has a 19 year old daughter who is a bit defiant, but not in a drug addiction/going to jail kind of way. She’s not in college right now and that seems to bother my fiance. He talks to me about it and then waits for my opinion and tell him, he jumps down my throat and tells me to shut up and not to talk to him. I’ve told him before I dont want to know since he doesn’t seem to like my answers. And it’s getting worse. I just tell him he needs to back off her and just love her and support her decisions. I wasn’t 19 too long ago either. But always says i dont know what she is going through b/c i was brought up by loving parents. And says i dont know what she is going through. I told him he was right, I don’t. I don’t know what to tell him anymore. He seems to get upset at everything I say. He tells me I need to help her out. But she’s not my daughter. I shouldn’t have to call her and ask her if she needs advice. If she wants someone to talk to, ive told her to call me. She doesn’t, so nothing much I can do. I just dont get what he wants me to do for her. I can’t make her do anything, she’s not family to me. How should I handle it? Pls Help! BTW, im 27. Thanks
Everything else we can agree on. This is the only subject that really gets his feathers in a ruffle. For the most part things are really good.
There was a few years he didn’t see his daughter b/c the mom refused her to see him. Mom is a mental case. Even daughter says so. We get a long together. We hang out sometimes. But I can’t make her listen to me. I can give her advice, if she chooses to take it great if not, I can’t do much else.
I told him she is not moving in with us. No way. Not supporting someone that isn’t mine. I don’t make enough money to support her, nor am I financially responsible for her.
I don’t think I should have to financially help her through college or help her buy things like a car, etc. Her mom and dad are the ones that are suppose to help her. I have my own college expenses to pay for. She is 19 now, an adult. She has a job. She makes her own money. I tell her maybe she should try to save up money on the things she needs to get to where she wants to be. She asks me how I was able to do the things I did when I was her age, and I told her I didn’t spend money on things that were not absolutely needed. And I learned to spend my money wisely.
Her and I are good friends. We like each other. I just don’t like the way he jumps down my throat when I just try to tell him he just needs to show her love and not jump down her throat b/c she isnt doing exactly what he wants her to do. I’m willing to help her emotionally and for advice, but she even says she doesn’t want me to be her mom and she likes that i’m not trying to butt in. I just get my head chewed off when I tell him he needs to back off her. She will do what she wants to do, no matter how many times he tells her what he wants her to do. He can do it till he is blue in the face. She will do what she needs to do when she is ready, and he wants her to be ready now.

  • Share/Bookmark

I’m trying to find out if Oprah ever had a show about teenagers on Meth and the parents relationship with them

  • Posted on September 29, 2010 at 4:20 pm

I have a daughter that, in her senior year of high school, started using meth. She had been prom queen, varsity cheerleader, honor role student. When I confronted her, with an intervention with her principal, counselor and my ex-husband – she denied it. but later in private with myself and my ex she admitted. She went to live with her father 150 miles away and finished her senior year doing home studies. She’s come back home to live with me now twice; and each time after a couple of months, I’ve had to ask her to leave because she was using again, even though she denied it. Her “safe haven” is with her Dad. The last instance was early May, I had all the signs of a heart attach and had to go to the hospital. My doctor told me “she had to leave”. Again she’s gone and now there is absolutely no communication. She hates me. My ex, who she is living with again, won’t tell me how she’s doing. I’m having a tough time dealing. Does anyone know of any good books, CD’s to help me?

  • Share/Bookmark