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I’m trying to find out if Oprah ever had a show about teenagers on Meth and the parents relationship with them

  • Posted on September 28, 2010 at 5:20 pm

I have a daughter that, in her senior year of high school, started using meth. She had been prom queen, varsity cheerleader, honor role student. When I confronted her, with an intervention with her principal, counselor and my ex-husband – she denied it. but later in private with myself and my ex she admitted. She went to live with her father 150 miles away and finished her senior year doing home studies. She’s come back home to live with me now twice; and each time after a couple of months, I’ve had to ask her to leave because she was using again, even though she denied it. Her “safe haven” is with her Dad. The last instance was early May, I had all the signs of a heart attach and had to go to the hospital. My doctor told me “she had to leave”. Again she’s gone and now there is absolutely no communication. She hates me. My ex, who she is living with again, won’t tell me how she’s doing. I’m having a tough time dealing. Does anyone know of any good books, CD’s to help me?

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My daughter has been in a 10 year relationship with her husband of three years.?

  • Posted on September 27, 2010 at 6:20 pm

Her husband was, as she says “tried to get me to have sexual affairs with other men, so that he could justify having sexual affairs himself.” Her husband also gave her money and told her to “buy some meth, it will help you lose weight” and constantly told her how she was to fat. He also had relations with a woman in there own home, while my daughter was pregnant with her first child. Well, she ran off with another man, is now addicted to Meth, and she has left her entire family and husband and 2 year old daughter to run away with a Meth and alcohol addict. Now her husband has custody of the 2 year old and everyone is looking at him as if he is such a good person and my daughter is such a witch. What has he done to my daughter? How can I get my daughter to come home and fight for her daughter? Why does my daughter not want to fight for her child? Why does she want to stay away from eveyone that loves her and do drugs and alcohol? How can we help her 100 miles away from us?

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Should a mother have a relationship with someone who had been dating her daughter?

  • Posted on September 25, 2010 at 8:20 pm

A 53 YEAR OLD MAN WAS SEEING MY DAUGHTER (HAVING A SEX AND DRUG RELATIONSHIP) UNTIL HER MOM SAID HE IS NO GOOD AND STOP SEEING HIM. OUR DAUGHTER IS 32. MY EX WIFE THEN STARTS SEEING HIM AT WHAT LEVEL I’M NOT SURE, BUT I KNOW SHE DID DRUGS)METH) AND HIS VEHICLE IS OVER AT HER HOUSE SOMETIMES QUITE LATE. MY THINKING ON THIS IS SHE IS NOT SHOWING ANY RESPECT FOR OUR DAUGHTER AND NONE FOR HERSELF. OH, ONE OTHER THING IS THERE ARE 3 GRANDKIDS INVOLVED ALSO. NEED SOME REAL HONEST INPUT. THANKS

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How much can you take in a relationship before you know it should be over?

  • Posted on September 24, 2010 at 4:33 pm

I have been with the same guy for a little over 4 years. We live together, and we have a child together. I am, by far, not saying I am perfect. I tend to get grumpy at times, and I have a bad temper. But I have always been faithful, I do not lie to him, and I do everything in my power to keep him happy. As far as I know, he has never cheated on me, although there have been times where I have wondered. Here is my question:
I can be a moody person, but there are times when he is down right MEAN. He says really mean things, not only to me, but to my daughter. (This is not the child I have with him. This is my older daughter (6), who he got along great with when we first got together until we had out son 2 years ago. Then he totally changed his attitude towards her.)
He tries to pick fights with me, by saying things like I don’t do anything around the house (which I do my best at. Since July I have had 2 surgeries to fix problems that were causing me severe pain.), that I contribute nothing to our household because I do not work, (I am a stay at home mom of 2).
I do not think he has ever actually cheated, but I once found where he had been looking up only girls of a certain age and that were single, in the town he worked in, on Myspace. (He said he was looking for people he worked with.)
He tells me all the time that I should move out, or go find another guy. He will say he does not care if I leave, but he gets to keep our son. Then he will say that he just says that, he does not mean it, its just to make me mad.
He refuses to talk about any relationship problems. If I try, he will change the subject, or just ignore me.
Even though I am the one who stays home with our son all the time, and I have to be the one to punish him because he will not, he calls me a bad mother. He tells our son “Mommy doesn’t love you” and “Mommys mean to you”, all the time, especially when I do have to punish him. He tells our son to hit, kick and bite me.
Tonight is the 2nd night in less than 2 months where he has gone to a friends house and not come home. I get no phone call or anything.
The money he makes is HIS. If I need anything at all, I have to beg for it, and he usually will not give me any. I have to get money from my grandmother or my mother if there is anything I need. He says since he is the only one that works, it is only his money, and I have no say in how it is spent or what it is spent on.
He always yells at me for not working, but any time I have tried he will say “What? You want to leave our baby?”
I have to ask permission to use our car (which I helped buy, but it is in his name), and he watches the mileage and barely lets me use it, even for important things. I have to get rides from other people most of the time.
Three years ago, he gave me an engagement ring. A year ago I took it off after a bad fight about his drinking and I left for a few days. He has not tried to give it back to me, and he says he does not ever want to get married, when before he said he did. If I try to bring it up, he says “Why would I marry YOU?”
Like I said, I am not perfect. I do get upset about things, and I do yell when I am mad. But that is usually because of things he says to me and my daughter. I do get after him about drinking, because he gets really mean when he drinks, and he has alcoholism in his family. I have it really bad in mine, and I told him right from the start that I was NOT going to have my children growning up around alcohol. Because of this, he says that I am no fun and I just am trying to ruin his fun.
Should I just call it quits with him? I am looking for advice, because I have no one else really to ask. My family, who used to think he was great, do not like him that much anymore. He talks bad to me in front of them, and they do not like the way he acts about money and the car. Even members of his own family say he is too mean, and they do not understand why I stay with him.
Really, no mean comments. I am just looking for advice.

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What would you do ? If you were in a relationship with a person who is addicted to cocaine?

  • Posted on September 15, 2010 at 1:21 pm

I have been in a relationship with a person who for the past three years has been on cocaine. He has an 11 year old daughter who loves me with all of her heart. I have walked out on him several times because he gets mean with me. And his daughter has BEGGED me to come back home,and I do. This last time she threw herself around my legs begging me to stay. I am so torn I don’t know where to go. I can not go to my family members because they didn’t want me with him to start with. Not only does he do cocaine, he drinks an 18 to 24 pack of beer a day. Starting at 7:00 in the morning. What do I do. I can’t leave this child who looks to me as her mom, because she does not have a mom, her mom gave her up to him.And when I came along she and I just fell in love with each other. She is a wonderful child and has been through to much in her life, and I can not bring myself to put her through any more. But, at the same time this relationship is taking it’s toll on me.I’m about to go crazy .

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can our relationship survive?

  • Posted on September 10, 2010 at 4:34 pm

Basically me and my partner, i am 25 she is 32 (we are lesbians) have been together now for 7 years. i met her in a pub, and to be fair it was quite clear she wasn’t the most stable of people to meet. she was my first girlfriend, and to be honest probably my last. there has always been three of us in this relationship, me, her and her beer. i remember in the early days how she would literally spend all of her money in pubs, coming home remorseful and full of apologies. i loved, and still love, her and forgave her completely. it went on and on. i remember one particularly dark moment when she was out drinking and i sat at home crying over the copper jar trying to count out enough to buy some electric. anyway, this is not a sob story. it got worse, i defended her. she then lost her driving licence, i had to lie to my parents about what was going on. she lost her licence for the second time, narrowly escaping a jail sentence, i was there throughout. while all this is going on she was fighting for access to her children, again, i took time off work, spent about six months sitting around court waiting rooms and doing overtime to make up the loss in wages. over the last two years i have been wondering whether this has all gone too far and i should cut my losses so to speak. until easter this year, when out of the blue her 14 year old daughter decided to move in with us. so she did. but all the responsibility feels like its left down to me all the time. i work quite late and its the normal thing to happen for me to come in after work and her daughter to be at a friends house while she is out drinking. i dont drink myself, not because i have a problem, its just not something that i enjoy doing, and to be honest i have seen enough drunkeness to last me a life time. Its so hard to understand, i know that whatever i do the drinking is always going to be there, i feel as if i am withdrawing from the situation, but also feel some kind of moral responsibility to her daughter. every penny i earn goes on the house and bills and food. there is no imput from anyone else. there is a history of alcoholism in her family. and although she has never ever hit me, when she comes home drunk there is a lot of verbal abuse. we certainly dont have fights or loud arguments but she is not the nicest person to meet. i am so tired, my wages are keeping three people now and i have lost all pleasure in life. i dont enjoy work anymore because i am so tired, and i dread comming home. she doesnt seem to understand how it makes me feel. we have very little physical relationship. i have thought about keeping a diary of her drinking and my feelings and making her read it maybe once a month but i dont want to use bullying tactics. i just want her to understand how much i want to make our home, and new found family work. if i cant do it then i have given 7 years of my life to a lost cause. i do love her and feel so protective of her, and i know she will always have an issue with drinking but i am sure we can work around that and i would never dream of demanding her to stop becasue there is no point. i do wish though that she understood how i feel. i am supposed to be a part of this not just a provider. i would love to hear your advice.

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Why would my daughter not want to have a relationship?

  • Posted on September 8, 2010 at 10:17 am

I gave my daughter up for adoption when I was in college. I am not a terrible person, drug addict, alcoholic, prostitute, or whatever else most people think about birthmothers. I just wanted to finish college.

I finally found her, and contacted her, and she said the past should stay in the past and no offense but she didn’t want a relationship of any kind. Why would she say this to me? Is she trying to hurt me? Do you think her adoptive parents told her lies about me? I don’t know what to do..

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How can I make it easier to move on from a relationship from a man who is an alcoholic and we have a 1 child?

  • Posted on September 5, 2010 at 4:17 pm

He’s meeting all kinds of people in AA that he talks to them at all hours of the day. Women more in general. He says that i dont understand him, they do. Has never made me or his daughter a part of his sobriety process. Wants my daughter to meet his new friends.

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should I keep trying to have a relationship with my daughter or just give up?

  • Posted on September 1, 2010 at 3:23 am

My daughter is 24 and is recovering from Heroin addiction. She and my grandchild are currently living in a halfway house. When My daughter first went into rehab she got mad at me and decided to stop speaking to me, again. We had always had a rocky relationship, she is very selfish and she blames me for her birth mom abandoning her. I was very angry and upset with her boyfriend, my grandchilds dad, he introduced her to heroin and she decided to stick by him. Also, the reason she is in rehab was while high she attacked me and I turned her into the police. So as part of her punishment she was to go into rehab. I have been in therapy myself and I have since forgave her and her boyfriend They both went into therapy and they are both better now. The thing is that I have attempted to keep in touch with my daugther but she doesn’t make any attempt to keep in touch with me. I write her letters, send her cards and call her weekly. She has never send me any cards and doesn’t bother to call me. She uses the excuse that she has a pre-paid phone and can not afford to call me. But she makes the time to keep in contact with the boyfriends mom. This week the rehab moved her and my grandchild to another Halfway house and she still hasn’t called and let me know the new address or phone number. At this point I am begining to wonder if I should just drop it and move on with my life. The only reason I keep trying to keep in touch with her is because of my grandchild. I love her so much and I always send her cards, weekly, to try to keep in touch.

I have offered to go to the rehab for family counseling, and she hasn’t accepted. (my therapist is after me to write a letter to her counsler. I said no because I feel it is her therapy and that would be interfering with it) I offered to let her move back in with me but she prefers the halfway house. She even refers to the people that live there as her new family.

I guess my question is how long do you keep reaching out to your child before you just have to move on. I figure that if I do stop contacting her, eventually my grandchild will seek me out and we can start back up our relationship then. Any advice, no matter how painful would be appreciated.

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have you been in a relationship with an alcoholic? what was it like?

  • Posted on August 29, 2010 at 8:17 am

i just realized that the guy i’ve been seeing is an alcoholic. i got cofirmation from his daughter that he is indeed an alcoholic? plus, there are so many issues in his life, including his daughter’s bipolar disorder, his low tolerance for anxiety, etc. what am i supposed to do? if i stay with him and brave the storm, what’s in store for me? what would i be facing if i continue this relationship with this guy?

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