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My homeless drug and alcoholic brother tries to make me feel responsible for his situation.?

  • Posted on January 11, 2011 at 3:21 am

I helped him once by finding him a job buying him a trailer and vehical so he could work and take care of his wife. He lost his job and then traded the the trailer and car for drugs. He is now homless and blames me for not taking him and his family into my home. They are both alcoholics and heroin addicts. I have a wife and 9yr old daughter so thats not going to happen yet I feel guilty to the point of not being able to sleep. I saw him panhandling at the local grocery store. I went lost my temper and became terribly upset. I feel like putting him out of his misery yet feel sorry to see a family member this way and feel guilty for not helping . he has no self respect this hole situation is driving me crazt How do I deal with him?

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Who is legally responsible for an accident when the designated driver misses a curve, hits a tree & is killed?

  • Posted on November 17, 2010 at 3:22 am

My daughter let her non-drinking friend drive her car to & from a party. The driver hit a tree, was killed. My daughter went through the windshield & is in intensive care with head injuries & broken bones.Who is responsible & does it change if the car was not insured?

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Who is legally responsible for an accident when the designated driver misses a curve, hits a tree & is killed?

  • Posted on November 16, 2010 at 5:23 am

My daughter let her non-drinking friend drive her car to & from a party. The driver hit a tree, was killed. My daughter went through the windshield & is in intensive care with head injuries & broken bones.Who is responsible & does it change if the car was not insured?

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Minor injured driving my go-kart, am I responsible for hospital bills?

  • Posted on November 6, 2010 at 3:23 am

13yo friend of 13yo daughter was driving my daughter’s go-kart (without permission). Went off of our property onto the road and rolled the go-kart. Only driver was injured, she was taken to ER and had mild concussion, otherwise fine, thank God. Find out after the fact that the kids had been drinking! They’d gotten alcohol from an older teenage boy. This happened 2-1/2 months ago. I just got a copy of the hospital bill and a request from the parent of the driver today asking me to pay what their insurance did not pay. The last time we spoke was 2 days after the accident, I had called again to make sure her daughter was OK. I went to the ER with them and called multiple times after the accident to make sure all was OK.

The accident didn’t happen on our property, the girls didn’t have permission to be using the go-kart at the time, the girl driving was the one who got injured and they certainly didn’t have permission to be drinking. Are we responsible for this hospital bill? I feel splitting it with the parent of the driver would be more than fair. However, if we do that would we be admitting some kind of fault or responsibility that could later come back to haunt us? I don’t want any hard feelings with this parent, I’m just surprised they waited so long to address the situation and I don’t know what to do. (I want to mention that if it had been my daughter driving I would definitely be paying the whole bill!) Thanks for any help!

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Why is there such a negative perception of responsible adults who try to have some educated input into their..?

  • Posted on August 12, 2010 at 9:21 pm

…prescribed medications?

I ask this as a 32 year old mother of a toddler, who has been dealing with serious back problems for over 13 years now (stemming from my 6 years in the Army). I have been to every type of medical and alternative type of professional out there and so far the pain only increases. Now it’s one thing to go from being a fully functioning, high level achiever to someone who is “disabled,” but add to that the responsibilities of single motherhood and all I want is to be the best mom I can for my daughter.

Over the past 8 years or so I have educated myself tremendously about the various medications and treatments I’ve been prescribed and those available. Unfortunately my only medical care is through the VA hospital so I am limited in my options. Over the 13 years of this ordeal thus far, doctors have prescribed probably 50-75 different types of medications and combinations thereof to try and treat my pain level. As of August 2007 (when I found out unexpectedly that I was pregnant) I was on 160 mg of Oxycontin plus about 8 Percocet, plus Valium, muscle relaxers, and two different types of depression medications – all just naturally prescribed by my doctors (not at my request, but without my objection). When I found out I was pregnant my pain management doctor actually told me it was OK to stay on all that medication and my baby would “just have to detox” after birth! I said no way in hell and I began to taper down my meds on my own, which I did incorrectly at first until I found another doctor that agreed with me about detoxing myself over the course of the pregnancy. By the time my daughter was born (perfect and healthy) I was down to 20 mg of oxycontin/day, one anti-depressant (although not the best treatment for my issue but best for my daughter while growing inside of me) and a very mild anti-anxiety med once in a while for severe attacks. I stayed at that level for 6 more months while breastfeeding then my doctor wanted to start increasing my pain meds again. I was in tremendous pain and was OK with increasing at that point. About 3 months ago I was up to 80 mg Oxycontin again and finally I decided it was enough and I requested to be tapered off the meds again since they weren’t really helping my pain level much anyway. OK, I realize this is long but I feel I need to give a little background, please bear with me.

So now with my narcotic pain regimen tapering down again (already to 40 mg/day) I decided to try to take control of the other aspect of my prescription care, which is my depression. The medication I am on now is not working that well for me and I am constantly exhausted, lack motivation and have a lot of trouble concentrating on anything. I asked my mental health professional if it was possible to change my prescription to another med, which is controversial but I have read a lot about it in treatment of depression and it has worked well for a friend of mine with similar situation. Instead of talking about that med or any other suitable similar meds, she INCREASED my dosage of the med I am already on.

So a few days ago I asked a question on here about why my doctor may have been so against the med I researched and asked her about and the answers I got were pretty darn dismissive and judgmental. It got me thinking about how I have been treated by everyone in my life when they find out about my prescription regimens. All I want, obviously, is to be the most functional, “whole” person I can be, especially now, for my daughter. What is wrong with that? Why is there so much judgment, criticism and discrimination against people who are merely trying to live more normal lives without horrible pain and suffering? I just don’t get it. Can anyone help me understand?

Thanks!
Honeysuite – Thank you. I am on the “list” for therapy at my local VA. Unfortunately, the VA system is way overburdened with all the soldiers coming back from the Middle East, and with all the ridiculous budget cuts… well, you get the idea.

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Would you feel responsible if you teenage daughter started binge drinking and having sex?

  • Posted on January 1, 2010 at 7:32 pm

I made a lot of mistakes as a teenager. I take full responsibility but at the same time there was no one that cared about me or told me that what I was doing was wrong. My Mom was literally gone all the time. She never knew who my friends were.

I would come home drunk and she would not do a thing. She would just look the other way and continue watching TV. She was never involved in my life or talked to me.

I just wish I had a role-model to look up to. I looked up to my peers because they were the only people that talked to me.

My Mom also loves to call girls sluts and whores all the tiem. She calls Jamie Lynn Spears a whore. My cousin got his girlfriend pregnant and she calls her a whore also….

Do you think some of these”whores” just never had a parent that cared about them. How are kids supposed to learn self-respect when they don’t have an involved parent?

What would you do if you saw your 15 year old daught come home drunk numerous times and found out she was havin

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