Over the past 60 plus years we’ve witnessed an amazing turn of events. Men and women have become equal in almost every way. An equally amazing event has occurred in that same time period; men are no longer acting like men. Men suppress the fact that they have a Y-chromosome because of a constant pressure to express the sensitive and feminine that is inside of us (yes, you have all of that inside of you… you can’t deny the X-chromosome we all carry).
Allow me to clarify before I go any further. It is the opinion of this writer that, without any equivocation, men and women are equal. Neither is better than the other. However, there can be no denying that they are different. “Equal” does not mean identical.
This article is not about the differences between a man and a woman. Nor is it about equal rights or abilities. This article is about the way men have begun to hide or deny their masculine side rather than embrace and take pride in it.
The continued battle for equality between men and women is absolutely necessary. However, it is my opinion that this has been overdone in some areas. Men have left behind the core of what we are… the natural behaviors that create the raw attraction between men and women. Think back to the primal age. The fact that a man could protect and provide for a woman made him physically appealing and sexually attractive to the woman. On the flip side of that, the ability to nurture, care for and raise healthy children were the characteristics that males desired in a female.
Do you think that the fundamental nature of these desires in man and woman has changed?
My opinion is that it hasn’t. The need for physical protection or physically hunting and gathering has been eliminated due to society, technology and industry. However, the primal drive for sexual attraction between men and women is still the same; just disguised and suppressed, particularly by men. We’ve done it to ourselves.
More clarity is needed. I am not suggesting that we become the belligerent, loudmouthed idiots that we see in bars to prove our manhood. I also do not condone displays of physical strength, bullying or violence to prove you are superior to another man. These are simply acts of cowardice and insecurity, not of masculinity or power.
What I am suggesting is that we allow the core of who we are to surface. To allow our current or potential mate to see that we truly want to take charge and ravish her body. That deep in our soul we want to give in to our desire and devour her. This is not to physically harm, mistreat or demean her by any stretch of the imagination. This is simply to release the beast that we restrain each and every day. This can be accomplished and still keep you within the boundaries of our social environment; it is not about what you say, it is about what you allow your girl to see and feel. It is so invigorating to learn how to be free and unashamed of the masculine prowess pent up inside of most of us.
Based on the interviews I have conducted this presence is also something that the women in our lives are craving as well so long as it can be delivered in an environment in which she feels safe and respected for responding.
Here is a simple step to fall into raw masculinity:
Conquer Fear – For too long now we have believed that women want to us to be like them…sensitive to feelings, nurturing, and accommodating. This is only a half truth. They absolutely want us to be capable and willing to be sensitive to feelings, to be nurturing, and socially adept. But that does not mean to be those things all the time. It means you are able to provide those things when the situation calls for it. There is a significant difference between being and simply being capable. Make no mistake.
The fear of what people will think of us has dominated and forced us to push the real man inside of us into a corner. Stop being concerned with what people will think of you for expressing your desires the woman in your life. Allow your raw energy, including your love and even your feminine expression, to exude from your masculinity. This includes your lust and raw sexual desires.
None of this is done verbally or vulgarly. It is simply your state of being without shame or reserve.
Warning around sexual appeal – While it is perfectly acceptable to release and exude your sexual prowess, there are limitations. You must tame the beast when appropriate – this includes your work place or with women whom you do not know.
Do not come out and say you are sexually attracted; that is a sign of insecurity and low self-confidence. This is not about vocalizing your manhood or expressing it in a manner that makes you look like a fool. It is about showing up as the male of the species instead of what you think a woman wants you to show up as.
This is about being willing to be masculine and showing the world that you have balance: that you have sexual prowess and testosterone flowing through your system as well as an excellent balance of nurturing and intellect to make you an ideal partner.
If you need approval or permission… You have it now!
It is perfectly acceptable for you to be a man. Raw, powerful, and full of desire! Be the man you were born to be!
Phil Gilliam is the founder and president of AverageGuy, Inc. His goal is to positively impact the lives of 1 million men through education and coaching. Visit
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