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Are You Trying to Do it On Your Own?

  • Posted on July 1, 2009 at 9:05 pm

“We need each other to Fly!”

“I can do it on my own”. Is that a phrase that runs through your mind? This very phrase can be keeping you very stuck in your life.

When we are attempting to make positive changes in our life–desiring to move into our full potential–we can get stuck in thinking that we can do this all on our own. And then we get frustrated because we can’t make these changes and start to beat ourselves up.

The reality is that to make changes in our life–the kinds of changes that will really make a difference–we need support—and lots of it. The reason for this is our Conditioned Self–our false beliefs, fears, old programming is very strong and oftentimes very invisible to us. That is why it is so easy to get stuck.

We need healthy support around us–people that are capable of pointing out to us.”Are you aware that you are doing this—that you are getting in your own way?” Someone flashing the light on what we cannot see because we are too close to it.

One of the reasons that I love what I do so much is that I get to do this for my clients every day. After years of working with clients I am able to see very quickly what is getting in their way, what is keeping them stuck–and I am able to share this with them so they can start to quickly move forward again.

The other key thing that support can do for us is see the Grand Possibilities of who we are and what is possible in our life. Our Conditioned Self has a very limited perception of who we really are and what is truly possible for us.

I am able to see clients clearly and see the larger possibility for their lives. I am able to offer them “believing eyes” to help them move into their own Self-Belief–and to see their true potential.

I recommend on-going support for clients in one form or another: either individual work, or in a group, or by attending a Workshop. The most successful clients I have are the ones that get the most support. They innately know they need it and they love themselves enough to make sure they are getting enough of it.

So love yourself enough to get the support you need to really move forward in your life–you absolutely deserve it!

Shelley Riutta MSE, LPC is a pioneer in the Holistic Psychotherapy field. She specializes in Transformational individual counseling, Presentations and Workshops. For her free Workbook “What Do You REALLY Want: Finding Purpose and Passion” and free monthly tele-classes visit her web-site at http://www.RadiantLifeCounseling.com/

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Pitfalls to achieving goals

  • Posted on July 1, 2009 at 9:05 pm

1. Not excited about your goal. If you are excited about what you have set for yourself, chances are you will make it as compared to when you are not. So do whatever it takes to make it more exciting and interesting. One of the things that you can do is to interact and share with people having a similar interest or goal.

2. You doubt whether you will make it at the onset. If to begin with you doubt whether you will be able to make it, chances are you will not. Self belief is the key ingredient to achieving your goal. If you are in the game you ought to tell yourself that there is every chance of you winning and that you will do whatever it takes to win. Doubt = failure.

3. Soon the excitement fizzles out. Post the initial high when you really wanted to make things happen, if you are not able to maintain the same level of interest as you had in the initial days, of course you run out of fuel before you reach your destination.

4. Giving up a little too soon. Desirable things have a cost in terms of the effort and other resources you put in. And sometimes after all the hard work too you are not there and you pant and say how much more to go before I get there. Everyone who has worked on tough goals would know that it is something that each one has to go through. Many would leave it at that and give up, but some who make it through these toughest later parts are the ones who successfully realise their dreams.

5. Failing to plan.You wanted to get there but did not plan how. You drifted and did not take note before you were way way off the direction. Planning and tracking are not just management terminology, this is something necessary for anything that you are serious about doing. Business houses will be out of business if they don’t do it and as individuals we will not realise anything either.

6. Trying to chew more than what you can eat. One day you are all excited and try to fix every ill in your life. You sit down and list all the things that you want to do. Big bang approaches like these don’t work. They say, ‘You can eat an elephant if you eat it in pieces’. So what is necessary is to see what can be achieved realistically and then plan and prioritise.

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The Secret Ingredient

  • Posted on July 1, 2009 at 7:57 pm

Did you watch the film “Kung Fu Panda”? I don’t know why I didn’t watch it before last night, but I’m really glad I did finally see it. Needless to say, being about kung fu, the central theme of the movie is self-belief. Confidence really is “the secret ingredient” for success in life.

The movie demonstrated this important fact in two main ways. The panda’s dad had a noodle shop which was extremely successful, and everyone went there for the special noodles which contained “the secret ingredient”. Everyone raved about the noodles with the secret ingredient, even the son, the panda. It was only at the end of the film that he found out that there was no secret ingredient; it was just everyone’s belief that there was this secret that made everyone find it so special. Just the thought made people expect that it would be special and so it then tasted special.

This of course perfectly demonstrates the fact that your own self-belief, your own expectations pave the way to your own perception of reality, and therefore create your reality. The belief that there was a special ingredient actually made the noodles TASTE better. Your perceptions are colored by your beliefs in relation to everything in life. Your internal beliefs, your sense of self shapes all of your experiences and so it is vital that one has belief in oneself, confidence in yourself.

The other theme of the movie was finding the dragon warrior, the best kung fu expert, and this warrior would get to see what was on a secret scroll. There was much competition for this valued position, but somehow, accidentally the overweight panda who knew little about kung fu ended up being named as this warrior. The movie highlighted again and again the importance of belief and trust, the vital importance of believing in yourself and trusting in your own ability to succeed. It also demonstrated the fact that how you look makes no difference, and even your physical ability has little importance when compared to your inner belief, your inner confidence and resolution to succeed.

In the end, when the dragon scroll was opened, there was nothing on it. There was no secret formula for success. All that was seen in the scroll was one’s own reflection, demonstrating once again the inevitable fact that everything you need is already there within you, just waiting for you to realize this fact. The human mind is so incredibly powerful, if only we know to look within.

It is a fact that few people look within, few people tap into the hidden power of our own minds, and this is unfortunate. So many of us look to the outside for approval and guidance, and this is true of even the most successful people. But your true power comes from within, from your inner beliefs about yourself and your own internal expectations. Few of us know HOW to look within, HOW to build our inner confidence. Most of us just accept that “this is how we are”. But this thought process is limiting to say the least; it prevents stretching and growth, and instead promotes stagnation.

Once we begin to think in terms of growth and how we want to be and what we want to achieve, then we can look at what we might want to change and how to change it. Hypnosis is a wonderful tool to use when on a quest for self-growth, change and success. Hypnosis is a state of relaxation and allows you to take a step back, to look at yourself from a different angle. Hypnosis allows access to your subconscious mind where your otherwise hidden self-beliefs and expectations are stored.

Often we are not even consciously aware of many limiting beliefs – we just accept them as “normal” – they are in fact so normal to us that we do not even notice them. But when we begin to look inside, we can identify patterns of thought which limit us and choose to change them. With hypnosis, you can create new deep rooted beliefs, habits and expectations within your subconscious mind, and this is the part which acts instinctively and automatically. Hypnosis allows you to choose to build your confidence, to build your self belief and trust in yourself, and thereby pave your own way to success.

Hypnosis is easy to learn. In fact, you already use hypnosis without even realizing it. Hypnosis is the state between wake and sleep and so you pass through hypnosis each and every time you go to sleep. With hypnosis downloads you can learn to access the state of hypnosis at will. Simply by listening to a hypnosis download you will learn this art. You can, with hypnosis, examine your self-beliefs and choose what you want to change. Then you can do ANYTHING you want to do.

Your mind is totally and utterly amazing in its potential. You can do anything you set your mind to do so long as you believe in yourself. You can get hypnosis downloads to help you to gain more confidence, to achieve success, to achieve your maximum potential. You, like the panda in the movie, can learn to trust in yourself and to stop searching outside yourself for a “secret ingredient”, as you choose to look within, with the help of hypnosis.

Roseanna Leaton, specialist in hypnosis downloads for hypnosis confidence, success and well-being.

With a degree in psychology and qualifications in hypnotherapy, NLP and sports psychology, Roseanna Leaton is one of the leading practitioners of self-improvement. You can get a free hypnosis download from http://www.RoseannaLeaton.com and peruse her extensive library of hypnosis downloads

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How Does Having A Positive Mindset Change Lives

  • Posted on July 1, 2009 at 7:56 pm

When it comes to goal setting, it is essential that you have a positive mindset.
It is this positive mind set that will see you through all the expected and unexpected obstacles that crop up along the way. Having faith in your abilities is also essential when it comes to taking the necessarily actions on your path to success.

Hence, we see this everyday in people who are considered headstrong and determined. Their self-belief carries them along. Self motivation can be a brilliant thing as long as they can keep there feet on the ground.

A negative mind set is associated with low self-esteem and low self-confidence. Examples include fear of failure. Or self doubts which renders the individual paralyzed and unable to make even simple decisions.

Help would be needed to turn this around. Whether that helps is in the form of self-help or assisted help from a qualified or experienced counsellor. This would be up to the individual.

Knowing help is need is the first and major obstacle when you are trying to create a positive mindset.

Having defined a step-by-step action plan is essential. Not only will you see where you are going. You will also be able to see where you’ve been. With every successful and completed step, no matter how small, would be an enormous boost the individuals’ self-esteem and self-confidence. With each actualized goal, the momentum builds and the individual is motivated onwards to the next step. Then it’s onto the next goal, and the next.

It’s a bit like a baby learning to walk. First the baby has to learn how to crawl before she can stand, and then learn how to balance when standing before she can walk, and learn how to walk without holding onto things before she can run. Baby steps. One step at a time. One task at a time. One goal at a time. Keeping focused is a must.

It is inevitable that there will be set backs along the way. But they would not seem so dramatic when compared to a row of successes. Gradually the negative mindset would be transformed into a positive mindset, raised self-esteem and raised self-confidence.

This is very powerful stuff. It can and has turned lives around for the better.

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Debra Ashton

An avid consumer of business and personal development information for over a decade. Now sharing what I’ve learnt with others.

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