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A long question about if I should call DOCS 11 year old girl. Sorry it is about confusing?

  • Posted on April 18, 2011 at 7:21 am

OK so my client jessica comes in every week and she has been with her boyfriend for 3 years, he had a daughter to his old girlfriend and after they split up the mother ended up dieing of a heroin overdose. When the mother died the girl went to live with the mothers boyfriend at the time (not her father). DOCS ended up being called becaus he was mistreating the girl not feeding her and would hardly give her anything to dirnk and use to make her stand against a wall all day.

Dos ended up taking the girl of him and too his to live with Jessica and the girls biological father.

Jessica is always coming in complaining “Oh I hate that little bitch”, i feel like crying. She will constantly tell me about how if her and the boyfriend have a fight she will go into the girls room and break all her toys and trash her room.

Jessica and her boyfriend (the girls father) will go out on the weekend and smoke ice and take a mixture of other drugs, If they are not at home smoking it inside (even thought the girl is in the next room) they willl take him to a neighbours house for the night who they dont even know from a bar of soap.

I am sure the girl is well fed and she is going to school. I just feel terrible the things that Jessica tells me and how the smoke ice while the girl is in the house and they leave drugs lying around all the time.

I have a 2 year old and she will still come in say “I dont know why anyone has kids they are horrible I cant stand them, they always get in the way you can never do anything or go anywhere”

Maybe I am over reacting.
What do you think?

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Should I leave my husband?

  • Posted on April 3, 2011 at 3:21 pm

My husband and I have been together, on and off since I was 13, I am now 24 and we have a 19 month old daughter. My husband has been battling a drug addiction for about 4-5 years now and although he has stopped using heroin, he is now injecting subutex. We have tried everything and spent around 70,000 dollars on rehab and he is still using. I’m not sure I love him anymore and dont want my daughter growing up with a junkie for a father. I dont trust him to babysit her and am finacially dependant on him, which is not going well. I dont know if I should try to separate from him, I feel sorry for him but my mental health is now at risk, any advice?

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what should i do about this ?

  • Posted on April 2, 2011 at 3:20 pm

What should i do about this ?
this girl i only knew for a little while was homeless and had a two year old daughter , my daughter came to me and ask me could she stay at our house because the house she is staying in which is three doors down from me is to crowded , well i have a big heart , so said yes , well after she moved in my friend said she smoked meth and she said she stripped for money , thats not the problem well as soon as her daughter came over she always gets necked and talks about getting necked and a couple other inappropriate things , i told my friend and she said she thinks the little girl has been molested , well i told her what she said and she said well i was around this man who my daughter acted funny around my daughter didn’t want to be left around him , so i said what did you do and she said nothing i just never went back over there again . that made me uneasy , well i have a boyfriend and she always wanted to play with him the little girl i told don’t play with her i think she has been molested and the first person they is going to investigate is the person she is around . i also asked her if she had any dcfs cases and she said 13 unfounded and one founded for smoking meth around my daughter . i said who called on you she said my family call and said stupid stuff like i bite my daughter . i said did you she said no .my boyfriend was talking over a friend house about how she dont wont the lady there and she found out about how he didn’t want her there and she was talking to her aunt about it and her aunt said did you clean up she said yes. Also my daughter and her got into a argument . Since she been staying with me less than two months the aunt never kept the little girl me and my daughter did . But this day right after this she said my aunt is keeping my daughter today . When she got off of work she said i am on my way home i have something to tell you . She said my aunt said the little girl said your boyfriend touched her in her crouch . i said when because you with her a night and i am with her doing the day and he works during the day i have two other kids who is fourteen and seventeen and they only go to school no where else . what do you think

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Y/A has destroyed my life, What should I do?

  • Posted on March 30, 2011 at 1:21 am

I lost my well paid job. My wife divorced me. My daughter has become a hooker. My son has become a drug dealer. My car, 50″ TV and House was taken away from me. Im currently homeless with a laptop, using WIFI in McDonalds. What Can I do? – This addiction has ruined my life…
yeah Mark, Give me your best stuff *shivers*

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Should I allow my daughters dad to visit her?

  • Posted on March 29, 2011 at 1:21 pm

We have been seperated now for 2 years, he dos’nt pay anything towards her up keep, he constantly lets her down, telling her that he will come up on a certain day and then dos’nt turn up. The last time she saw him was Christmas morning he came up from 6.45am until 7.50am, no card no pressie. I hav’nt heard anything from him since. He has been abusive in the past which resulted in me losing twins at 9 weeks pregnant. He has a good job, but spends his money on drink and cocaine. But, My daughter likes to see him??(when he does eventually turn up) should I stop contact to avoid her being constantly let down,( this has gone on for 2 years) we have already tried the arranged visits and he did’nt keep to the times stated by the solicitor, or am I just hoping that he will change and wasting my time.

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Should I give her another chance or follow my gut feelings?

  • Posted on March 27, 2011 at 9:20 pm

I knew this girl that was on heroin, she had an ahole bf that was an addict too. I did everything I could to help this girl, rode her to work, to see her daughter, to the meth clinic, listened to her problems and gave her a shoulder to cry on, never wanting anything in return but for her to lose the bf and get clean. What I got instead was lied to, burned down, disrespected, have stuff made up about me and told to everyone she would meet. So as u can imagine things ended badly between us.

Fast forward a year and a half, she is clean, she dropped the bf and from what her cousin says, she is doing very well. Thats great. But here is the problem, now that her cousin is clean and free from the ahole bf she wants to get her cousin and me back together. I already told her I wanted nothing to do with her cousin anymore, but knowing women the way I do, she is going to do what ever she wants anyway.

Now take into account this girl I tried to help, is NOT behind this. She still thinks im the one that was the ahole in the whole thing I would bet. I guess what im asking is what would u do in this situation. And, what would u do if this girl actually took responsability for what she did, appologized and wanted to make amends? Not that she has or I think she ever will.

I really dont need the drama in my life, and I honestly cant think of one reason having her back in my life would benefit me. Whats your take?

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How can I convince this woman that I am not in love with her GAY husband and she should leave him for me?

  • Posted on March 25, 2011 at 12:20 am

I’m a 32 year old single father raising my 11 year old daughter since my meth addict ex-girlfriend lost custody of her. I’m juggling a job as a dancer at a gay bar, studying for my master’s degree and taking care of my child. I’ve been known to fool around sexually with men but I consider myself predominantly heterosexual. For the past 8 months, I’ve been dating and having sex with a married couple, a woman named Julie and her husband Linus. They are in their upper forties but they look GREAT and they are very nice people. They are successful and accomplished. They have a beautiful home, dogs and a 20 year old son in Princeton. I met them on facebook and we met in person at my job when I danced for them.

I assumed that the Linus was a bisexual man with a very open-minded wife but its not that simple. I spent more and more time around them, especially Julie. She and I got close and fell in love and sometimes had sex even without Linus being there. She confided in me that her marriage was a lie because Linus came out to her as gay but they stayed together because he’s afraid to come out of the closet to his family and friends at nearly 50 years old and because Julie is still very much in love with him. Julie appreciated the affection and love I showed her that she was not getting from her husband. In fact, according to Julie, she only gets to have sex with Linus when the three of us are having threesomes!!

But lately, I feel that Julie is resenting me because Linus is being overly nice to me and she’s afraid that he might leave her for me. Now don’t mistake me, Linus is a good guy but I don’t look at men for anything beyond sex or friendship. I look for love with WOMEN ONLY. I’m deeply in love with Julie and I would love for her to be my wife and have a mother for my daughter. How can I convince her to leave her bogus marriage and let Linus find a MAN he can be happy with so she can start a real relationship with me?

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Should I allow my kids, ages 10 and 12, to visit their father who is currently under house-arrest?

  • Posted on March 19, 2011 at 1:22 am

My ex-husband is serving 36 days under house arrest and another 10 in jail for a second drunk-driving charge and a hit & run accident. He wants his regular visitation, which is every other weekend, but I’m hesitant because he shows no remorse for what he’s done wrong and he still seems unstable.
My daughter refuses to spend the night there although she will see him during the day. My son is okay about going. My ex-husband called me today and threatened that I had better not call the courts to check on his driving status. I don’t care what he thinks but I am concerned with sending the kids into such a volatile situation.

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Should Obama speak of his ‘family values” from his own ‘experience”?

  • Posted on March 16, 2011 at 7:23 am

Obama’s mama was only 17 when Obama was conceived, and was NOT married, then married a polygamist (for those who don’t know what it means look it up) , who only stayed around for 2 years,an alcoholic then cut and ran and died while driving drunk. So when you try to bash Gov Palins daughter, better look back in history, Obama’s own mother did the exact same thing, so Obama’s “typically white” grandmother must have failed then. His parents’ marriage took place six months before his birth on February 2nd, 1961. Nine months before Obama’s birth would be early November 1960, about three to four weeks before Ann Dunham’s 18th birthday on November 29, 1960.

Could the moral difference in character possibly be more clear?

Sarah & Todd Palin: “We’re proud of (our 17 year-old daughter) Bristol’s decision to have her baby and even prouder to become grandparents. As Bristol faces the responsibilities of adulthood, she knows she has our unconditional love and support.”

Barack Obama: “If my daughter makes a mistake, I don’t want her punished with a baby.”

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should i go to psychiatrist,psychologist,or theraupevt?

  • Posted on March 13, 2011 at 1:22 pm

Lately ive been having a lot of anxiety,panic attacks,and depression.Im constantly think of death,and that im going to die.I fear of flying on the planes because of that too.Im thinking of going to therapy or something.I used to be a heroin addict,long time ago,and i went to hypnoterapy,it helped me a lot,even though i didnt want to be hypnotised,a lot of sessions were just therapy.
The reason im having the doubts on where to go,i dont want the doctors prescribing me any medicine,i dont want to be hooked on the medication that only covers up the problems,but not cures them.I think heroin acted a lot like a medication for me too,it took my mind of my anxieties and depression,and gave me that euphoric feel of calm….But thats in the past,and im not thinking of using again,because i know that it will cause more suffering…
It really sucks with all anxiety,i cannot do the stuff that i want.Sometimes i want to go to the beach with my daughter for example,but i start building up all these scenarios,and thinking of having a panic attack,that in the end i dont go.Im really more scared of having a panic attack when im out more than anything.I feel trapped becuase of that.
I found some cure in sports,i do go to the gym on daily basys,and that helps me take my mind of the things that disturb me…But thats not enough i think,im still a slave to my fear.
I would appretiate any advise,thanx.

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