Grief can be overwhelming. A death, separation of loved one, etc. can cause tremendous grief. This kind of grief refuses to get treated for a long period. People say that time is a great healer, but it is also true that the more time passes, the more time you have to grieve. Some time back I used to visit web pages set up by cancer patients. Most of them were young children who were suffering from leukemia. The parents used to write in the pages and share their agony. I recollect a father whose son died when he was very young. This man had uncontrollable grief and no amount of talk could help him. Simply believing that his child has now become a star in the sky did not help him.
Many deaths took place when I was active with those web pages. I learnt a lot during that period. The main lesson was that grief is not logical. To die is certain and we all know that but when somebody very dear to us dies, no amount of logic helps. One must shed tears to heal.
I have interacted with many persons with broken relationships on message boards. I observed that most of these people were ok for some days but went back to depression and pain soon. You could not believe that a person, who was advising others a few days back, has himself or herself broken down again. This was cyclic in many people. Again I learnt a lesson that grief and bitterness of having been left by a loved one do not go away soon. The inner mind carries all emotions that defy any logic that the outer mind proposes.
What is the remedy? I have found that another who is also grieving best understands a person who is grieving. If a grieving person talks to a healthy individual, no amount of interaction helps. But if he/she talks to someone who is also facing grief, understanding is very fast.
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