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Hubby may be out of work for awhile but expects me to stay home and do all for his children. is this fair?help?

  • Posted on September 7, 2010 at 1:21 pm

My husband has been having all kinds of pain lately in relation to the right side of his chest, his back, some down his arm and near his stomach when he eats certain things. He is doped up on pain meds and relaxers right now from a doc and two antibiotics for a bacteria in his stomach called H. Pylori. He is taking amoxicillian (antibiotic), clarithromycin (antibiotic), oxycontin (muscle relaxer), cyclobenzaprine (pain), and nexium(heartburn). His work wont let him go back to work unless he doesnt take the pain med which he cant cuz he gets pain so bad and almost keels over. He has been in and out of the hospital numerous times and they find nothing.

They have run tests on him for heart, gallbladder, lungs, liver, you name it. He did have a scope and they found a hiatal hernia but the doc doesnt beleive that is hurting him and that it can be treated with nexium. I believe he needs to be refered to a bigger and better place but he keeps fighting me on it. I think that it will only be a matter of time before he finally stops being an *** and listens. These medicines are making him an angry nasty person. The doc says that he may have to sit at home and treat the bacteria and that may make him feel better but of course my husband is anxious to get back to work and will do whatever it takes.

Well, I am perfectly capable of working. I finished school to be a teacher but there are no jobs right now but i can obviously sub but if we have his children like we do every other week i cant take his son to school, i can only take his daughter and our son together to day care before i get to school. We have to drive his son into town which is about a 15 min drive the same time i have to be at a school to sub.

I suggested we have his two kids on the weekends and he is throwing a fit and thinks i should sit at home cuz i wont make much anyway because i got to pay day care. we certainly dont have money to pay before and after school care for his son plus his daughter and our son together. Well, i wouldnt have to pay so much if he was capable of watching them but i dont think he is on all those medicines. I dont think he will be able to take his son to school either. His son cant ride the bus cuz we live in a different district than his mother and of course everything is conveinent for her but not for us….i think my husband is being unreasonable when I feel that we need to be able to pay our bills and put food on the table and he only is going to be getting checks for about half of what he normally makes. I got school loans to pay for too. I would like to try and sub as much as i possibly can.

Child support is not an issue since he has papers saying that custody is 50 50 with no support but it can still be 50 50 if we take them every weekend and all summer or a reasonable amount that the mother agrees to. Anyways, I am also pregnant with our second child together. I do not need this stress. We need to pay our bills. What do I do? Please help??!
for real people do you not actually read and then just right some smart alec answer? i am not the worst speller but what the hell does that have to with the problem?
my duty is not housework! screw you sexist people and fyi my husband has a job but is not working because of this pain and or illness…but id guess you would know that if you were reading
i have to be at school anywhere between 7:30 am and 8 am and his son has to be at school at 8:15…there is no before school care at his school there is before and after school care at another school that buses them for a big price…see my point…they wont watch him at school before it starts
not to mention the cheapest day care is far from his sons school and any school i sub at most likely is not close to his sons school either unless i am subbing at his sons school which will not happen all the time obviously..i cant ask to do that they have to call me
i live around a big school district with lots of schools and can sub every day and i need to be available…i would at least make an extra 400 a month on the days that i only have my son…if i had to have the other girl it would only be 200 but thats at least some groceries and gas….hello?

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Hubby may be out of work, but expects me to stay home and do all for his children, is this fair? Please help!?

  • Posted on September 4, 2010 at 7:20 pm

My husband has been having all kinds of pain lately in relation to the right side of his chest, his back, some down his arm and near his stomach when he eats certain things. He is doped up on pain meds and relaxers right now from a doc and two antibiotics for a bacteria in his stomach called H. Pylori. He is taking amoxicillian (antibiotic), clarithromycin (antibiotic), oxycontin (muscle relaxer), cyclobenzaprine (pain), and nexium(heartburn). His work wont let him go back to work unless he doesnt take the pain med which he cant cuz he gets pain so bad and almost keels over. He has been in and out of the hospital numerous times and they find nothing.

They have run tests on him for heart, gallbladder, lungs, liver, you name it. He did have a scope and they found a hiatal hernia but the doc doesnt beleive that is hurting him and that it can be treated with nexium. I believe he needs to be refered to a bigger and better place but he keeps fighting me on it. I think that it will only be a matter of time before he finally stops being an *** and listens. These medicines are making him an angry nasty person. The doc says that he may have to sit at home and treat the bacteria and that may make him feel better but of course my husband is anxious to get back to work and will do whatever it takes.

Well, I am perfectly capable of working. I finished school to be a teacher but there are no jobs right now but i can obviously sub but if we have his children like we do every other week i cant take his son to school, i can only take his daughter and our son together to day care before i get to school. We have to drive his son into town which is about a 15 min drive the same time i have to be at a school to sub.

I suggested we have his two kids on the weekends and he is throwing a fit and thinks i should sit at home cuz i wont make much anyway because i got to pay day care. we certainly dont have money to pay before and after school care for his son plus his daughter and our son together. Well, i wouldnt have to pay so much if he was capable of watching them but i dont think he is on all those medicines. I dont think he will be able to take his son to school either. His son cant ride the bus cuz we live in a different district than his mother and of course everything is conveinent for her but not for us….i think my husband is being unreasonable when I feel that we need to be able to pay our bills and put food on the table and he only is going to be getting checks for about half of what he normally makes. I got school loans to pay for too. I would like to try and sub as much as i possibly can.

Child support is not an issue since he has papers saying that custody is 50 50 with no support but it can still be 50 50 if we take them every weekend and all summer or a reasonable amount that the mother agrees to. Anyways, I am also pregnant with our second child together. I do not need this stress. We need to pay our bills. What do I do? Please help??!
we have no relatives or friends that stay at home (all of our friends work). anyways even if we did have relatives to watch the children, they wouldnt be willing to drive a kid all over kingdom come to school and back. its not that i dont want his children, but yes i can sub every day and i need to be able to be available. I live in a big school district area where there are lots of schools around. and even if i dont get called a lot i am perfectly willing to get another job. i want to work and i feel it is my duty. his children are welcome on the weekends and i dont think thats to much to ask for. he would still see them a significant amount of time and not have to care for them

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How do I save my marriage, stay out of jail and keep my house ..get my license back and get a $80k job back?

  • Posted on September 3, 2010 at 7:22 pm

My wife and I are/were alcoholics, she had been abusive and cheated on me{I LET HER BACK 3YRS AGO}…she & I had a fight and I left had a few beers and parked down the road from the house.I got a dwi..was forthright with my job and they took my $2 million sales territory like I was meat for the hungry wolf pack.My went off the deep end stopped taking her meds flipped out started punching and kicking me, I backup blocking but getting kicked in the groin into the kitchen and she came at me with a 12” knife,she was so out of control and fearing some-one would get hurt I was cornered,I TRAPPED THE ARM and she wouldn’t drop the weapon so I poped her in the face,it all happened so fast,and she was so violent I just reacted. I held her down and then let her up,She just kept coming at me IHELD HER DOWN telling my daughter to call 911,mommy was drunk and out of control.She didn’t press charges but the P.D. did.My daughter tried to tell them Daddy was defending himself but NOWAY.Any suggestions

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How to get my 4 year old to stay dry though the night.?

  • Posted on September 2, 2010 at 1:24 am

My 4 year 3 month old daughter still wets her pull up though the night. I’ve tried limiting her drinks after dinner, getting her to pee 3 times in the last hour before bedtime and that doesn’t help. Waking her at 11 is a disaster, she’s a very deep sleeper and it’s traumatic for me to wake her up, she can’t figure out what’s going on and it scares her. I think it’s because she is such a sound sleeper that she’s wetting her pull up before she wakes up fully, but she’s beginning to really feel ashamed of this and my heart is breaking for her. I don’t mind the peeing, I’m ready to wait for it to end on it’s own, but she’s so bothered by it I feel like I need to do something.

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Hubby may be out of work but expects me to stay home and do all for his children..is this fair? Help!?

  • Posted on August 31, 2010 at 5:21 am

My husband has been having all kinds of pain lately in relation to the right side of his chest, his back, some down his arm and near his stomach when he eats certain things. He is doped up on pain meds and relaxers right now from a doc and two antibiotics for a bacteria in his stomach called H. Pylori. He is taking amoxicillian (antibiotic), clarithromycin (antibiotic), oxycontin (muscle relaxer), cyclobenzaprine (pain), and nexium(heartburn). His work wont let him go back to work unless he doesnt take the pain med which he cant cuz he gets pain so bad and almost keels over. He has been in and out of the hospital numerous times and they find nothing.

They have run tests on him for heart, gallbladder, lungs, liver, you name it. He did have a scope and they found a hiatal hernia but the doc doesnt beleive that is hurting him and that it can be treated with nexium. I believe he needs to be refered to a bigger and better place but he keeps fighting me on it. I think that it will only be a matter of time before he finally stops being an *** and listens. These medicines are making him an angry nasty person. The doc says that he may have to sit at home and treat the bacteria and that may make him feel better but of course my husband is anxious to get back to work and will do whatever it takes.

Well, I am perfectly capable of working. I finished school to be a teacher but there are no jobs right now but i can obviously sub but if we have his children like we do every other week i cant take his son to school, i can only take his daughter and our son together to day care before i get to school. We have to drive his son into town which is about a 15 min drive the same time i have to be at a school to sub.

I suggested we have his two kids on the weekends and he is throwing a fit and thinks i should sit at home cuz i wont make much anyway because i got to pay day care. we certainly dont have money to pay before and after school care for his son plus his daughter and our son together. Well, i wouldnt have to pay so much if he was capable of watching them but i dont think he is on all those medicines. I dont think he will be able to take his son to school either. His son cant ride the bus cuz we live in a different district than his mother and of course everything is conveinent for her but not for us….i think my husband is being unreasonable when I feel that we need to be able to pay our bills and put food on the table and he only is going to be getting checks for about half of what he normally makes. I got school loans to pay for too. I would like to try and sub as much as i possibly can.

Child support is not an issue since he has papers saying that custody is 50 50 with no support but it can still be 50 50 if we take them every weekend and all summer or a reasonable amount that the mother agrees to. Anyways, I am also pregnant with our second child together. I do not need this stress. We need to pay our bills. What do I do? Please help??!

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My husband may be out of work, but still expects I stay home and do all for his children..is this fair? Help!!?

  • Posted on August 30, 2010 at 7:22 am

My husband has been having all kinds of pain lately in relation to the right side of his chest, his back, some down his arm and near his stomach when he eats certain things. He is doped up on pain meds and relaxers right now from a doc and two antibiotics for a bacteria in his stomach called H. Pylori. He is taking amoxicillian (antibiotic), clarithromycin (antibiotic), oxycontin (muscle relaxer), cyclobenzaprine (pain), and nexium(heartburn). His work wont let him go back to work unless he doesnt take the pain med which he cant cuz he gets pain so bad and almost keels over. He has been in and out of the hospital numerous times and they find nothing.

They have run tests on him for heart, gallbladder, lungs, liver, you name it. He did have a scope and they found a hiatal hernia but the doc doesnt beleive that is hurting him and that it can be treated with nexium. I believe he needs to be refered to a bigger and better place but he keeps fighting me on it. I think that it will only be a matter of time before he finally stops being an ass and listens. These medicines are making him an angry nasty person. The doc says that he may have to sit at home and treat the bacteria and that may make him feel better but of course my husband is anxious to get back to work and will do whatever it takes.

Well, I am perfectly capable of working. I finished school to be a teacher but there are no jobs right now but i can obviously sub but if we have his children like we do every other week i cant take his son to school, i can only take his daughter and our son together to day care before i get to school. We have to drive his son into town which is about a 15 min drive the same time i have to be at a school to sub.

I suggested we have his two kids on the weekends and he is throwing a fit and thinks i should sit at home cuz i wont make much anyway because i got to pay day care. we certainly dont have money to pay before and after school care for his son plus his daughter and our son together. Well, i wouldnt have to pay so much if he was capable of watching them but i dont think he is on all those medicines. I dont think he will be able to take his son to school either. His son cant ride the bus cuz we live in a different district than his mother and of course everything is conveinent for her but not for us….i think my husband is being unreasonable when I feel that we need to be able to pay our bills and put food on the table and he only is going to be getting checks for about half of what he normally makes. I got school loans to pay for too. I would like to try and sub as much as i possibly can.

Child support is not an issue since he has papers saying that custody is 50 50 with no support but it can still be 50 50 if we take them every weekend and all summer or a reasonable amount that the mother agrees to. Anyways, I am also pregnant with our second child together. I do not need this stress. We need to pay our bills. What do I do? Please help??!
he is getting come money from work because he works in a union…but its not enough to pay our bills and we have no relatives or friends that stay at home (all of our friends work). anyways even if we did have relatives to watch the children, they wouldnt be willing to drive a kid all over kingdom come to school and back. its not that i dont want his children, but yes i can sub every day and i need to be able to be available. I live in a big school district area where there are lots of schools around. and even if i dont get called a lot i am perfectly willing to get another job. i want to work and i feel it is my duty. his children are welcome on the weekends and i dont think thats to much to ask for. he would still see them a significant amount of time and not have to care for them
if the ex girl friend (NOT WIFE) would let us have the kid go to school in our district it wouldnt be so bad cuz he could ride the bus and problem solved but for her week that would be an inconvience cuz she’d have to drive him in and back. UP a **** CRICK EH:?

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Should I leave or stay? Is this abuse?

  • Posted on August 25, 2010 at 8:17 am

I desperately need advice. Ive been living w my boyfriend for 4 years & have a 1 year old daughter. hes a good suporter and dad We love each other but Im scared of him sometimes. We argue a lot & one major issue is him going 2detroit to buy pot. hes been addicted to worse drugs before I knew him & im worried that hes going 2 empty our bank account on a drug binge one day (he did last year) Last week he promised 2stop going 2detroit & only smoke pot couple x a week for stress relief. Yesterday I saw that our atm card was used in detroit, so I asked him. He freaked out since i caught him. he started choking me & hitting me & now i have a lump on my head. Im scared 2 leave bcause we have a daughter. i dont have any money & Im scared of ruining my daughters life. i only want whats best for her but ive never been on my own let alone a single mom. i dont have a job but go 2 college. Should i keep my family 2gether 4 her sake or leave? hes a good dad but has major issues with anger towards me
He stopped smoking pot & did not do any drugs for years. this whole pot thing recently started happening again. I didnt know things were going to be like this when we had our baby.

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Why does this illegal twice deported felon think he should now be allowed to stay didnt he earn a NO?

  • Posted on August 5, 2010 at 1:20 am

BANGOR, Maine — Two illegal aliens have been sentenced in U.S. District Court to time served for illegal re-entry.

Saul Canizales-Osuna, 57, of Albuquerque, N.M., was arrested on Oct. 9 when he walked off a cruise ship in Bar Harbor. He is a native of Mexico.

Pedro Miguel Pereira Gloria, 34, of Perdigao Anadia, Portugal, was found wandering in late December in the Houlton area looking for the New Jersey man who was supposed to pick him up after he crossed the border on foot.

Both had been held without bail since their arrests.

The fact that Canizales-Osuna was in the country illegally was discovered during a routine review of the advance passenger information system. Customs officials discovered the day before the ship docked that he had been deported in June 1998 because he was considered an aggravated felon. He was convicted in June 1995 in Los Angeles of possession and-or sale of methamphetamine and of assault with a firearm, according to court documents.

Those convictions barred him from re-entering the U.S.

He served about three years in prison and was deported on June 9, 1998, according to court documents. He told U.S. Immigration and Customs Enforcement agents when he was arrested in Bar Harbor that he had returned to the U.S. at the Tijuana, Mexico, crossing the day after he was deported using his resident alien or green card as identification.

Immigration officials apparently mistakenly returned the card to Canizales-Osuna instead of keeping it when he was deported more than 10 years ago.

He returned to the U.S. to be with his family and turned his life around, Virginia Villa, the federal public defender who represented Canizales-Osuna, said at his sentencing on June 16.

“It is somewhat ironic that all of his family members are somehow involved in the legal system,” Villa wrote in her sentencing memorandum urging leniency. “His wife and one daughter are paralegals, another daughter works in the California prison system, and his son is a police officer. He has received letters of support from a wide section of the community, including a deputy sheriff, employers, family members and friends. This support is a reflection of the support he has, in turn, given to those around him.”

Canizales-Osuna and his wife are planning to relocate to Mexico, according to Villa.

http://www.bangordailynews.com/detail/109195.html

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Obsessive tendencies – why would a man stay w/ & love a woman who has an imbalance that makes her this way?

  • Posted on August 4, 2010 at 4:24 am

I am getting treatment for this and aim every day to rise above it. However, it comes out when my boyfriend, who says I am the one, are talking. He has a daughter. Wouldn’t a man be wary of exposing a child to this kind of thought process? One detail – his wife died 7 years ago because she did not talk about her problems and overdosed on prescription drugs. I appreciate your advice and comments! Thank you.

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Should I stay or should I go?

  • Posted on July 31, 2010 at 8:17 pm

So I have been with my fiance for over two years now and we have a daughter together. He has been in and out of drug abuse almost the whole time we have been together. I don’t want him to miss out on his daughter growing up and I love him with all my heart but I feel like he is never going to quit doing drugs and spending all of our bill money when he does do the drugs. He goes out on binges at least once a month. Do I leave him or stay with him?

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