I am newly divorced (it was final in March). It was due in part to my binge drinking and in part to her passive aggressive personality. There are 2 more months left where we can still have the divorce overturned and cancelled. I was the one who filed for the divorce and we never really tried counseling or anything like that.
I have since gotten help and quit drinking and have started to improve myself. My ex also realizes she has a passive aggressive personality and is trying to correct it. We have been seeing each other about once every 2 weeks for the past few months and I know that I still love her and that I want her back.
I see genuine happiness in her when we are together, but when I asked about reforming a relationship she got nervous and said she still loves me and still has feelings for me but she doesn’t know and she would let me know if she decides that there is no hope for us, but she doesn’t want to lead me on either and she thinks we should both see other people in addition to seeing one another although she only wants to get together once every 2 weeks. She says she wants to just be friends for now, although we are having sex so to me that fits the definition of an open relationship. And lastly she has said she’s not ready for couples counseling because that would be a commitment that she is willing to try to make it work and she’s still not sure?
What should I do- how should I be handling this and do I have any chance of re-establishing a real relationship with her? We have a 2 yr old daughter together as well who lives with each of us 1/2 of the time. My thoughts are consumed with her 24×7 and this is killing me, although I am doing as best I can to play it cool with her and respect the every 2 week thing.
She does “sort of” have someone else- she moved into a side by side a little less than a month ago and there is something going on with the guy who lives on the other side of the unit. She has told me that I am “way better looking than him” and that they’re not really dating but have kissed in the garage before and he is fixing her vehicles and doing stuff for her. Do I sit back and wait for that to run it’s course or what should I do?
