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Struggling With Alcohol Addiction Six Months Pregnant, Please Help?

  • Posted on September 25, 2010 at 4:17 am

Please no rude comments. This issue is already really hard on me. After giving birth to my first daughter i got severe post partum depression, and i started drinking heavily. six months after having her i got pregnant again by accident. so now I’m 6 months pregnant. and I’ll admit I know I have a bad drinking problem. I really want to get it under control, to give this baby the best chance to be healthy, and to be a good mother to my children. I know I’m a good mother, just struggling bad with this addiction. I just want to get help, but I have know idea what will really help to cure this addiction. I’ve tried counseling and it doesn’t seem to help. I think that god gave me this baby to help me straighten my life out. It could have even saved my life maybe. my marriage was starting to fall apart with my heavy drinking before I got pregnant with this baby. and ever since being pregnant I have been doing my best to cut down on the alcohol. I went from extremely heavy drinking before I found out I was pregnant, to only having a couple small drinks once a week. like two glasses of wine a week. I have had maybe one or two episodes of binge drinking. but I’m doing good lately. not drinking barely at all. I’ve had an ultra sound recently, and every thing was normal and doing good with baby. My baby is developing well, and my doctor said he didn’t see any signs of fas so far. which is good. I’m happy about that. so there’s a good chance I could have a healthy baby boy. I love my baby, I really do and I don’t want to hurt it. I really want help. I’m scared. every day is a struggle and a battle between me and the alcohol. I have to fight to not touch it. which i’ve been doing good, but i’m so scared that after this baby is born, i may relapse back to my old heavy drinking habits if I don’t seek some major help now. but I don’t know how to get help, or what will really help. It feels impossible for me to break free of this addiction. any one ever deal with anything like this, or know any one who did, any advice or help would be great. and please don’t judge unless you’ve been in my shoes. thanks.

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How do I help my 19 year old daughter who is struggling to stay off meth?

  • Posted on July 26, 2010 at 12:23 pm

She’s been clean 72 days & I don’t seem to know what to say or do to help her! I love my daughter with all my heart & hate all the “stress” staying clean is causing her but I realize her life hangs in the balance. Using meth had her on the verge of having her probation revoked and being sent to prison.

If there is anyone reading this who has been in a similar situation & has gotten positive results from some particular thing you’ve said or done and doesn’t mind offering me some much needed (constructive) advice — it will be most appreciated.

Thank you and may God bless you!

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My 7 year old daughter in struggling?

  • Posted on January 2, 2010 at 8:07 pm

Hi everyone. I’m having some trouble with my 7 year old daughter regarding school. A little background… We moved here about five weeks into the school year last year when she was in the first grade. She struggled with emotions and anxieties over school almost the entire year. We pressed on and she barely passed her grade. We had assumed the problem was her starting school later in the year and thought this year would be better.

Today is the 4th day of 2nd grade, and I’ve already had a phone conference with her teacher. She cried at school yesterday because she missed her friend. Luckily they were able to get her face to face with this friend and she was okay. Her teacher said she was very distracted and she’s not getting her work done in class. They were playing a game and she didn’t want to play but instead of telling her teacher, she just stared at her.

I’m not trying to label my daughter as an excuse for her behavior, but I want to know if anyone can tell me what could possibly be going on in her head. I’d like to be able to fix this problem early, or at least get on the right path, so her 2nd grade year isn’t as big of a struggle as her 1st grade year was.

I started doing some research on ADD today. The websites I found broke it down into three categories: inattention, hyperactivity and impulsivity. She really only fits into the inattention category, but the websites said that a child doesn’t have to have all three to be considered ADD. It also said that ADD is genetic and can show through in other forms, such as depression and anxiety (I have both and my grandmother suffers from depression) and learning disorders (my brother and one of my husband’s brothers had learning problems), as well as alcoholism (also prevalent in my family).

Last night we tried talking to her about things she could do to focus better in class and she started giggling almost uncontrollably. Finally, we asked what was so funny and she said that her stuffed bunny farted. I mean, seriously? She couldn’t even stay focused on us telling her ways to keep focused.

So, any ideas? Please no mean comments. We had such a rough year last year and I would hate to have to go through that again this year. Like I said, we’re not trying to jump to conclusions, but if anyone has dealt with a low-level of ADD like this, I’d like to know so I can talk to her pediatrician sooner rather than later. Thanks in advance!
She isn’t misbehaving. I guess I didn’t make that clear. She is a good kid. She doesn’t act out. She merely has a hard time concentrating in class and gets emotional at times.

There isn’t much I can do as far as self-diagnosis anyway. It’s not as if I am able to prescribe her medications or anything. I started here to get a forum of parents who may have dealt with this before. I’m a bit hurt that you would bite back at me for asking a simple question about your opinions.
Thank you to those who are truly helpful and supportive. I talked to her teacher today and she said there is a dual-form we can fill out: us at home and her teacher at school. Then the school psychologist will compare the two to see if she sees signs leading towards ADD.

I’m not trying to self-diagnose. I just want to know why my kid cries in the mornings and can’t pay attention when the rest of her class is seemingly fine.

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