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my mom is an alcoholic.. i had a talk with her and she didn’t hear me, do i need to do anything else?

  • Posted on April 21, 2011 at 1:23 am

if you want back story here is my last question, it’s kinda long.

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Aq6Ox6230N0Ktt9pTrc5ll3sy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20091229195801AASrNVv

anyways i talked to her about the problems her drinking has caused.
poor judgment, being at the bar instead of with family on holidays, the poor example it sets for my kids…

she blamed me of course. she said i was judging her and i have no place to judge her for what she does on her free time. she even said my husband and i drink in front of our kids like on thanksgiving. well yeah, i had a glass of wine. but she spent thanksgiving at the bar and didn’t show up until hours after the meal… big difference. i am somewhat familiar with an alcoholic deflecting onto others.. she blamed everyone but herself, talked bad about everyone in my husband’s family (who by the way are wonderful people) so she didn’t look so bad… and then proceeded to ask for my daughter this weekend. -this was the basis of this talk in the first place. she can’t have either of my kids like this..

so from any of your experience, is there anything else i can or should do to make myself clear to her or is it a lost cause? part of me telling her about her problem was also so i could absolve myself of any guilt if/when she kills someone while driving drunk.. so should i just leave it at that and wait for her to come to her senses someday before i talk to her again? i’m just not sure, i feel like i owe her something, but at the same time i know i owe her nothing and that she will make her own bed.. i just don’t know.. my husband is ready to write her off. i don’t blame him and i almost agree. i just want to know i have done all i could.
your experience with an alcoholic is appreciated. thank you.

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my mom is an alcoholic.. i had a talk with her and she didn’t hear me, do i need to do anything else?

  • Posted on April 20, 2011 at 3:22 am

if you want back story here is my last question, it’s kinda long.

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Aq6Ox6230N0Ktt9pTrc5ll3sy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20091229195801AASrNVv

anyways i talked to her about the problems her drinking has caused.
poor judgment, being at the bar instead of with family on holidays, the poor example it sets for my kids…

she blamed me of course. she said i was judging her and i have no place to judge her for what she does on her free time. she even said my husband and i drink in front of our kids like on thanksgiving. well yeah, i had a glass of wine. but she spent thanksgiving at the bar and didn’t show up until hours after the meal… big difference. i am somewhat familiar with an alcoholic deflecting onto others.. she blamed everyone but herself, talked bad about everyone in my husband’s family (who by the way are wonderful people) so she didn’t look so bad… and then proceeded to ask for my daughter this weekend. -this was the basis of this talk in the first place. she can’t have either of my kids like this..

so from any of your experience, is there anything else i can or should do to make myself clear to her or is it a lost cause? part of me telling her about her problem was also so i could absolve myself of any guilt if/when she kills someone while driving drunk.. so should i just leave it at that and wait for her to come to her senses someday before i talk to her again? i’m just not sure, i feel like i owe her something, but at the same time i know i owe her nothing and that she will make her own bed.. i just don’t know.. my husband is ready to write her off. i don’t blame him and i almost agree. i just want to know i have done all i could.
your experience with an alcoholic is appreciated. thank you.

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my mom is an alcoholic.. i had a talk with her and she didn’t hear me, do i need to do anything else?

  • Posted on March 22, 2011 at 4:17 pm

if you want back story here is my last question, it’s kinda long.

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Aq6Ox6230N0Ktt9pTrc5ll3sy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20091229195801AASrNVv

anyways i talked to her about the problems her drinking has caused.
poor judgment, being at the bar instead of with family on holidays, the poor example it sets for my kids…

she blamed me of course. she said i was judging her and i have no place to judge her for what she does on her free time. she even said my husband and i drink in front of our kids like on thanksgiving. well yeah, i had a glass of wine. but she spent thanksgiving at the bar and didn’t show up until hours after the meal… big difference. i am somewhat familiar with an alcoholic deflecting onto others.. she blamed everyone but herself, talked bad about everyone in my husband’s family (who by the way are wonderful people) so she didn’t look so bad… and then proceeded to ask for my daughter this weekend. -this was the basis of this talk in the first place. she can’t have either of my kids like this..

so from any of your experience, is there anything else i can or should do to make myself clear to her or is it a lost cause? part of me telling her about her problem was also so i could absolve myself of any guilt if/when she kills someone while driving drunk.. so should i just leave it at that and wait for her to come to her senses someday before i talk to her again? i’m just not sure, i feel like i owe her something, but at the same time i know i owe her nothing and that she will make her own bed.. i just don’t know.. my husband is ready to write her off. i don’t blame him and i almost agree. i just want to know i have done all i could.
your experience with an alcoholic is appreciated. thank you.

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Should I talk with this girls mother?

  • Posted on September 12, 2010 at 3:21 am

A friend of my daughter’s has been over at our house three times in the last 2 weeks for dinner. She eats a lot of food and then she says she will be back in a minute and she goes outside and vomits all of that food up. She is not a small girl and she told me she has a stomach problem, and that her Mom knows she does this and has been seen by a doctor. She says her doctor put her on Oxycontin, for this problem. She is 17 years old and looks healthy, I am just worried about her. Should I ask her Mom about this or just mind my own business?

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How to talk to a loved one about her sugar addiction?

  • Posted on September 9, 2010 at 4:22 pm

i am really worried about my daughter. I suspect that she has a serious addiction to sugar. It is robing her of her life. She is depressed, morbidly over weight and un healthy. Her childern are affected by her mood swings. She is not an easy person to talk to. let alone something this serious. If anyone has suggestions or has gone through this, please help!

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Thanks, now should I dump him or talk first?

  • Posted on August 9, 2010 at 5:22 am

Re- my boyfriend and his extracurricular relationships and inappropriate conduct. we were on our way out to dinner last night..thought we had this straighten ed out. He had a mesg on his phone. Said it was so-so and she and so-so were jst hangin out and drinking a glass of wine and thinking about him…yuk…I asked him if he was gonna call them back and tell em he was having dinner with me and our daughter and this led to a fight. He turned around and dropped me off at home, saying I’m trying to control him..yuk…THEN…he ended up going over there, having wine and staying the night. I was concerned he’d drive home with our daughter intoxicated and offered to pick her up. He slept over there. one girl is a friend of 15 yrs or so, didn’t even know about me til 2 mnths b4 the birth of our child. The other is a girl I haven’t met but always seems to want to cry on his shoulder when she breaks up with a guy.does she even know about me? What does he tell them about us?What do I do 2day?

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How do i talk to my child about my alcoholism?

  • Posted on August 1, 2010 at 4:32 pm

I am working on recovery, but i would like to help my 12 yr old daughter understand why i am an alcoholic and what an alcoholic is.
any links to websites with guides would be great all I can find is how to talk to your children about the dangers of drinking.
i can’t find anything but how to deal with your alc. spouse or what your doing to your child. I am looking for something that can help my daughter understand what is happening in her house, I am not mentaly or fisically abusive but I do accidentally wake her up at night sometimes form talking too loud, I suffer from hangovers that turn me into a couch potato. I don’t want her to think these things are ok… help… Please… anyone?

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My daughter is an alcoholic, should I have to talk to her on the phone when she is drunk if it depresses me?

  • Posted on January 1, 2010 at 7:32 pm

It doesn’t help her, I have tried and she won’t get help. She just calls and starts talking about problems and cries.

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