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My six-year-old daughter is very thin and often talks about losing weight. Should I worry?

  • Posted on December 25, 2010 at 1:21 pm

My daughter is naturally very slender and always has been. Her doctor has never been concerned about it. But lately she’s been making comments about losing weight, eating salad, and even calling her two year-old sister fat. Two days ago she proudly told me that she could see her ribs. I’m overweight myself, but healthy, and her father lost over 100 pounds after gastric bypass surgery. I’ll admit that she’s often heard me say how great he looks now, and I used to complain about my weight. I don’t any more out of concern for her. I just found out that one of her classmates called her fat at school, and the teachers say she’s extremely sensitive about herself. They say she wants to be perfect and cries if called down because she doesn’t want to be in trouble. I’ve always told her I love her no matter what she looks like or does. And lately I’ve been saying that it doesn’t matter what people look like as long as they’re healthy. She said once that she loves me but doen’t want to look like me. OUCH! She was five at the time.
She and I have always been extremely close emotionally and, except for the sensitivity, everyone tells me how mature and helpful she is. Her teacher said she’s without a doubt the “best” kid in the class and a dream to teach. And no, my daughter didn’t hear her say that but I did repeat it to others in her presence.
Her father and I have had lots of trouble in the past with addiction and fighting. He also suffers from depression, anxiety, and mood swings, but things have improved greatly with medication and counseling. The kids have witnessed much more than they should have but I’ve always emphasized that none of it is their fault, sometimes grown-ups fight but it’ll be OK, etc… I still feel that he sometimes says very innappropriate and wrong things to the kids, but that’s another issue entirely… I try to do damage control and smooth things out with them later, but you can never take words back, right?
Have other parents had a similiar situation?

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My husband is in chronic pain and on oxycontin. It seems he is slipping away. My husband talks about my…….

  • Posted on August 2, 2010 at 7:21 pm

daughter all the time and my mother-in-law hates me too.I am stuck living in her house and I’m so despondent. I feel like I’m losing it. I can actually feel a hindering spirit in this house. Help. It’s way worse than what I am telling.
He is on oxycontoin because he got hurt and had neck surgery. My daughter is 22 and in college.
My daughter is married and living in her own home.

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