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Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction to Increase Your Happiness

  • Posted on July 2, 2009 at 10:40 pm

Being mindful is to become a conscious observer of your thoughts and surroundings. Your thoughts and feelings may be optimistic or pessimistic but you don’t get caught up in the drama of it all. When you are mindful, you notice the sights and the sounds around you. Rather than perceiving anything as a distraction, you take it all in with a sense of peacefulness. You can do this type of mindfulness meditation anywhere and any time to reduce stress, it is just a matter of allowing yourself to get out of your head and into your body where your senses take over.

If you choose to practice mindfulness in a more formal way by taking a seated position, you need only bring your awareness to the current moment. Experience what is happening right now and allow any negative emotions of fear, anger or anxiety to dissolve. Mindfulness teaches you how to become conscious of what is happening around you, in your life and in your environment. You are able to take life in stride and respond to challenges in a more productive and positive way when you become an observer of your life.

The release of tension and stress are the major benefits that you’ll realize from undertaking this kind of meditation practice. Our society is so caught up in the rush of moving from one activity to another while life is passing us by. By taking each moment at a time and becoming more mindful, you can begin to enjoy even the most mundane activities in your day. Remember, the past is gone, the future isn’t here yet and the present is a gift! Try this type of meditation and see if it resonates with you.

Life is full of choices and so you can choose to live in the present any time you notice that you are feeling stressed or depressed. You will know that you are not being mindful if you notice that you are feeling anything other than joy, love or peace. Stop for a moment and take a deep breath, slow down and begin to experience life through your senses. When you do, you will be practising mindfulness.

All that it requires is for you to choose to slow down and relax your body and mind. Allow yourself to begin experiencing life through your senses so that you can let go of your worries even if it is just for a minute. If you practice this enough, you will be doing your health and peace of mind a huge favor.

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Mystery Unraveled: Admiration is the Key to True Love

  • Posted on July 2, 2009 at 7:15 am

Have you ever asked yourself: Does true love exist? Is the notion of soul mates real? Have you ever found yourself asking a couple who has been married for many years, “What’s your secret?” If you answered “yes” to any of these, you’re not alone. Since time immemorial, we have been trying to unravel the mystery of love and long-lasting relationships.

Hayden Dane, a pseudonym for a regular guy who has tried to learn from his relationship mistakes, believes he has the answer: Admiration.

In his new direct-to-download book entitled “I Have One Question,” Dane makes a convincing case that true love lies in one partner admiring in the other what he/she admires about himself/herself, and vice versa.

Says Dane, “What a man (or woman) admires in himself (or herself) forms his identity; his essence. These elements combine to form the person he believes he is and wishes others to see. Consequently, he is least likely to compromise on these elements; least likely to change them. If his partner can’t admire these elements, and vice versa, their relationship will be tension-filled and won’t be likely to endure.”

“I Have One Question” describes a conversation to be had between couples or those looking to be couples that will elicit the elements each admires in himself/herself. Dane observes that most people haven’t thought in terms of admiration, so simply asking your partner, “What do you admire about yourself,” isn’t likely to yield helpful information. To overcome this limitation, Dane walks readers through the conversation to have, using himself as an example. Upon finishing the book, the reader should be able to have a comfortable and productive conversation with their spouse, significant other, or prospective partner and be able to properly interpret the answers received in order for each to reliably conclude on their long-term compatibility as a couple.

Dane’s motives are not purely altruistic, however. It turns out that Mr. Dane is looking for his soul mate, and his book is a helpful (and clever) way of introducing himself to eligible women. By using himself as an example for the conversation, Mr. Dane is able to share with readers what it is he admires about himself. “Perhaps one of my single, female readers will conclude that she admires me for the things I admire about myself, and we’ll have a conversation and I’ll find that I admire her for what she admires about herself. That would make for a very promising match,” says Dane. “If that doesn’t happen, at least I will have helped a lot of others in their search for true love and a lifelong relationship.”

Not one to dismiss the importance of physical chemistry and other traditional elements of compatibility, Dane agrees that they should be present for a fulfilling relationship, but contends that if they are present without the mutual admiration he describes in his book, the relationship will be tenuous. Dane points to the high divorce rate as proof, suggesting that if one were to explore many of the relationships, you would find that traditional measures of compatibility existed but mutual admiration did not.

“I Have One Question” is available for download at www.haydendane.com

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If you want a happier, more fulfilling life, let go of unhealthy relationships

  • Posted on July 2, 2009 at 7:15 am

Have you ever felt drained after being around a certain person? Maybe you feel like you’re walking on eggshells trying to cater to their ever-changing mood. Or for the most part, you have to go out of your way to explain your actions to them so they can understand your good intentions. Maybe they say they understand how you feel, but yet, their actions are contradicting. Whether or not their behavior is deliberate, bottom line is: you feel drained when you have to deal with them. Could it be that this relationship requires more care and maintenance than you’re prepared to give?

People with whom you surround yourself can make you, or break you. You may have been led to believe that the longer the friendship, the better the friend. Yet, that’s not always the case. Yes, some friendships can be like fine wine—growing in richness with time—but some, just aren’t meant to have a very long shelf life.

Recognize that regardless of how long you’ve been together, if it’s an unhealthy relationship, it can be a kind of toxic in your life; it can be a roadblock in your life preventing you from moving ahead to where you want to go. And if you allow it to continue, your mood will suffer in a way that not only sacrifices your own well-being, but also the well-being of others around you.

It can be hard to part ways with a friend or a partner, even when their behavior warrants it. While betrayal or seemingly deliberate attempts to be hurtful are clear signals that it’s time to move on, sometimes the signal of the end of a relationship isn’t that obvious. Furthermore, sometimes an unhealthy relationship can brew from two people who truly want to be kind to one another, but somehow along the way, they ended up on different pages; they don’t agree with each other, and tension rises. This can be just as unhealthy. So what do you do? I guess this is where you have to use your better judgement.

If after a fair amount of consideration, you feel strongly about maintaining a relationship with this person, then be assertive and communicate honestly with them about what is working and not working for you in the relationship. Give it your all and kindly speak your truth, and allow them to do the same. And after this, if you still don’t see any progress, at least you know you did your best and you wouldn’t have left much room for regrets with “I should have” or “I could have.”

Leaving behind an unhealthy relationship is one of the best things you can do for your well-being, as you make room for more positive, nurturing people to enter your life. As they say: When one door closes, only then can another door open.

In life, we’ll all inevitably experience unhealthy relationships that challenge our minds and hearts so we can learn and grow. So learn from it, grow from it. But recognize when it is time to say goodbye. As you move forward in life, continue to give that which you seek. If you want relationships that enhance your life, help you to be your best, and encourage your dreams, then, offer this kind of friendship to another person. You’ll get out of life what you put into it…always.

From her columns to her blog, Penny continues to capture the hearts of her readers with exhilarating insight and inspiring wisdom. Her blog offers tips, advice and inspiration on everything to do with relationships. Let this site be a place you go to for some insight to inspire healthier, happier relationships in your life. http://www.relationshipadvicefrompenny.com

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