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Father ‘yanks’ daughter away from mother.. they’re separated…?

  • Posted on November 12, 2010 at 1:22 pm

So a good girl friend of mine is going through the beginning stages of a divorce with her husband and they have a 3 year old daughter. Actually tomorrow is their daughter’s 3rd birthday.
The husband has a history of anger and infidelity. They’ve been married two years but have been together for 4 or 5. The mother, my friend, isn’t the nicest cookie in the box either but she’s always been faithful and supportive towards her husband, despite what he’s done to her physically and emotionally. Compared to him she’s a saint. And I’m not saying this because she’s my friend, he’d actually been my friend before she ever was, so I’m not being bias.
A few weeks ago my friend told me she’d been planning to leave her husband because she was fed up with it all, and she’d come to have feelings for his friend and their neighbor. She told the neighbor how she felt and he felt the same way so she’d prepared to tell her husband she wanted a separation. She never did anything physically with the neighbor, they both wanted to wait until she’d left her husband.
A few days later, she and her husband had been arguing so she came over to my house to relax and get away from him until things calmed down. He ended up showing up at my place because he needed to get his credit cards from her, while he was waiting for her to get them out of her wallet, he took her phone saying, “I’ll take this with me too since you can’t answer it and I pay for it.” So she told him she wasn’t giving him his cards until he gave her the phone. He didn’t give her the phone and he left. In the phone were text messages she had sent the neighbor she’d fallen for that gave everything away, that gave away she’d wanted to leave her husband for him in particular. He saw the text messages and immediately showed back up at my house and began pounding on the door. At this point my friend knew he’d seen them and she was already upset and she told me not to let him in because he’d “beat the shit out of her.” So I didn’t, I told him through the door that I couldn’t let him in and I apologized but he’d have to handle this somewhere else (I have a 10 month old baby so I wouldn’t have let him in regardless for my child’s safety.)
Over the past few weeks they’ve been separated and been splitting time with their daughter pretty fairly. Until today, apparently. Her husband had been upset over an argument they got into earlier today so he came to their house (my friend had been staying at the house with their daughter while he stayed at his grandmother’s.) She and their daughter were taking a shower when he showed up, he came in the bathroom, “yanked” their daughter out of the shower, and left with her still naked, no diaper on or anything. Put her in his truck, locked the door and drove off nearly running my friend over on the way out.
Is there anything my friend can do? She’d filed for temporary custody but the paper work had not gone through.
A few minutes later my friend got a phone call from a deputy saying that her husband had called saying that she’d been abusing their daughter which is COMPLETELY untrue. Based on the kind of person he is, this is something her husband would do to make it harder for her to get their daughter back.
Also her husband is emotionally unstable, and I’m not sure HOW much it is, but he’s been involving himself in cocaine and various painkillers and marijuana.

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Father ‘yanks’ daughter away from mother.. they’re separated…?

  • Posted on November 11, 2010 at 1:21 pm

So a good girl friend of mine is going through the beginning stages of a divorce with her husband and they have a 3 year old daughter. Actually tomorrow is their daughter’s 3rd birthday.
The husband has a history of anger and infidelity. They’ve been married two years but have been together for 4 or 5. The mother, my friend, isn’t the nicest cookie in the box either but she’s always been faithful and supportive towards her husband, despite what he’s done to her physically and emotionally. Compared to him she’s a saint. And I’m not saying this because she’s my friend, he’d actually been my friend before she ever was, so I’m not being bias.
A few weeks ago my friend told me she’d been planning to leave her husband because she was fed up with it all, and she’d come to have feelings for his friend and their neighbor. She told the neighbor how she felt and he felt the same way so she’d prepared to tell her husband she wanted a separation. She never did anything physically with the neighbor, they both wanted to wait until she’d left her husband.
A few days later, she and her husband had been arguing so she came over to my house to relax and get away from him until things calmed down. He ended up showing up at my place because he needed to get his credit cards from her, while he was waiting for her to get them out of her wallet, he took her phone saying, “I’ll take this with me too since you can’t answer it and I pay for it.” So she told him she wasn’t giving him his cards until he gave her the phone. He didn’t give her the phone and he left. In the phone were text messages she had sent the neighbor she’d fallen for that gave everything away, that gave away she’d wanted to leave her husband for him in particular. He saw the text messages and immediately showed back up at my house and began pounding on the door. At this point my friend knew he’d seen them and she was already upset and she told me not to let him in because he’d “beat the shit out of her.” So I didn’t, I told him through the door that I couldn’t let him in and I apologized but he’d have to handle this somewhere else (I have a 10 month old baby so I wouldn’t have let him in regardless for my child’s safety.)
Over the past few weeks they’ve been separated and been splitting time with their daughter pretty fairly. Until today, apparently. Her husband had been upset over an argument they got into earlier today so he came to their house (my friend had been staying at the house with their daughter while he stayed at his grandmother’s.) She and their daughter were taking a shower when he showed up, he came in the bathroom, “yanked” their daughter out of the shower, and left with her still naked, no diaper on or anything. Put her in his truck, locked the door and drove off nearly running my friend over on the way out.
Is there anything my friend can do? She’d filed for temporary custody but the paper work had not gone through.
A few minutes later my friend got a phone call from a deputy saying that her husband had called saying that she’d been abusing their daughter which is COMPLETELY untrue. Based on the kind of person he is, this is something her husband would do to make it harder for her to get their daughter back.
Also her husband is emotionally unstable, and I’m not sure HOW much it is, but he’s been involving himself in cocaine and various painkillers and marijuana.

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Should Parents Buy Their Son/Daughter An Alcoholic Drink When They’re 18 If They’re Mature For They’re Age?

  • Posted on July 30, 2010 at 2:18 am

my uncle was asking me about this, becuase he wanted to know if he should for his son.. should he?

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Should Parents Buy Their Son/Daughter An Alcoholic Drink When They’re 18 If They’re Mature For They’re Age?

  • Posted on January 15, 2010 at 10:06 am

my uncle was asking me about this, becuase he wanted to know if he should for his son.. should he?

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Learn And Be Guided About Social Anxiety

  • Posted on July 3, 2009 at 3:42 am

Have you experienced what it must be like meeting your big boss for the first time? The thought of being watched by your superior while working is stressful, isn’t it? Or, maybe you are so anxious to go to a beach party because you have not shed enough pounds to wear the two-piece swim suit (who knows how many years have them!), and you are so worried on what the people might say if you wear them with those excess baggage wrapping around your body? Those feelings are just normally. For as long as you have reasons to be anxious about anything, it is perfectly normal .But, if the anxiety is eating you up and you become anxious about what other people might say, or think, or do to you, which you know does not have rational basis, and the worst part is, you find it difficult to control your thought or emotion, that is social anxiety.

Social anxiety or social phobia is one of the largest mental health care problems in the word in the present day. A person with social anxiety simply spends time alone, closeted, away from people. They tend to choose to be alone than to be around with other people for fear that they might not fit in some ways or the other. Even when they are with familiar people, they may still feel overwhelmed and have the feeling that every movement and thought they made have been constantly watched or criticized. The feeling of being observed or being misjudged is one of the things that keep them away from people.

People with social anxiety are often misdiagnosed and are usually labeled as schizophrenic, manic-depressive, among other detrimental misdiagnoses. Because there few social anxious people have heard of their own condition and have never seen it discussed on any media, they tend to think that they’re alone in this world suffering from the disturbing symptoms. The tendency is they keep their condition to themselves for fear of being misjudged, and with the lack of info, education, and proper treatment social anxiety continues to impair their lives. In addition, when the time comes that people with social phobia finally gets to their feet and seeks help, the chances are very slim. When worst comes to worst, people who experienced this condition for a day, will have it everyday for the rest of hi/her life. They are people with social anxiety disorder.

One thing common to all socially anxious people is that they share the same knowledge that their thoughts and fears are basically irrational, which only means, they know exactly that the people they think are misjudging and criticizing them are not true at all. They acknowledged that their thoughts, doubts, and feelings are in a way exaggerated and irrational, yet, despite the fact that they know what’s really going on, they find it hard to control, and still continue to feel that way.

If there’s bad, there’s always good, and the good thing is that social anxiety is curable. There are many therapeutic methods which have been studied, but cognitive-behavioral therapy is the only modality that has been made known to work effectively. Actually, the treatment of social phobia through cognitive-behavioral methods has the capacity to produce long-term, permanent relief to sufferers of social phobia. Isn’t it a happy ending, after all?

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To Make Quantum Leaps in Your Life You have to do like Thomas Edison and Act on Your Goals

  • Posted on July 2, 2009 at 2:20 pm

Chances are you’ve read countless books and articles on how to improve yourself, professionally and personally. You may have even attended a self-improvement or business enhancement workshop or two. But if you’re like the majority of people, despite all this knowledge, your professional and personal life has not changed at all. What went wrong?

As with all things in your life, you have a choice to make. In this case your choice is clear: Are you going to apply what you’ve learned in pursuit of a better life or business, or are you going to file this knowledge away and stay in your comfort zone?

Realize that action is the key to making positive changes in your life. Without action, knowledge is lost. Inaction will not result in fulfillment. There is only one thing standing in the way of achieving all that’s possible: You! If you make the conscious choice to sit back and watch the world go by without ever making an attempt at achieving your goals, you will experience profound regret in your life.

Unfortunately, many people remain idle in the face of challenges and make the decision to stay put in a life of discontent—to remain in a job that brings them no satisfaction and to remain in a world of unhappiness. These people take a passive approach to life. When opportunities present themselves, these people don’t act. They’re not prepared. It’s one thing to know what to do; it’s something entirely different to put that information to good use and turn knowledge into action. If you don’t take the necessary action, you will be left watching opportunity after opportunity pass you by, wondering what might have been.

If you’re ready to take action and make some serious changes in your life, keep the following points in mind.

1. Don’t let fear hold you back.

You cannot let the fear of the unknown or the fear of failure prevent you from taking the necessary action to succeed. You must stick with your vision even when times get tough. Napoleon Hill, author of Think and Grow Rich (Hill 1987), put it beautifully. “There is no substitute for persistence! It cannot be supplanted by any other quality! … Those who have cultivated the habit of persistence seem to enjoy insurance against failure. No matter how many times they are defeated, they finally arrive near the top of the ladder.”

So do not go on believing that the path to success will be without obstacles and challenges. You will certainly have tough times. But don’t let any misconceptions lull you into inaction and eat away at your dreams. Know that all great accomplishments come despite hardship, not in its absence. You have to be aware and prepared, and you must match your vision with action.

2. Eliminate regrets.

The regret of never trying to make the most of your potential will far outweigh any bumps you will encounter along the way. There really is no limit to what you can do with your life. It is sometimes hard to imagine what you will not get out of life if you do not take action. That is a difficult concept for people to get their head around. However, when faced with the idea of finally taking action, many people quickly create a long list of what could wrong and why they should stay in their comfort zone. In fact, most people would never run out of reasons when asked to point out all of the reasons why they shouldn’t try to do something. Yet, the moment you ask them to create a vision for what they want out of life, they suddenly lose their creative prowess.

When it comes to their approach to life, too many people don’t think about what they are losing, because they never had it. This is a flawed way of thinking. You can be whatever you want to be. It is never too late or too early. And make no mistake, by choosing to sit idly by without taking responsibility for what happens in your life, you are giving up a tremendous amount. Just because you might not be able to touch it yet doesn’t make it any less real.

3. Look at your life in totality.

If you are looking for professional and personal fulfillment, you have to look at the whole picture, your daily life in totality. You will be unable to block off ten hours of your day for work and then expect to live the rest of each day in happiness, forgetting about work completely. Work is a part of life; therefore, to live a true life of fulfillment, you must make work part of the total equation. This does not mean you can’t lead a happy life if your job isn’t ideal. It simply means that you can absolutely make your job part of the larger vision for your life where work is exciting and anticipated instead of unfulfilling and dreaded.

So make the time to learn about yourself. Find your purpose. Put in the effort to create a specific vision. Develop the goals and the plan that will turn that vision into your reality. And most of all, take action. Don’t stop with a dream. Take the action that will truly define who you are. Separate yourself from those that only talk about things. You are unique, and you have unlimited potential. These gifts can only be offered to the world if you take action. You were meant to express yourself and contribute your talents. You will make yourself happy, and this will undoubtedly be radiated to those around you.

4. Incorporate more meaning into your life.

Everyone has moments of happiness that they experience. When you can add that extra element of meaning, you will take yourself to a higher level altogether. Think about your job. Have you ever found yourself asking, “Why am I doing this?” Well, if you are not really very interested in what you are doing, you will not truly care about your job, and it will show. But how do you behave when you are excited about something or truly care about the result? Do you act differently? You bet you do. You don’t even think about the time or effort you put into reaching your goal. You just do it. Period. No matter what.

Let’s say you are into woodworking. Is it a chore for you to build an addition to the back deck? Of course not. Why not? Because you love doing it. You are excited about planning it, getting the materials, and hey, you might even need to go to the hardware store and buy a new tool! These are not inconveniences; they are requirements, and you don’t mind a bit. Now what if you were then asked to build an addition to a wildlife rehabilitation clinic and you happened to have a passion for working with animals. Now you are talking about real fulfillment. The feeling associated with such a scenario is what you give up when you settle for a life of the mundane.

Take Action Today

You can discover your purpose, create a vision, and set your goals, but if it is not followed up by action, it is meaningless. Action is the critical component that leads you to a fulfilling life. As obvious as it might seem, taking action is the part of the equation that is most often overlooked. Nobody is going to do this for you.

There are three reasons why you need to picture the life of your dreams. One is to help clarify what it is you really want, two is to create your destination and the road map in getting there, and three is to make you realize just what you are giving up in choosing not to take action. This does not mean that the life you are currently living is any less valid than the life of anyone else. It simply means that you have the capability to make changes and create a life for yourself that is in keeping with your purpose.

Remember the words of Earl Nightingale, “Success is the progressive realization of a worthy ideal.” This is an ongoing process. It will take effort. Taking action is hard work, but it can be fun too. That is why it is so important to be involved in something that you believe in. Because if you feel as though you are working hard out of sheer necessity, and not by choice, you will understandably feel discouraged.

So make the decision to act. You will be glad you did.

Jan Peter Aursnes is the author of “Unlock Your Future: The Key to a Fulfilling Life,” a consultant and owner of Quantum Leaps Consulting, LLC. With a degree in management sciences from the University of Manchester, England, Jan Peter has 27 years experience in the corporate world mainly within the food and beverage industries.

His focus is on assisting people and companies in setting high goals – and reach them. Contact him at 561 868 1815 or visit http://www.quantumleapsconsulting.com

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