Here’s some background information: I’m 19, I have a 3 year old daughter, Helena, and yes, I still live with my parents. I’m in a very difficult situation and would greatly appreciate any advice.
My parents are very controlling and manipulative. They constantly ridicule me and my parenting skills (Well, I wonder where I learned my “poor” parenting skills from). I’m always being told to go back to school and get a job — this is absurd, my parents are very wealthy, and getting a job would, in no way, help my current situation. I did drop out of high school to care for my child, I realise education is very important, and I do plan to obtain my GED later in life, but right now my main priority is providing for my child.
Their main “problem” with me is that I would like to keep my social life alive. OCCASIONALLY, a few times a week, I’ll go out with friends, but first, let me say this — my mother constantly OFFERS (I do not beg) to watch my child, she does take care of her most of the time, but she wants to. It’s ridiculous that she would even bring this up as frequently as she does. Why should I not be allowed to go out every now and then? I can still be a teenage parent and have a good time. It’s not illegal. Now, I will admit, I can be a little reckless at time — I crashed their car. They were furious over this incident. And it’s idiotic because they loaned me the car, they said I could use it. I was also intoxicated at the time, but it’s not my fault I was raised poorly. There was also very little damage done to the car anyway, their behavior is so unjustified. This happened two months ago, by the way.
But, anyway, they’re now threatening to kick me out if I don’t find employment to pay for the damage. It’s infuriating because they’re so well-off. Why should I have to pay for their mistakes? I’m just so frustrated right now. I don’t know what to do. I can’t get a job — I don’t have a high school diploma! What are they thinking? I refuse to lower myself to a retail employee, or God forbid, fast food. My ex-boyfriend, who my parents never approved of (yet they made no effort to prevent our relationship, so technically the pregnancy is their fault), is out of the picture, so don’t suggest I rely on him for assistance.
I really need advice. I feel so stuck. I have no relatives or friends I can stay with — nothing. What should I do?
